Telling him your TS

[stephaniec]

I guess I'm coming from a different place. I made the decision  to transition to the opposite sex ,if totally up to you how you want that decision to play out, I just feel that I can't hide who I am, I hid for a long time as a pretend male I just let things play out naturally. I won't hide any more. Of course there's only a problem of hiding if it's not obvious.

[Bimmer Guy]

But that seems to be the easiest way to meet men, through mutual friends. I met this guy at a party a good friend of mine was having. Your right though, I am definitely setting myself up for outing if things don't go well and the prospect of that occuring keeps playing out in my head making me feel nervous and anxious.

<poking my head in>

I agree with Yasmine.  The risk of your new group of friends finding out just isn't worth it.  I certainly wouldn't risk it for "Mr. Right Now".  I think you should only date outside the group/outside of the people you meet via this group.  If you want to remain stealth, I don't see how you have any other option.

[Madison (kiara jamie)]

Well, you could always meet up with him. You don't have to do or say anything. Maybe at some point you can test the waters a bit. For 'instant fun' I'd hook up with someone else though. Someone you can be open to right away. Someone from another city hehe.

like me..bahaha it had to be said

[missy1992]

<poking my head in>

I agree with Yasmine.  The risk of your new group of friends finding out just isn't worth it.  I certainly wouldn't risk it for "Mr. Right Now".  I think you should only date outside the group/outside of the people you meet via this group.  If you want to remain stealth, I don't see how you have any other option.

That makes sense, if staying stealth is the end all and be all of it all.

I should say that right now I am in stealth however not 100% as I think such a thing is impossible. For one, I still live in the same city I was born in. In class today, I saw a boy I knew from highschool pre transition. We made eye contact in the hall and exchanged a smile. He knows who I am, and had me on Facebook. What would prevent someone like him from telling other people in the class I take with him about my past?

It sounds like I want my cake and to eat it too, doesn't it? Should I risk it for the biscuit? What if what if oh what if...

[missy1992]

Well... things didn't work out unfortunately

[Tristan]

My rule of thumb is for booty calls I don't tell. That's the whole point of a booty call haha. But for those I see a relationship with I tell when the time is right. Like when they ask if I have any secrets. Then I tell them. That's normally not for a while though