My spouse is at the very initial stages of transition, but is ready to move forward as quickly as circumstances will allow. We now have to make a decision about a job offer in the next day or so.
Would you think someone is likely to have more success transitioning at a place where they have a long history and excellent reviews, but is not necessarily a place with the most liberal and accepting of views (think Catholic health institution), OR transitioning at a *new* job where "gender identity" is included in their non-discrimination policy, but would be working with children and public opinion can be a big deal. The new co-workers would first meet my spouse in their assigned birth gender (looking as androgynous as possible), but soon after the 45 day new-hire probationary period is up, my spouse would seek to transition. We thought about talking to H.R. before accepting the job, about starting on day one in their correct gender...but others have advised against this, until the probationary period is passed. One of the managers at the new job is best friends with one of the managers at the current job, so we are afraid of information spreading at the wrong time, and ending up with no job if we let them know too soon.
Which do you think would be the most likely option to work out? Any tips or thought are much appreciated!
