No fantasy faces and lives please. Susans is not for pretenders

[Ryan55]

I agree with the stop faking pics, insults our intelligence and our trust, we all come here for support in one way or another and here we can actually be the real us. Plus has anyone seen the show catfish on mtv lol google image search.

I am real by the way, I have skype if anyone needs a video chat :p

[AnneB]

I want to put my own pic up but  I hate the way it looks, no laser yet, very little luck with makeup, and a bad wig. Elsa, is what I am inside.. the stormy battle btwn what I feel,what I look like and the inability to change because of my family. So tho it's not really me, it is.

[Edge]

 

This is the sort of thread where you think, "There's a story here and I'm so happy I don't know it."

Me too.

I guarantee that all pictures that I claim are me are actually me and all the things I say are true are the truth as I know them at the time. Sometimes they may be conflicting (not having friends vs having friends), but that's because I have abandonment/trust issues and not because I'm willfully lying.
None of my avatars thus far have been me.

[ZoeM]

No fantasy here. I'm always straightforward and honest to a fault - it's kinda a defense mechanism for some painful secrets in my past. I've only ever told one person those secrets, and then only under duress - and I really regret even that one slip.

[V M]

I use to put up pic.s and such, but after getting trolled more often then I would like, I settled on an avatar that I found to be cute and somewhat humourous and best displayed my alter ego

Sure, I might have a few similar features in common with my avatar, but obviously at 52 I am not going to look quite as good and don't really feel like outing myself

Maybe sometime in the future if I am able to purchase a system that is supported by the newer system requirements for most current software I might put something up

But don't hold your breath or expect much of anything unless you are a friend because I don't have any time for foes

Love you all

Hugs

V M

[Nero]

Don't worry peeps - if you're not posting someone else's pic and pretending it's you or telling far fetched stories, you're fine. This isn't directed toward you.

For those who are doing this or have done so in the past, or maybe thinking of doing so - it's ok to come clean and talk about it. No judgment. We all make mistakes. Why not share what's really going on with you? Why you felt compelled to fabricate things. Is it a dysphoria issue? An escape? We're here to listen. But we want to listen to the real you. We want the real thing, not an imitation. And I bet the real thing is far more interesting than the fake one. The real face far more interesting and beautiful than the fake one.

[big kim]

I look a lot like my avatar!

[Eris]

I've got a bit of a beaky nose, but other than that...

[V M]

LOL...

The Pretenders are not very happy about this

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I look a lot like my avatar!

I also have brown hair and I wear glasses. I just don't have a big bushy tail and I'm not as skinny as the squirrel.

And I don't have an anthro porcupine girlfriend.

*sighs*

[Felix]

And I don't have an anthro porcupine girlfriend.

If I had a nickel for every time I heard that.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

If I had a nickel for every time I heard that.

[Evelyn K]

I also have brown hair and I wear glasses. I just don't have a big bushy tail and I'm not as skinny as the squirrel.

And I don't have an anthro porcupine girlfriend.

*sighs*

I guess I can see the resemblance.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,157328.msg1331531.html#msg1331531

[HoneyStrums]

If I had a nickel for every time I heard that.

I was going to make a joke about nickel back but couldn't make one . So how many would that be? The same as me? one?

Anyway I would of thought using the term face transplant would of been a red flag. Ive never had ffs, but refer to it as that because thats how its referred? my guess is a lot of people do too?

As for contradictory posts? :/ sometimes I wonder if I do that. (thinks this might look like guilt, its not) Just a passing thought. About how I notice I react completely opposite to myself in some situations. you know. Like I don't like fighting but ill willing be beaten up so someone I care about doesn't have to, that sounds contradictory to me.

As for my pics? there me I have been changing them often lately every horrible one of them . Maybe I'm worried your talking about me :p BUT I did live a long time apologising to everybody when they got upset, And never did fully learn, that everything doesn't have to be about me . Since I haven't been PM'ed buy the mods. I'm guessing this isn't about me (Then again why would it) phew. Once again (Probably makes me look guilty of it)

But I just need to post something, and these ARE MY  thoughts . Since I read all the pages before this one, I wasn't going to settle for a three word post. I think everything that is to be said concerning the affects of such things has been said. I don't think another vote agreeing with them will add much more weight to it, even though I do, and have. (Contradictory once again ).

EDIT --- much more smileys then normal, maybe I'm just paranoid now. I suppose existing as I do, in this state of needing, feeling like I need to prove myself to people, coming across fakers is a real blow. And makes one wonder if people here just as some that are not think I'm fake. So you can add causing paranoia to list of affects pretending can do. And I feel weird now too. Like this was one extremely un-needed post. No I'm not paranoid that's not it, It's the recognition that this sort of thing can cause us to doubt others. And I'm just worried and grr maybe I am paranoid (ouch my head), that I'll become assaulted with the same sorts of suspicions as I do outside of here. Especially since I and I believe lots of other come here to get away from all that. And pretenders just make my feelings concerning the doubt I receive from others feel marginalised, you know. Kind of like can you blame people that doubt us when those that pretend exist

So I started Writing again after seeing a load of smileys and wrote another SA. Laughs at the though of people reading my post history, and then hurts a little of the implications of it. If people are doing that, then Its just one more un-necessary hassle caused by fakery. 

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I guess I can see the resemblance.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,157328.msg1331531.html#msg1331531

She also has a much nicer chest than I do.

[Jessica Merriman]

And makes one wonder if people here just as some that are not think I'm fake.

You are fine BV, trust me on this. 

[HoneyStrums]

You are fine BV, trust me on this. 

Thanks you . some how I Imagine, there is a whole much larger conversation going on in the invisible mod only part of the tardis of susans .
Smiled at the prospect of having undergone a review and passed . sighs if only I was the much the centre of attention here

Hugs you back

[Evelyn K]

Butterfly, not for nothing, but I've seen some of your avatars where you look attractive. I think it was an outdoor shot. I think you're doing fine.

[helen2010]

You are fine BV, trust me on this. 

Jessica

Don't want to run foul of the spirit of the new avatar guidelines but would like a ruling on my avatar and have sent a PM to FA requesting this but have not had a response.  My avatar is 'Asia 10' from the small selection provided on Susan's avatar gallery.  As a non binary I do not look anything like the avatar but there again I am not pretending that it is even a remote likeness.  I am however definitely representing myself as Aisla, with all of my questions, challenges, concerns and fears.  Hope that this is enough to allow me to keep the avatar as I have become quite attached to it!

Keep or delete?

Aisla

[Ms Grace]

Keep. The issue is people passing off pics that they say are them which aren't. You're not doing that so there's no problem.