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Started by kaylagirl0806, January 30, 2014, 10:53:11 PM

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Kyra553

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on February 01, 2014, 11:24:20 AM
How would you recommend finding someone like that? I just want to feel loved and taken care of. What do you mean cropped up?

I wish I had that answer. My best guess is to be honest and true. Maybe someone else will be as well.

Hmm I have more Kansas in my talk than I realize. Cropped up refers to a plant suddenly growing out of the ground in front of you. Be it for good or worse.
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kaylagirl0806

You live in Kansas? I live in Missouri! I still miss her, just the same. I really need to connect with Kayla i.e. my inner girl more, but my parents are kinda unsupportive
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King Malachite

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on February 01, 2014, 11:11:15 AM
Broken glass is a bit extreme. Thank you so much for encouraging me Natallie. I wish I didn't have to deal with school drama either but I'm in high school so I really can't get away from it....
Love,
Kayla

My advice to you is honestly don't date until you are out of high school and in college if you decide to go.  There's just too much drama in high school to deal with relationships.  I say just focus on your studies for now and wait for some of those students to mature.  It can be hard to find mature, college-aged partners, let alone people in high school.  It may be hard, but it may pay off in the future to do that.  Focusing on inner Kalya right now the best way you know how in your situation would be best. 
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Kyra553

Well hello neighbor ^^. Girl its not easy, ever... There is much loss as I'm discovering each day. But this path is about you and who you are. Your at an advantage right now for your change and if its what you truly want then push hard for it. The longer you wait after age 12 the less the magic will work. I fought myself from a early age about this and I regret suppressing it until now. I'm only 22 and I think life would already be less depressing and more me if I had made it known around age 15. Its ultimately your choice and your life. But for me I dont want these same regrets if I wait until age 30,or further.  I'm at the end of the prime time for HRT to work completely. Your in the green zone and the best results will happen now. Its your choice and only you can make it.

My parents completely despise my devil like self for wanting to be woman. I'm bombed with many bible quotes every time I speak of my thoughts. So you and I still have the chance to keep our families if we play our cards right. This change will happened with or without them for me. I can only pray they will be as loving as they have always promised before.
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kaylagirl0806

I'll be here for you Natallie, if you'll be there for me
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Kyra553

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on February 01, 2014, 11:52:07 AM
I'll be here for you Natallie, if you'll be there for me

I pinky swear  :) , contact me anytime you wish. I enjoy speaking with people. ;)
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ana

Gosh ! I am so sorry to hear about all the break-ups and my heart goes out to everyone...its soo sad, but there is hope and courage from living our lives and being true to ourselves, which trumps everything else.
I'm sure it will get better and you may even find someone that accepts and loves you for who you really are. That alone is so exciting !

Many hugs
xxxx 
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.... Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
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kaylagirl0806

So exciting Ana. Thank you
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kaylagirl0806

I did PM you Natallie :) If that's ok....
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LivingTheDream

Sounds like what happened to me a few months ago. I started helping out this girl I have worked with for awhile (giving drivers lessons because no one else would), started to get to know her, and developed a little crush on her. One day shortly after, I finally got the courage to ask her out (kinda lol, I did such a terrible job at it, was so awkward....). At first she said no, sort of, then a few hours later, texted me back and said I thought about it and would like to try. So I continued to help her as I was before and date as well now. I really liked her and I was always there for her. She would send me text messages every day, all throughout the day, and we would talk at night until she fell asleep.

One day she sort of annoyed me; she went to her mom's house for a bit, and couldn't get back home (stays with her dad). She had school the next morning so she asked me to pick her up and take her home. I did pick her up, but I was a bit mad about it, because her mom's house is like 20 miles away from where we both live. Afterwards, she texted me asking me if everything's all right between us, cuz I seemed a bit mad when I picked her up, and I admitted I was a bit annoyed about it and I apologized for it. We set something up for the next day before she fell asleep.

