What causes your disphoria to spike?

[Ginny]

Yes!~ Body hair too. I just feel dirty if I'm hairy. Being smooth and with shade legs arms and armpits, despite my arms not being very hairy, help me feel less self-conscious.

Feeling hairy or leg-stubble / armpit stubble... just....ew. Hair may not be mad on other guys, but I just can't feel clean while hairy.

Luckily I've been able to keep up with body hair by shaving every two-three days as needed most of the time. Else, yeah for those one or two occasions when I couldn't find the time I just felt gross.

[TheQuestion]

pretty much everything

[katiej]

MTF.  I'm pretty early in transition, but I've really become quite the little fashionista.  So seeing women in cute outfits really hits home since I can't wear them yet.  Especially pencil skirts...I've got a real thing for pencil skirts right now.  And cute shoes.  And dresses...makeup...accessories.  Ah who am I kidding.  I want it all!!  :/

Showering.

I get this one.  I spent a lot of years knowing I was transgender, but telling myself there was nothing I could do about it.  So I was able to mostly keep the dysphoria all bottled up, but the shower was the one place that it always came right up to the surface.

[Rayne]

MTF.  I'm pretty early in transition, but I've really become quite the little fashionista.  So seeing women in cute outfits really hits home since I can't wear them yet.  Especially pencil skirts...I've got a real thing for pencil skirts right now.  And cute shoes.  And dresses...makeup...accessories.  Ah who am I kidding.  I want it all!!  :/


I get this one.  I spent a lot of years knowing I was transgender, but telling myself there was nothing I could do about it.  So I was able to mostly keep the dysphoria all bottled up, but the shower was the one place that it always came right up to the surface.

Yeah. that is a problem for me too. Recently I take few showers, just baths. It helps me feel girly to lay there in a hot bath relaxing and shaving my legs, washing my hair. (I hate my short hair... GROW FASTER!) ^~^ A nice luxurious bath, or even if you have the money and stuff (I don't) perhaps a bubble bath. Great way to feel more girly while bathing

[TaoRaven]

MTF (I think that's obvious....I hope anyway)

Once in a while I still get called "sir".  It makes me want to vomit and cry at the same time, and these days I tend to get kind of mean as a result.

Breaking a nail for some reason triggers me bad....I have been known to lock the door, curl up and cry for an hour or so.

And finally...Men. It's not their fault...I just seem to have developed a healthy female libido without the proper parts to act on it.

All I can do is remind myself that I am getting there, and some day I can hopefully live a normal life.

[jaybutterfly]

mirrors

seeing particularly pretty girls (I prefer the natural look, but if someones hot my first reaction is 'why can't I look like that?)

exercise

[MbutF]

girls' faces, just that feminine 'glow' their skin have..... 

[TheQuestion]

Transkids,
beautiful trans woman
regret and jealousy

These ones are particularly tough to deal with these days.  I really don't care about being transgendered, but I do care about being transgendered.  I'd have been OK with it, so long as I looked like an actual woman, but I let it go a bit too long and fully passed through puberty.  It's really hard to think of what could have been and I'm pretty positive if I had started young enough not only would I have looked totally CIS, but I'm also fairly certain that I would have been legitimately gorgeous.  Instead I have no chance of ever being pretty, looking CIS, or even passing really.

I'm still pretty young.  I almost feel like I could reach back into the past and change things, but then it sinks in and I realize that I'm trapped and will be for a very long time.  It's awful to feel like you blew your chance to live before you even realized something could have been done.  It's awful to feel like the only way you may ever live is if you die and are reborn... and that's holding out for a lot.

Like I've said, pretty much everything triggers my dysphoria these days.  I lay in bed a lot now, that's pretty much all I do anymore and even that serves as a trigger.  I realize that I should be up living my life and I think of everyone out having fun, just being normal, but then I realize that I really don't have a life to live anymore.

[PoeticHeart]

MtF. Body hair is what does it for me. I wanna sob when I notice it.

[Erik Ezrin]

FtM (obviously, lol) pre-transition (also obviously I think)

Shark week
Misgendering (especially in public or by people who I am out to. By friends/family/acquaintances who I am not out to I don't mind it so much, cause they can't help it either) and bathrooms
Hips and "healthy women fatties". Piss the hell of with your women fatties. Did I ask for them??
Cisguys of my age and transguys who are much further in transition
POOLS! MOTHER->-bleeped-<-ING POOLS! I love swimming, but due to dysphoria... I can't...
The whole idea of a relationship is just... one big ball of dysphoria for me, lol.

My moobs don't give me much trouble. Let's just stay with it that they are small. If I go into detail HOW small I might make some guys out here very jealous, lol. If I haven't already...  😉

[Kiwi]

When I pass with someone else and my mom points that I'm not a boy, but I'm her "girl" I feel like I want to bury myself in shame.

When my parents scream my female name out loud with new people

These things make me really sad because I can pass without big problems but my parents/relatives/old friends seem they like to spoil everything

[katiej]

Shark week

I have to ask.  How do sharks trigger dysphoria?

[echo_artist]

FTM

It's my butt.
I'm known for my butt. If you can't find me...you'll find my butt.
I don't understand why it causes so much problems!
It stands out in baggy clothes. I can't even!
And my cycle. I have the pheromones of a succubus! It
attracts more eyes to my butt. I want it chop it
right the hell off.

[timbuck2]

FTM.
Butch lesbians send my dysphoria through the roof. The idea that I might be confused for one of them instead of a guy makes me want to vomit and get out of there asap.

[eClare]

Anticipating outing myself to my family and friends and the resulting shame for keeping it a secret for so long. I know this is a topic that will be explored through therapy, and so many try to assure me that it may not be what I fear, but it's often worse than the gender dysphoria I have carried with me for so long.

[FTMDiaries]

I have to ask.  How do sharks trigger dysphoria?

It's an FtM euphemism for that special time of the month that we hate so much. You know, the week that involves a lot of blood-letting, just like the TV show of the same name.

[Relinquere]

I'm ftm, i think

Swim suits, bikini's, parties where i need to dress as a girl, cute/pretty/hot/handsome people, when someone asks me if i'm a butch lesbian (yes, rude), when my friend talks about career options telling me 'women have more chances finding a job in science' (i want to be a scientist lol).

P.e. Class too.

[Erik Ezrin]

When I pass with someone else and my mom points that I'm not a boy, but I'm her "girl" I feel like I want to bury myself in shame.

When my parents scream my female name out loud with new people

These things make me really sad because I can pass without big problems but my parents/relatives/old friends seem they like to spoil everything

Totally forgot this one. Completely feel ya Kiwi! My parents are EXACTLY the same!

My mom is like "Yes, meet my DAUGHTER!" The first second she meets a stranger together with me. Really makes me want to sink into the earth right there and then :c
Often people see me as male already, but she or my dad will spoil it with 'correcting' them or not even giving them the chance to determine I am male. Worst is; I am out!

[helen2010]

Less and less spiking as I explore my non binary identity and learn to express myself and present authentically and fluidly. Still triggered somewhat by misgendering but as I become more confident in myself I am less and less distressed by this. It is sort of like if I know who I am and I feel that I am expressing myself then that is all that matters to me

Aisla

[immortal gypsy]

Winter. I love winter fashion coats, jumpers, boots
Thinking about how my home state has become more accepting of children with trans issues in school. I know it still would of been hard for me but when I think about it. There could of been some help