I am basically 90% stealth...but can anyone that was born a different gender really say they are 100%?? Your parents and siblings will at least know....and no one can keep a secret that well!!
I have transitioned where I live and have children therefore I cannot be 99% stealth. Doctors, teachers, relatives, pastor and some past friends know....but even though so many know I still am fairly stealth. Where I work I am completely stealth...but in this world of technology I wonder if I really am!
Even people that know about me such as teachers I still am stealth since they don't remember that I have told them or that I haven't...I am assumed to be my children's mother but I don't tell them I am, I say I am my child's parent. they still assume I am my children's mother....at times it is difficult since my children do not want to refer to me as m their mother, they have one! there are many times my children go "with the flow" .
Like today, we volunteered for a Special Olympics bowing event, at some time during the event my youngest was treating me rudely (nothing new!!) the young girl also volunteering asked if I was his mother...he said yes...she then told him he should treat me better. She then joked with him and said her mother always told her "I brought you in this world, I can take you out" It got a bit awkward for him and me. I later did joked with him about what was said, but also wanted to make sure he knew its not something I can avoid with out telling my whole story. He understands...but I do feel really bad for my children when this happens.
I live in a fairly small community and run into people that once new me before, but rarely does anyone remember me. This helps in being stealth but also makes for a lonely life, since I do not talk with anyone that new me before.
I don't like to refer to myself as stealth, I like to feel that I am just another women. I do realize though who I once was so therefore I have no choice but describe my life as stealth. But things like todays event just remind me of the fact that I am not trying to fool anyone I am just me. There are also times that remind me of how much I missed learning growing up as a women. today was also one of them. I have had numerous affirmations of being a women for the past 3 years but today came a few new ones. One was admiring a new mothers 16 day (yes day) new born, she described much of what I was familiar with (I have 3 boys) but nothing I was intimately familiar with, I don't feel awkward...just wish I could relate better. I ended up ejecting myself from the conversation earlier than I would of like too!
In saying all this....stealth does have its advantages but also comes with regret when there is so much of a normal childhood most genetic girls share. Sure I can get by and make small talk and even relate well, but its not the same when you can't relate the feelings the same.
