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What is your prefered pronoun?

Started by Satinjoy, May 14, 2014, 11:49:45 AM

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Satinjoy

Mine is whatever you want it to be, but I kind of like sh'e and h'er, but I am not very attached to it I just thought it was entertaining.  Sounds right regardless in the forum.  Socially it is based on whatever one perceives of my current presentation.  In here for me its feminine pronoun preferred, as the genderfluid feminine Satinjoy is usually in control, and goes towards the female components of my nature while in forum, though I can feel the gender neutral strengthening in this nonbinary section.

So what do you like to hear used for a pronoun for your own unique identity(s)?

Couldn't find an existing thread with this one.  And it allows us to say something without being embarrassed by knowing another's preferences.

Love to all here.
Morpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the red pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the little blue pills - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes

Sh'e took the little blue ones.
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Umiko

i rather be referred as a girl, female, she, ma'am, ms, or mrs.  lol
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Jill F

Just when I was coming out as gender nonconforming, I had a male, female and an andro presentation.  I basically said that anything was cool except for "he-she", "shim" or god forbid, "it".

Nobody wants to be an "it".
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AnneB

hmmmm, I think I would prefer, "Your Royal Highness..", yes, something along that line, I'd be ok with that  ;D
(ok, you can stop laughing now.. )

because I am still very much in guy mode, even with these bumps on me, I am always getting (and why wouldn't I) "sir'd, he'd, him'd"..  and with no way anyone would think differently right now, no one sees why I cringe, when I get it.    :-\

I do get "Hon'd, Sweetie'd, and (my personal favorite), Babe'd", a lot from the girls I work with, and from them, it's good, because it's neutral (only one knows I'm trans).   :-*
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HoneyStrums

This is a funny one. By funny i mean perculier for me.

My prefference is for myself, but i understand that my prefference comes from how i see myself. So I dont feel as though I can invalidate the perspective off another. In doing so i feel that in this i justify my perspective by encompassing everybody elses opinion too.

What I am is how im percieved, If you see a man then to you this is what I am to you. if you see a woman that too is what i am to you. I am to others what others see, but I to I am me, And me to me is what i see.

Im a person a people, a me. I see a woman in a prison of a body. What ever els is what you make off me.

If you know me you will see what i see, If not you`ll see what you dont know.

EDIT- to actually answer the question.
her
hon
she
babe -I feel good with.

him yada yada = cringe
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Jess42

Quote from: Jill F on May 14, 2014, 12:03:30 PM
Just when I was coming out as gender nonconforming, I had a male, female and an andro presentation.  I basically said that anything was cool except for "he-she", "shim" or god forbid, "it".

Nobody wants to be an "it".

Definately not an "it". That is way more dehumanizing than anything else that I can think of. Other than that I really don't care what people call me.
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suzifrommd

I'm a she. Period.

Whether I feel like a man inside is irrelevant. I'm living full time as a woman. Therefore, call me she.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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ativan

There is a similar thread in the stickie pinned topics section.

Check out the Let's come up with some gender neutral terms,
it gives glimpse into a couple years worth of these kinds of things.

If I don't know you and or if you don't know me, they, their, etc will do.
Otherwise it's polite to ask if there is a preferred pronoun to use.

But maybe some of you will find value in that thread, as well.
When it was first put up, there wasn't much in the way of discussion about it.
There's some of this and that, and the last post was last Oct, I think.

Regardless, this is a current topic that is important for us.
It has a lot to do with our perceptions of ourselves and each other.
Ativan
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Pica Pica

'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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ErinWDK

Quote from: Paula Christine on May 14, 2014, 12:14:49 PM
I would prefer, "Your Royal Highness...", yes, something along that line, I'd be ok with that

What? No "Your Imperial, Royal, and Apostolic Majesty?"  I mean if it was good enough for Franz Joseph...  Sorry, that is the most over the top form of address I am aware of - and that comes from being a student of history.

For me it all depends on presentation.  As long as I am presenting male He, Him, His, etc. are all OK; not that I really like it, but it is less confusing.

On these forums, or if I am presenting female, I would sort of prefer she, her, sis, etc.

Just my preferance.


Erin
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Satinjoy

Ativan,

You may have answered this in the sticky, which I have not had time to read yet, and I am glad to know about that, but what do you like to hear or see in your own case, if I am not invading your privacy there?  I saw someone quote you in an unrelated thread and it was "she said" but I wasn't sure of its origin, and that actually was the trigger behind the original post.  And one who was gendering me as Miss Satinjoy dropped the "Miss" when I posted here as she was confused, which actually I found rather sad, I like Miss Satinjoy and it made me feel good to hear it.

It is a measure of respect.  To correctly gender your peers the way they want to be cared for.  I want to be respectful, always.

Many thanks.
Morpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the red pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the little blue pills - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes

Sh'e took the little blue ones.
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jussmoi4nao

"It". Haha jk. Idgaf tbh. Peeoples can call me whatever they want
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Kendall

Quote from: Jill F on May 14, 2014, 12:03:30 PM
Nobody wants to be an "it".
Except Pennywise from Stephen King's book.

Talking: Singular they, "One", name

In writing: sie, hir
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mandonlym

I prefer not to be referred to by any pronoun but am fine with she / her. The only English gender-neutral pronoun I find mildly acceptable is "yo"; all the ones I find aesthetically ugly.

I usually cringe when I hear things like lady, ma'am, miss, etc., but sometimes I like them when I'm in a good mood. I generally like being mistaken for a guy as long as it's not in a context where I might be unsafe.
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ativan

A correct pronoun for me? I have no idea...
That's a very hard question for me to answer in a straight forward way.
Ativan
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Satinjoy

Morpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the red pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the little blue pills - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes

Sh'e took the little blue ones.
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eli77

I'm pretty uncomfortable with gendered language of any kind. She/her are acceptable I guess. I really dislike being addressed with "lady" or any other formal language unless it's being used with irony.
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Satinjoy

For the newcomers any personal preferences on pronouns?  Missing anyone here?

By the way, for me, never he or his please.  I have become political about sh'e and h'er for me, or she and her is ok to.

Odd that noone selected sie and hir from the self identified androgynes..

Love to all
Morpheus: This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the red pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the little blue pills - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes

Sh'e took the little blue ones.
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Megan82

If I had a choice of what people used, I would ask that they use they/them. I was one of those kids in school that would infuriate english teachers over the proper usage.
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Kouzoku

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