Don't you just love familes (When a man comes around)

[immortal gypsy]

First an apology to Sydney residents. Sorry about the rain on Friday it did match my mood that afternoon

Over ten years ago I first came out to my mother that I was wanted to be a girl. After coping some emotional abuse from her and her refusal of her to talk about it I dropped it and went on to live a dreary life of a male

Now after a year of couselling and 6 month of psych I'm finally on hrt . So after spending the past few weeks trying to pin her down and tell her this is happening, we finally met on Friday. I was warned beforehand not to give her anymore bad news because she already has enough c*!@# to deal with but this was something that needed to be said, here is how it went.

What about the rest of my siblings have I thought of them (I'm one of five)
You sisters wedding is about her not you + what are you going to do turn up in a dress
What about work (I get misgendered at work and head office has my training records as female)
You can not tell mum or my sisters till I can deal with this and I don't think I can deal (yet she told me it's my life to live)

So it was a interesting lunch with me looking like I will be really cut off from my family by the end of the year, and this little gypsy seriously planning a trip back home (Queensland) to tell mums relatives myself .

On the plus side 14 hour shift Saturday and one look at my face and my staff and punters knew I was not to be messed with.

If it comes to a choice between being loved or feared, it is far safer to be feared.

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

First an apology to Sydney residents. Sorry about the rain on Friday it did match my mood that afternoon

Over ten years ago I first came out to my mother that I was wanted to be a girl. After coping some emotional abuse from her and her refusal of her to talk about it I dropped it and went on to live a dreary life of a male

Now after a year of couselling and 6 month of psych I'm finally on hrt . So after spending the past few weeks trying to pin her down and tell her this is happening, we finally met on Friday. I was warned beforehand not to give her anymore bad news because she already has enough c*!@# to deal with but this was something that needed to be said, here is how it went.

What about the rest of my siblings have I thought of them (I'm one of five)
You sisters wedding is about her not you + what are you going to do turn up in a dress
What about work (I get misgendered at work and head office has my training records as female)
You can not tell mum or my sisters till I can deal with this and I don't think I can deal (yet she told me it's my life to live)

So it was a interesting lunch with me looking like I will be really cut off from my family by the end of the year, and this little gypsy seriously planning a trip back home (Queensland) to tell mums relatives myself .

On the plus side 14 hour shift Saturday and one look at my face and my staff and punters knew I was not to be messed with.

If it comes to a choice between being loved or feared, it is far safer to be feared.

I salute your bravery and your transparency.  I sure mom will be okay in time.

I'm really happy for you!  This is a big step.

Also, I feel that I should stay on your good side so I won't have to deal with your face, staff, and punters. 

[Rachel]

Sorry your Mom did not take it well. She may come around in time.

[immortal gypsy]

Sorry your Mom did not take it well. She may come around in time.

The question is when I'm now not allowed to tell the one side of the family I got along with and talk to. They raised me as a child her father (bless his soul) taught me my values. I am taking his middle name he ment that much to me. I would understand them cutting me off but right now she is denying them the opportunity to. So right now I'm seriously thinking about that plane flight

I salute your bravery and your transparency.  I sure mom will be okay in time.

I'm really happy for you!  This is a big step.

Also, I feel that I should stay on your good side so I won't have to deal with your face, staff, and punters. 

I'm normally calm and mellow but with that Saturday being a major race meeting (Golden Slipper) I think we all apreciated that the punters knew they needed their money out and their tickets correct before they got to the counter. It did make the day run much smoother

[Rachel]

You do not need permission to tell them.

Perhaps a coming out plan as to how, what you would say, who would you tell 1st is in order.

Have you discussed this with your gender therapist?

What will you do if there is mixed results or negative results? How will you handle yourself and what will you say? Are you prepared if things do not go well?

[immortal gypsy]

Will be scheduling another appointment with my gender therapist on Tuesday. Things have been a little busy lately (ducks the duster throw by my maths teacher as those words leave my mouth)

The worse my family can do is cut me off and I have a strong support base of friends behind me that support my decision and I support their's, don't get me wrong I love my family and it will hurt but as I explained to the psych before he approved me for hrt there is a difference between a need and a want.

While I don't need any ones permission and it is my decision when how and who to come out, I want to make sure I'm not doing this just out of spite.

[Lara the Lover and the Fighter]

Will be scheduling another appointment with my gender therapist on Tuesday. Things have been a little busy lately (ducks the duster throw by my maths teacher as those words leave my mouth)

The worse my family can do is cut me off and I have a strong support base of friends behind me that support my decision and I support their's, don't get me wrong I love my family and it will hurt but as I explained to the psych before he approved me for hrt there is a difference between a need and a want.

While I don't need any ones permission and it is my decision when how and who to come out, I want to make sure I'm not doing this just out of spite.

I really hope everything works out for you.  If all else fails, you still have us here on the boards. ^.^