Aww hunni
*hugs*If you're profile pic is anything to go by, I certainly wouldn't say you're ugly
We all (human beings generally, I mean) judge ourselves rather harshly, especially when things like this happen that seem to reinforce our doubts and fears.
Am I right in thinking your transition / coming out has been rather recent? If so then your friends may well just need time to adjust. I mean, it's surely quite a paradigm shift when someone who they believed was "one of the guys" now turns out to be "one of the girls". It'd be a wonderful world if people could take a perceived shift like that and just say "oh you're a girl now? cool.", but of course that isn't the world we live in. Remember that 90% of a person's opinion of another human being is made up within the first 2 minutes of meeting them, so if they've known you as a guy, then that's going to be a perception that's hard to break for them. I'm not saying it's either right or ideal, but it is at least understandable at least on some level.
It's going to be even harder too for any of them who have found themselves attracted to you even slightly. I'm not saying any of them are (obviously - I don't even know them lol), but *IF* any of them are, it's going to be weird for them to find their (assumedly?) hetrosexual selves suddenly attracted to someone they believed to be a guy until recently. To them, the mere idea of that would throw their sexuality (and thus their masculinity, because most guys associate being attracted to girls with "being a man", even though you and I know that isn't strictly correct) into question, and that would almost certainly scare them.
..ugh, I'm sorry hunni, I'm probably not being much help here
I guess the point I'm trying to drive at here is - take a step back and try and see the situation from their perspective. Try and understand how they are feeling about your "change" (I know it isn't really a change to you because you've had this inside all your life, but from their perspective it is), and then use that to try and help them understand more fully what's going on with you, what it means for your friendships etc and (fingers crossed) eventually they will come to your level, incorporate this new information and accept your new identity within the group. It will take time and work on your part and theirs, but if they are friends worth having then it will happen eventually
As for the rest of the world, that one is easy: stop
*thinking* you are female, and start
*knowing* you're female. If you go into a place thinking "I hope nobody looks at me and thinks I'm a guy in a dress", then everyone will see those insecurities leaking out by the way you carry yourself and will probably avoid you (except the creepy guys who think "oh good an easy target"
). Instead, go in with the mindset that you've already won. Go in with the thoughts in your head that you're the hottest girl in the place and that every guy wants you. It doesn't have to be true, you just have to believe it yourself. When you do, you'll automatically carry yourself accordingly, and people
*will* take notice. Confidence is (in my world experience at least) the number one factor of attraction, and if you start with a moderate dose of confidence, you'll notice you'll get more of the right kind of attention, which will start to actually make you more confident. It's self-reinforcing really
Obviously this will help with your issues with your friends too
I'm not sure how much help I've been gal but *HOPEFULLY* you find something useful in my scatty ramblings!
Hugs and kisses hun, and whatever happens - you're still a beautiful young woman to all of us
*hugs* xXxXx
