Is it just me?

[Kade1985]

I actually haven't had that sort of question. O_o though mostly because the only people who really know (and its a lot of people) already know I like women so they don't ask about that. I usually get the genital question first and it's like -facedesk-

[Gina Taylor]

Sweetie I am just starting down this path. It was only a few months back I hit the wall. Thanks to a very good therapist I am just now coming to terms with something I have had to deal with for 40+ years. I was a total train wreck... LOL Never the less, thank you for your kind words, they do not fall on deaf ears. (or in this case eyes) 

Veronica, I've read that you feel really comfortable with your therapist, and I am so happy for you. I've been with mine for a year now, and yes I feel very comfortable with him as well, and I've discussed this with him, and he fully understands that at least with the way that I explain it to him is that when I'm with a man, I never think of it as a 'gay' relationship. Because like I said before, I am the woman and he is the man.

[Veronica M]

Veronica, I've read that you feel really comfortable with your therapist, and I am so happy for you. I've been with mine for a year now, and yes I feel very comfortable with him as well, and I've discussed this with him, and he fully understands that at least with the way that I explain it to him is that when I'm with a man, I never think of it as a 'gay' relationship. Because like I said before, I am the woman and he is the man.

I can so relate... I feel exactly that way... It's kind of strange, even when I was in a gay relationship that was pretty long term. (About five years) while the sex was great I still felt something was missing. Hence where I am at today. Everyday has become a new adventure and my confidence is coming back as a person. While I'll admit I am not all the way out yet, I am really glad I have taken the steps I have and look forward to the coming changes. I know there not all going to be pleasant, but that's okay too.

[Gina Taylor]

I can so relate... I feel exactly that way... It's kind of strange, even when I was in a gay relationship that was pretty long term. (About five years) while the sex was great I still felt something was missing. Hence where I am at today. Everyday has become a new adventure and my confidence is coming back as a person. While I'll admit I am not all the way out yet, I am really glad I have taken the steps I have and look forward to the coming changes. I know there not all going to be pleasant, but that's okay too.

That's really good that you've been involved in a gay relationship. Did he treat you like a woman or a man though? I'm sure that now that you're showing to be more feminine that things have changed so much in your life. The more you work on being a woman is the more changes that you'll see around you and how people will react to you as a woman instead of as a man. 

[Christine Eryn]

Not a chance! I've never had any gay proclivities whatsoever and I resent people who make assumptions like that as sexual preference has absolutely nothing to do with gender. You know what they say about those who assume...

Unfortunatly, my mom was the first person who asked if I was gay when I was 16. She would find her clothes in my room and knew I dressed up. For the longest time, I thought there was some point to that. 

[Shantel]

Unfortunatly, my mom was the first person who asked if I was gay when I was 16. She would find her clothes in my room and knew I dressed up. For the longest time, I thought there was some point to that. 

I suppose that would be a normal assumption coming from a parent who probably knows little or nothing about transgender issues. I didn't know squat about it either until I was about 50, I had these feelings but there was very little information about transgender stuff and frankly I didn't want to be seen as odd so I suppressed it most of my life.

[Veronica M]

That's really good that you've been involved in a gay relationship. Did he treat you like a woman or a man though? I'm sure that now that you're showing to be more feminine that things have changed so much in your life. The more you work on being a woman is the more changes that you'll see around you and how people will react to you as a woman instead of as a man. 

That's a tough question. Looking back, It was more a man / man thing, but that's okay. I wasn't close to where I am now so no big deal. It was pleasant none the less.

Not a chance! I've never had any gay proclivities whatsoever and I resent people who make assumptions like that as sexual preference has absolutely nothing to do with gender. You know what they say about those who assume...

Yeah, I could see where people would assume the gay thing. But that is their ignorance coming out. Myself, sexual preference is ones own choice I'm okay either way... It's a personal choice.

[Gina Taylor]

That's a tough question. Looking back, It was more a man / man thing, but that's okay. I wasn't close to where I am now so no big deal. It was pleasant none the less.

Like I said before, the more that you take on the female role, the more you'll see changing around you. Just little things at first like guys holding the door for you, and things like that. It happens to me all the time.

Yeah, I could see where people would assume the gay thing. But that is their ignorance coming out. Myself, sexual preference is ones own choice I'm okay either way... It's a personal choice.

At first because I thought of myself as a guy who was getting picked up by other guys and since I still like dwoman, I naturally thought  that I was more bi-sexual, but as time went on I found myself to be more of a woman with these guys and so I just became more accustom to the role of a woman and I felt that everything was good. 

[Gina Taylor]

I just recently found this and thought I'd share it with y'all.

If you are a Male-To-Female transsexual and you are attracted to men, then what is really going on? Are you gay or straight or what? The answer depends on how one chooses to look at the transsexual.

If what matters is identity, is the mind and the heart, then you are a heterosexual woman with very standard desires.
If all that matters is the birth shape of the skin, in the past, present or future, then you are an altered gay man experiencing homosexual desires.

If all that matters is the current cut of the skin, then a pre-op is a gay man and a post-op is a straight woman.
If the transsexual is considered a unique creature, a 'third sex', then all definitions become moot...perhaps being some shade of bisexual might come closest.

The problem is that, however you may define yourself, others will create definitions of their own over which you have little or no control. 

[JulieC.]

The problem is that, however you may define yourself, others will create definitions of their own over which you have little or no control. 

Interesting.  That is why I answer the question...I don't know but I like women.  As I have said I am probably should say I'm bi since I have had sex with both men and women.  But here's the thing.  I've never had sex with a man that was mentally satisfying.  Physically satisfying but something was missing for me.  I think it has been the feeling of intimacy.  I have always been the woman in these encounters(at least in my mind) and played that role as best as I could.  My biological body being irrelevant.  Like you said I am the woman...Period.  I have never even thought of my encounters with males as gay though in reality I suppose they are. 

My encounters with women have always seemed much more intimate.  Like it wasn't just sex but a beautiful connection between beings.  Even the one night stands of my youth (which were just sex). 

Now that my sex drive has diminished quite a bit I feel like I only want to have the beautiful connection between beings from now on.  And that being is my wife.  TMI ALERT  Maybe it is lesbian like but it's beautiful, intimate and satisfying.