The next day I called her and she said something came up and that she'll talk to me in a little bit. I was sleepy so I said ok, I'll take a little nap, call me later. An hour or so later I hear my phone beeping, had a text from her. I read it and it said, things not working out, I think we'd be better as friends. I ended up going back to sleep, I was really depressed and heartbroken. I texted her back later on, asking if we could talk about things, and got a similar response. I wanted to try to fix things, see what went wrong, see if things could be ok, but she stopped replying.

Anyways, I still see her one day a week at work, and things are still weird between us. At first, she wouldn't even talk at all to me, but over time we started talking again a bit. Now she acts like we're friends at work, but otherwise, we barely talk anymore. Never did find out what happened between us yet either.

I knew going into it that we both had issues though; she's kind of "slow" and I have many issues as well. Having spent time with her tho, and getting to know her a bit, I figured maybe we could work around things. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise, who knows? Looking back, and maybe even during our relationship, I had a feeling that she wasn't all that into me; I just ignored it.

The right person is out there kayla, you just got to sort through the garbage to find them. Breaking up sucks but it gets better over time. You're still really young and you've got plenty of time ahead of you to find the right one.

-Kelly
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kaylagirl0806

Wow Livingthedream that sounds so much like my situation. I really do feel that she liked me though :-\ It was really weird how it all played out
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LivingTheDream

Ya, I feel like she likes me too, in some way. We still talk at work but I'm trying to back away from that slowly, because it still hurts and I'm still upset with her. Still, seems to me like she sort of used me tho. That's what hurts the most.
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kaylagirl0806

Yeah, I totally get how you feel :icon_shakefist: This honestly isn't the worst relationship I've been in. It's been one of the best
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Charlie Nicki

Quote from: Oriah on January 31, 2014, 02:10:13 PM
It gets better......that's all I can say.

A few years ago, my girlfriend of three years broke up with me...not ten seconds after I told her I wanted to transition....I never thought I'd find another like her.....and I was right......

It took me a year to get past her, but eventually I found someone else, someone much more supporting and loving....now we have a kid and a farm and are happier than we've ever been.

The previous girlfriend wasn't a good person for me, despite the good times we had......but I couldn't find someone right for me without loving myself, and I couldn't love myself without transitioning.  Transition is the road to something better.....if you let it be
Your story gives me hope. I really really hope I get a happy ending like yours.
Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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Northern Star Girl

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on June 25, 2018, 08:05:50 PM
Your story gives me hope. I really really hope I get a happy ending like yours.

@Charlie Nicki:
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Jessica

Quote from: Charlie Nicki on June 25, 2018, 08:05:50 PM
Your story gives me hope. I really really hope I get a happy ending like yours.

@Charlie Nicki

Someday your true love will be right it front of you.  I know of two ladies here that met after being alone and are truly happy now.  Love has a funny way of finding participants!

Hugs and smiles, Jess
Your a dear friend from day one!

"If you go out looking for friends, you are going to find they are very scarce.  If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere."


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Charlie Nicki

Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on June 25, 2018, 08:13:49 PM

@Charlie Nicki:
  This is for you.
   
          Most of the important things in the world
          have been accomplished by people who have
          kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
                                   -Dale Carnegie


Love ya girl,
Hugs,
Danielle

Thanks Danielle, yes hope is all we have.
Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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Charlie Nicki

Quote from: Jessica on June 25, 2018, 08:21:54 PM
@Charlie Nicki

Someday your true love will be right it front of you.  I know of two ladies here that met after being alone and are truly happy now.  Love has a funny way of finding participants!

Hugs and smiles, Jess
Your a dear friend from day one!
Jess, you're a great friend. Sending you hugs.
Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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Maria77

To Everyone in this thread who is feeling heartbreak, please keep in mind that in each relationship, we learn a little about ourselves and the qualities we need in a partner.  That said, I know how it hurt all too well.
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