Here's a trick that might help. True story ...
A cis-woman I know, about 5'7" tall, was slim and seriously cute in her twenties. Then she started putting on weight through her 30s and early 40s until she became this chubby, sexless lump. She knew she had to get a grip and deal with her weight issues, but she didn't know what to do and lacked the confidence to believe she could actually succeed at losing weight.
A while later she met up with her sister - who knew all about her problems - for a regular lunch date. But instead of going to a restaurant, her sister said, 'Come with me,' and took her to the nearest supermarket.
Outside the supermarket, my friend's sister picked out the largest trolley she could find, then she took my friend to the aisle where they had blocks of cooking fat. The sister filled the trolley to the brim with blocks of fat - more than 50lbs of it. Then she said, 'Look at that fat. That's how much you're carrying around with you, everywhere you go.'
My friend was blown away by the image of all that fat, piled up in the trolley. It made her understand what she'd been doing to herself. She started dieting and exercising the next day. She didn't go crazy, just cut down her food intake, bit by bit, and gradually increased her exercise. At first she didn't even go to the gym, or try to run. She just walked instead of taking the car, used stairs instead of elevators, got a dog that had to be walked every day. Once she'd reached a better standard of health and fitness, she got more intense about calorie restriction and fat-burning exercise. But she took her time over the whole process.
A year later she was wearing UK Size 10 dresses (US Size

and looked as good as she'd done when I first knew her, 20 years earlier. And she's never gone back to being overweight.
So it can be done ... but first you need a supermarket, a trolley, and a LOT of cooking fat!