Hey op,
It seems you are on the path to self discovery which is always a good thing. These things can be confusing and it's good that you are thinking about this before taking action. My only opinion I have to provide is that I agree with the advice other have shared above. One thing I do want to say is that it may be an awful mistake to change your gender to match sexual orientation if there is nothing else to it. That's why I think it's important to look inward and find who you are and what you want out of life.
Now, as someone who identifies as a straight women, I can understand some of what you say. Personally, I've always been attracted to men and have found the idea of intimacy appealing regardless of my appearance. To me, I'm mearly a women on the inside that happens to like men. What's on my outside doesn't change my internal feelings. That being said, I have many hang ups that make intimacy/dating very difficult. It's hard to explain but I have a lot of insecurities about my body and would feel scared about how someone might react to it. If I met the right guy who understood me that I feel comfortable with, and didn't care about my "area" or feel that I'm unattractive because I'm trans, I think I would feel fine, but that doesn't sound like an easy find. Because I'm pre-op transexual who is still in the middle of her transition, I do worry that guys won't like me or understand who I am which makes me sad. Had I been born differently, it wouldn't be a problem. So, I can understand how you may feel uncomfortable with having a male appearance/presentation and how that may ruin how you experience your orientation. Appearances can help us with our own inner confidence or makes us feel more uncomfortable if we are unhappy with it. Therefore, I can understand how appearances can play a role in how comfortable we are with intimacy/dating as that is very natural concern, but I don't see how it define or alter or sexual orientation if that's what you meant.
In any case, there is nothing wrong with what you are feeling. The only thing I would say is that you should try to separate the sexuality portion to ensure your gender dysphoria goes beyond it. Like how would you wish you could live your daily life? How do you want people to see you as a human? What do you want out of life? Who are you on the inside? Hopefully that should get you somewhere.
And lastly, no matter what your gender identity or sexuality happens to be, it's allright to be you. It's okay to be gay, bi, straight just like it's okay to be transgender or cisgender. Just make sure you are following your heart and find inner peace. We all deserve happiness and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.
Good luck on your journey!
