Matt Kailey died yesterday

[aleon515]

Don't know if people have heard this. It was not in the general news, and I think more trans guys have heard of him. He was an author and activist. He wrote the book "Just Add Hormones" and some other stuff. He has been writing a blog "Tranifesto". He died in his sleep from heart failure.

--Jay

[King Malachite]

It was in the community alerts, but it's still sad regardless.  I used to read some of his posts.    It's a tragedy to lose such a great person in our community.  Though he can never be replaced, I hope another guy can "carry the torch" more or less.

[Arch]

Jeez, WTF? He wasn't very old. Did he have a history of heart issues? I don't remember anything like that from his book Just Add Hormones.

[Ayden]

I read his stuff. Man. That's terrible.

[xsmittyx]

oh man

[Tysilio]

This is so, so sad. He was a huge asset to our community, and an inspiration for me, as an older trans guy.

RIP, Matt. You will be missed.

[blink]

Really enjoyed his work, his blog was very informative. He seemed like a cool guy.
It's bad news that he died but at least it was relatively peaceful.

[Hex]

My therapist recommended his book to me and I still plan on getting it once finances allow. But this saddens me to hear this. She talked highly of him.

[Arch]

I wasn't a particular fan of his, but he did a lot of good work for the community.

I have read only a handful of his blog entries. The only one that sticks out in my mind is a response to a query he received about whether a lot of trans men die young. The only reason I remember it, actually, is that part of his response is almost identical to what I have said in the past: that it's better to live an authentic life and take what comes along with it than to live the way I lived before. I often add that without transitioning, I probably wouldn't have survived anyway, so every day that I live now puts me ahead of the game.

As I recall, he said something about smoking in that blog entry. Was he a smoker? That's supposed to be a bad combination with T. But if he did smoke, I'm sure he knew the risks. It's all such a crap shoot anyway. Some men smoke heavily and live to be ninety.

[Samuel]

 

Heart breaking.

[Gene]

My husband and I were lucky to meet him at the last Colorado Gold Rush conference here in Denver. He signed my copy of "Just Add Hormones" and we had a brief discussion about telling my niece and nephews about how Auntie 'Chelle is becoming Uncle Gene. I wanted to discuss more with him, and it was during the workshops so there was no one to keep from Matt. I was nervous however, and thought I could just try speaking to him again at another Denver transgender event...kinda wish I'd just sucked it up and said what I needed to say...

[blink]

My husband and I were lucky to meet him at the last Colorado Gold Rush conference here in Denver. He signed my copy of "Just Add Hormones" and we had a brief discussion about telling my niece and nephews about how Auntie 'Chelle is becoming Uncle Gene. I wanted to discuss more with him, and it was during the workshops so there was no one to keep from Matt. I was nervous however, and thought I could just try speaking to him again at another Denver transgender event...kinda wish I'd just sucked it up and said what I needed to say...

It sucks to want to say something to someone and realize there won't be any more chances. Sorry.
I meant to contact him sometime to say thanks for running his blog, and never did. It's still up right now, unchanged at the moment, I wonder if his family plans to keep Tranifesto online. He answered so many questions and helped a lot of people.

[aleon515]

It sucks to want to say something to someone and realize there won't be any more chances. Sorry.
I meant to contact him sometime to say thanks for running his blog, and never did. It's still up right now, unchanged at the moment, I wonder if his family plans to keep Tranifesto online. He answered so many questions and helped a lot of people.

Yes, I wondered about this. His FB page is also still up, so I am assuming his family still reads this. Usually they take a little money to continue running, but I would donate to do so. There's a LOT of info there which was very helpful to me. I also found his book "Just Add Hormones" to be very helpful. It doesn't quite match my experiences (I think at one time he presented in quite a feminine way, which I did not). But I felt that it did speak to me anyway.



--Jay

[Polo]

So sad I learned a lot from his site, and bought several of his books. I would donate as well, though there are links on his website to sell his books so that should count as revenue generating. I hope they keep his site up for a while.