Do I Look, or Could I Pass, as Female? 2.0

[RobinGee]

Just in case anyone cares.  Yes, the weight is coming off slowly and is the best thing I can do.  I'm 6'3, 411 lbs.  that's down from 435 in November.

[Danniella]

Danniella - You are very luck to have someone like that in your life. I am sure her fashion savy will be more than invaluable over the next couple of years till you develop your own style... then it might be annoying

Indeeeeed, I shall have to monitor her closely...I SHALL NOT BE YOUR DRESS UP DOLL FOREVER SISTER! -shakes fist-

My Wife is not a girly girl, so she has no interest in makeup, jewelry, and little interest in clothes. I am working on developing my own style, but it is hard with 33 years guy mode under my belt. I too have never had an interest in men's clothing (I always wore the same styles, just refreshing the wardrobe every few years), but when it comes to women's clothes the sky is the limit. The hard part for me is I see clothes that I love, but never know if it will actually look good on my frame.

There is definitely a market for Trans-friendly clothes

Alyssa

Ah that's a shame, my wife and I were together for 10 years and she was quite a girly girl, so I used to enjoy going shopping with her, picking out clothes/make up etc, and I always loved watching her get ready in the mornings...at the time she used to say "It's so great that I can do all these things with you that normal guys would just get bored with or just leave me alone for!" Ofc in hind sight it's like ... "Ooooooooh...now I get it" and suddenly it's a baaaaaaaad thing...suddenly it makes her uncoooomfortable...stupid relationships >.>

Aaaaaanyway, at least all that time watching/helping her gave me a pretty good head start on things, I already knew how to pick clothes for my body shape and do make-up before I even knew I was trans xD

I put together the outfit in those pictures and was very pleased with it (and the reactions it got) ^^

Allot of science went into that getup >.>

[Alaia]

So I figured this would be a good follow up to the guy mode pictures I posted Friday. I had some time alone over the weekend and wanted to see how well I could style my hair now that it is getting longer. I struggled with it as it was my first time curling my hair, but the results were much better than I expected:





And the duckface... sorry, couldn't resist



Now it's just the waiting game for HRT to add to my curves in addition to toning my shoulder and arm muscles down

[Danniella]

Is it weird that one of my fantasies is to be someone dress up doll?

No weirder than some of the other fantasies I have encountered in my time xD

Other than lipstick I cannot ever remember watching my wife put on any makeup. She also is not a big fan of shopping (more then get in, get out approach). She has approved (and disapproved) some of my outfits, but for the most part I go it alone. One of the hardest parts about this process is that I have such a muted style as a guy that it carries over to my girl outfits. I tend to avoid anything "flamboyant", but in my mind that is like 90% of the clothes out there. Social programming I guess. I hope to overcome this as time goes on.

If you are wanting to spice up fairly muted outfits etc I would highly recommend accessories!

The outfit I am wearing in those pictures is almost all black, basic clothing, bar the red scarf, that I used to accentuate the waist, and the gold jewelry, to draw the eye from the shoulders towards the waist/hip.

Having a good base of fairly "plain" clothing is a great place to start with, that way you can completely change an outfit just by how you choose to dress it up/down or add splashes of colour.

Give it a try! You can go into any random highstreet store and get a bunch of costume jewelry to experiment with very cheaply, you don't even need to worry about sizes or cuts for once And even if something does not work, at least you haven't wasted lots on an expensive top etc, and it can still potentially work with another outfit in the future.

I also love that you can always afford to treat yourself to a wee piece of cheap statement jewelry or scarf etc, that is used correctly, can easily change an outfit entirely. For those months where money is tight

I am sorry to hear about your marriage. Do you have any children together?

To be honest, I do not know if mine will survive the process, but I am hopeful. Unfortunately, like you, it is something I need for myself. I hate how selfish it makes me feel at times, but I know it is the good kind of selfish, if there is such a thing.

Alyssa

Alas no children unfortunately...I am sterile Even before I started HRT. But as much as it sucks, at least it has made the separation easier in that regard.

We broke up because she was lying to me really. She was saying "I still love you. We will stay together, we can work this out etc etc"...all the while she was seeing other men behind my back and planning her get out strategy. When I found out (via knowing something was up, she was a terrible liar, hacking her accounts, much to my shame, and discovering that she was involved with online sex rings) she acted like it was the most normal thing in the world, even going so far as to say to me multiple times that she had "done nothing wrong" and that I was the one who had "Lied to her my whole life"...

It was pretty brutal, and completely ruined me mentally...hence my suiciiiiiiide attempt

-shrug-

I didn't realize it at the time, but I know now that I deserve better than that, hence why it's over and I am moving on...even if she does suddenly still want me in her life and to be "friends" and everything...

