Hair problems

[HumanBeing]

With all due respect I don't agree with wheat thins. It's not as simple as that

But Rhys good luck with what you decide i hope that it goes smoothly when you do it.

[wheat thins are delicious]

The get the haircut without her knowing?  or the other part?  Both seem pretty simple to me.

[Rhys96]

With all due respect I don't agree with wheat thins. It's not as simple as that

But Rhys good luck with what you decide i hope that it goes smoothly when you do it.

Thanks I'll figure something out. Like I said, she's aware that I'm upset; I guess I have to just tell her how I'm feeling. (which will result in negative feedback I'm guessing) I just have to be calm and straightforward otherwise I'm pretty sure I'll be happy for the rest of my life.

[HumanBeing]

The get the haircut without her knowing?  or the other part?  Both seem pretty simple to me.

Yeah the bit about getting the haircut without her knowing. I completely agree that it is simple. And it is a very valid option too. But I was just going by the circumstances in this case. Sometimes going against parents causes you even more issues especially if you're under 18.
I'm not saying anyone should not express themselves and live unhappily or live life for others though. Just saying consider the consequences if you decide to be bold and brave...that is all.

Sorry if I caused any offense though, was just looking at it from a different angle.

[wheat thins are delicious]

You didn't cause any offense.  I understand it's not that simple for something like that when you are underage, that's why I prefaced it with "If you don't think you'll be in danger". 

[HumanBeing]

I see, valid point.   

[MacG]

I regret not having rebelled in high school. I was such a "good girl." As soon as I was away, I got long hair cut the hell off.
Hair rebellion is very mild and temporary compared to tattoos, drugs, piercings.
But I don't know your mom. I don't blame you for wanting to avoid an uncomfortable situation.

[Rhys96]

I regret not having rebelled in high school. I was such a "good girl." As soon as I was away, I got long hair cut the hell off.
Hair rebellion is very mild and temporary compared to tattoos, drugs, piercings.
But I don't know your mom. I don't blame you for wanting to avoid an uncomfortable situation.

Yeah, I really want to avoid that situation. She's not very. . .optimistic about some things. I really want to just cut my hair off and be able to feel comfortable in my own skin.

[Emerson]

My first short haircut was a buzz cut. I asked my mom, who said no. Finally I had an opportunity to barging. I don't remember now, but maybe good grades or something. She agreed, but told the haircut person not to do it and I ended up with a pixie cut. Finally I walked to Walgreens and bought a razor and shaved my head.

What could she do? She wasn't the kind of mom who really followed through with things. I also wasn't the kind of kid who was disobedient often.

I guess my point is that its your head and once hair is cut... its cut.

But I understand if that's not safe.

[Rhys96]

My first short haircut was a buzz cut. I asked my mom, who said no. Finally I had an opportunity to barging. I don't remember now, but maybe good grades or something. She agreed, but told the haircut person not to do it and I ended up with a pixie cut. Finally I walked to Walgreens and bought a razor and shaved my head.

What could she do? She wasn't the kind of mom who really followed through with things. I also wasn't the kind of kid who was disobedient often.

I guess my point is that its your head and once hair is cut... its cut.

But I understand if that's not safe.

I mean, I could do it but then again, I can't really take the nagging and stuff from my mom.

[Frank]

I would say buy a buzzer and do it yourself but I understand butting heads with mom. I couldn't handle her, so I moved out with other family (I do understand that's not for everyone though.)

[fries]

This will probably sound like a movie scheme and I guess it kinda is but what if something happened to your hair that would warrant a short hair cut? Like let's say, you fell asleep with gum in your hair? Or there's a lice outbreak and you wanna minimize the risk? You could try that if you're willing to mislead your mom a bit.

I can totally understand about not wanting to flat out go against your mom. My mom is the same way, I never could straight up rebel against her when I was a teen. My mom has a no bull->-bleeped-<- attitude, she does NOT make empty threats nor does she let things go. I just learned to be manipulative in order to twist things in my favor until I became a legal adult.

Good luck! Hope you can find a way outta those braids.

[aleon515]

Google image unisex hair cuts. Might be something in here, you could say you want your hair cut short and maybe have a picture of someone (a girl) with one of these? Semi-pixie type cuts can work as male if you use some hair gel.

--Jay

[mynameisjacob]

I just went and got mine cut shirt. My mum hasnt seen it yet (I havent been to visit her). She doesnt know Im trans so her response should be interesting