Quote from: Aisla on August 16, 2014, 05:41:36 PM
Alyda
This sort of ongoing treatment from a mother is unacceptable. Have you, respectfully or otherwise, pushed back? Does she know she is hurting you and driving you both apart? Does she care?
How invested in, or how necessary, is this relationship? Given everything else that you have to deal with, do you need this in your life?
Sorry about the rant, but your post really annoyed me. I should have learned by now not to comment or even try to understand another's relationships.
Be well. I am sorry if I was out of line.
Safe travels
No, no not in any way are you out of line, and I really appreciate your concern. Her letter really annoyed me too. This past Christmas, when she sent things they were woman's things. Which was a big change for her. So I was hoping that finally after all these years she'd come around. I lost my biological Mom who never pushed gender issues with me, when I was six. I was adopted after a year and a half of floating from family to family out on the rez, when I was 7 & 1/2 nearly 8.
Many of us long for a supportive mother, and a mother/daughter relationship. There were times when she and I were close, but not many. To answer your question, the relationship is more of a want, or longing for it rather than being absolutely necessary. And I've done without it this long. She'll be 80 this coming December and isn't in the greatest health, and won't be around much longer. I guess I'm just hoping for something that can never be.
Again, thanks Aisla very much for your concern. I welcome your advice and opinion. In fact, what my adopted mom ad I have now, just sending letters back and forth, can be carried out long distance. Which is why after my SRS and I'm healed enough, I'll be making a change. I'm moving back out west where I'm from, and I'm much happier. Something I should have done long ago.
Ali