Anyway I'm getting sidetracked...with all my baggage...sorry ^^;

Hopefully you can have more luck <3

[thevaliantx]

Long ago when I first began to realize that I was not a "guy" I began by painting my nails with clear nail polish and I even was wearing black eyeliner to give my blonde eye brows some color.  One time I forgot about having this stuff on and when I was out in public and realized this I quickly ran to the nearest restroom.  This can be rather inconvenient when you are going for job interviews

[Shantel]

So I figured this would be a good follow up to the guy mode pictures I posted Friday. I had some time alone over the weekend and wanted to see how well I could style my hair now that it is getting longer. I struggled with it as it was my first time curling my hair, but the results were much better than I expected:

And the duckface... sorry, couldn't resist



Now it's just the waiting game for HRT to add to my curves in addition to toning my shoulder and arm muscles down

You're pretty darned cute, you're going to do great! Resist the forehead frown or it will be permanent and you'll be doing a lot of botox. Looking really good though lady, love the duckface!

[Natalia]

Hi! ^^

Not exactly a "Do I look as a female", but more like "do this makes me look more female?"

I just felt the need to ask for a pingent to be made in homage for my fathers. I decided for a stainless stell with photography graved on it.

Now I can have my mother and father forever very close to my heart 

I asked for a very delicate gold chain...this is the first necklace I wear, ever!

Is it looking feminine? I hope so 

But is it perhaps too feminine to be worn everyday, even on boy mode?



PS: ignore the huge beard...I had today my second IPL session and I had to grow a 3-day beard... so I was unshaved for that long.

[Felicity]

As I posted on another topic...I finaly bought a wig and female clothes...so...how bad am I? Can I pass at least a bit?

Please, sincere opinions...I already know about my nose and the need of FFS, that will probably be afforded by my grandparents....they accepetd me after all...

I would like opinions about the hairstyle and other things I can change.



I am so depressed because I lost my mother...and I decided to let Natalia out and try to be free...it's beem so hard, but at the same time I felt good being myself.

Natalia, you are becoming quite the woman. You posses a lot of woman features and HRT will definitely assist you. I would let the HRT do its thing before considering FFS, you already have a really good bone structure. Wigs can be iffy and requires many selections. It can become quite the expense but it's worth investing in other style wigs to best frame your face.

[barbie]

Hi! ^^

Not exactly a "Do I look as a female", but more like "do this makes me look more female?"

I just felt the need to ask for a pingent to be made in homage for my fathers. I decided for a stainless stell with photography graved on it.

Now I can have my mother and father forever very close to my heart 

I asked for a very delicate gold chain...this is the first necklace I wear, ever!

Is it looking feminine? I hope so 

But is it perhaps too feminine to be worn everyday, even on boy mode?



PS: ignore the huge beard...I had today my second IPL session and I had to grow a 3-day beard... so I was unshaved for that long.

Yes. You have very feminine jaw line. Laser will greatly enhance it.

barbie~~

[Danniella]

So what you are saying is my fantasy is tied for weirdest you have encountered... well that is somewhat encouraging

Not for my sanity maybe...

Thanks for the advice. I feel like I just cant wrap my head around the whole fashion thing yet though... I am one of those people who needs to learn the fundamentals of something before I can move forward. I think I need to start excessively reading style magazines.

I'm not really a big fan of style magazines to be honest, they are generally 50% advertisements, and then 50% articles pointing you towards said advertisements

They are all about just selling products and keeping the industry going.

In addition, they are generally all about telling you what is "in season" or "in vogue". But oft times what is currently fashionable is not necessarily what will look good on you at all. If exposed shoulders and low rider jeans are "in" this season, all the style magazines will tell you to go buy them, so you "fit in" and "look hot this summer"...when in fact that type of clothing may always simply look terrible on you, just because of body shape or skin tone or whatever!

I have found that just general internet research into things like dressing for your bodyshape or how to mix materials works as the best starting point, take the core lessons from there and then move on to more specific areas you are interested in Search for more specific solutions/guides for random things that pop into your head, like "How to wear a scarf" or "Tips for stylish shot hair" etc.

This works best. That way you can find nice sites/guides etc and figure out what clothing/cut rules you should apply to YOU...rather than just taking for granted what some magazine editor says is the in thing for skinny blonde girls in their early 20s

Fashion is much simpler than people like to give the impression. Don't be intimidated by it!

That's a rough story, I am sorry you had to go through that kind of pain. I had a similar issue with my high school sweetheart. I could tell something was wrong so I hacked her email and found out she was sleeping with her ex. I was not proud of what I did, but I am glad I did it. Needless to say that relationship ended quickly after that point.

I hope my wife and I can defy the odds and make it. If we can't, then I hope that she and I can at least be friends for my sons sake.

