Lying. Curious about your opinions?

[LordKAT]

I never told my kids the Santa story other than some kids believe it. Sharing your trans status with someone you value, if you feel safer doing so, makes sense.

[Bimmer Guy]

I'm curious to know if there is anyone here who is currently in (or has been in), a long term relationship where their partner does not (did not), know?  If so, how long was the relationship?   

Alternatively, is there anyone here who has known someone who has been successful in keeping this from their partner long term?

I would be curious to know what that experience was like.

[Simon]

I've always disclosed to a potential long term girlfriend. Even if I was post all of my surgeries I would still disclose. It would take too much energy and stress to try to hide this for the rest of your life if the person ended up being your lifelong partner. It would be about impossible to hide unless you said you had no family (a kid who was never adopted and aged out of the system?). It would just be too much effort. I'd rather disclose and face possible rejection then move on if they couldn't handle it.

Imagine loving someone for years, they didn't know, you walk in when they're watching a talk show with transsexuals, and you hear them say "Look at this...aren't they disgusting?". That would be a nightmare.