Alyssa

I wish you the best of luck It would be a beautiful and special thing if you manage to make it. It didn't work out for me and my wife, but that does not mean that others cant do it <3

[Natalia]

Natalia, you are becoming quite the woman. You posses a lot of woman features and HRT will definitely assist you. I would let the HRT do its thing before considering FFS, you already have a really good bone structure. Wigs can be iffy and requires many selections. It can become quite the expense but it's worth investing in other style wigs to best frame your face.

Hahaha thank you ^^

Is this wig too bad? I tried a few ones and some with bangs, but they ended giving a strange shape to my face...this one needs to be trimmed and better styled yet, but I really liked it 

I accept any sugestions. I can only purchase non-natural wigs, but some can look very good.

Yes. You have very feminine jaw line. Laser will greatly enhance it.

barbie~~

Thank you Barbie ^^ I am just afraid of getting out in boy mode with a piece of jewelry that looks really feminine as this necklace (my opinion)...but I am curious about the faces I will get on the streets!

[Natalia]

hmmm a few more (the same I posted on another topic) but I appreaciate sincere comments, as always 

Pratically no make-up, a cheap wig that I'm not sure if it fits well my face and some feminine clothes...

How bad is it this time?

[Marieee]

hmmm a few more (the same I posted on another topic) but I appreaciate sincere comments, as always 

Pratically no make-up, a cheap wig that I'm not sure if it fits well my face and some feminine clothes...

How bad is it this time?

Bad? Natalia you look great! Every new picture you post just looks better and better. You have a very cute face too! Great progress girl!

[Handy]

hmmm a few more (the same I posted on another topic) but I appreaciate sincere comments, as always 

Pratically no make-up, a cheap wig that I'm not sure if it fits well my face and some feminine clothes...

How bad is it this time?

How bad? Are you kidding? You look fantastic! I wouldn't question you for a second

[Jessica Merriman]

hmmm a few more (the same I posted on another topic) but I appreaciate sincere comments, as always 

Pratically no make-up, a cheap wig that I'm not sure if it fits well my face and some feminine clothes...

How bad is it this time?

I love your new look! Like Mariee said, every picture is better. Go girl!

[Jessica Merriman]

Hello,
       so I'd love to post my pictures here but I have very little experience with forums and I don't really know how to go about attaching pictures to my post... if anyone could give me a hint I would appreciate.
       In any case, you can at least see my avatar picture. This is me on one of my 1st cross dressing experience a couple months ago with nothing more than make up and a 60$ wig (I know... the very dim lighting really helps too . I felt so good about myself that night that I realized I might be more than a cross dresser... I'm actually seeing a therapist for the 1st time next week
Cheers,
Chloe

First attempt? No way! You look so good AND relaxed. Sweetie, you will be just fine!

[Jamiep]

Hi Valfreyja,

You can search for free pic & video storage sites, I use Photobucket (free). Open an account, create an album, upload a pic. In the forum post you can then copy the url link from the storage site & paste into your forum post. You look pretty.

Congrats on your inquiring mind sensing you should see a gender therapist, good luck.

Jamie

[Valfreyja]

Thanks for the compliments and the "how to" Jessica and Jamie ! Much appreciated.

[Allyda]

hmmm a few more (the same I posted on another topic) but I appreaciate sincere comments, as always 

Pratically no make-up, a cheap wig that I'm not sure if it fits well my face and some feminine clothes...

How bad is it this time?

Sorry girls I gotta say it. Lose that wig Natalia. The other one in your other photo's looks much better. This one makes you look like an aging rock star from the 80's, -no pun intended. Hey you wanted the truth.

[Natalia]

@ Jessica, Handy & Mariee: Thank you very much for your kind words ^^ I'm glad to know that I'm looking better, but still I feel I can't pass...this is indeed my biggest fear.

Sorry girls I gotta say it. Lose that wig Natalia. The other one in your other photo's looks much better. This one makes you look like an aging rock star from the 80's, -no pun intended. Hey you wanted the truth.

Thank you for the opinion Allyda! ^^

Am I looking like some aging Siouxsie Sioux lol? that would be a compliment if we were on the 80's (I love her style!)



But which other wig are you referring to? The blonde? That was really good, but it was a virtual wig 

I can try putting this same wig on different ways and it can give me different results. It can be parted on the middle or I can try to part it on the sides...I don't know if any of them looks good (or if they are looking exactly the same  ).

--> virtual make-up

Or...I can also try to ask for a hairstylist to cut it...perhaps should be better than buy another wig...but I really would like to save this one. I felt so embarassed when I went to the store, asked for a female wig and tried it on male mode in front of a lot of women  I don't know if I want to repeat this again so soon lol

Can this wig be saved? I accept any sugestions