I like being straight

[Hideyoshi]

I'd say the best thing so far about transitioning is when I'm in public with my boyfriend. I can be close to him, touch him, hold his hand, give him a peck on the cheek, and there are no double takes from anyone. Just a straight guy with his straight girlfriend.

It's such a weird feeling. Normally, when I'm in guy mode with him in public, we just act like two quiet guys; and nobody would suspect a relationship since there's no affection shown between us. But if I'm a girl, there's no reason to hide it anymore.

and it feels good

[FrancisAnn]

I bet you feel great about being "straight normal". I'm the same way when I was dating. It felt great just being my man's girl friend. A normal woman enjoying being with a man.........

Great for you girl friend. Have fun.

[FalseHybridPrincess]

meh it feels great to be seen as a lesbian  too   

[Hideyoshi]

meh it feels great to be seen as a lesbian  too   

yes but in this society people (including myself since I've been conditioned to) will do a double take to make sure if that's what they really saw (two girls/guys being affectionate)

While they might not think it's a bad thing for a homosexual couple to be near them, it's still uncommon enough to draw attention, no matter how brief that attention is. And drawing attention is the last thing I want to do while in public

[Hikari]

meh it feels great to be seen as a lesbian  too   

Me too!

Lol even though I wouldn't mind being straight or bi. I do like. Being affectionate in public, and I know in the times I was out looking feminine with my ex wife and we cuddled on the bus stop bench or whatever we did get a lot of weird looks...but who I knows what those looks were about, I mean maybe they were looking at me trying to figure out what I am, maybe they didn't think white and black people should mix like that, maybe they were looking down on our gothic/punk clothes, etc.

[FrancisAnn]

yes but in this society people (including myself since I've been conditioned to) will do a double take to make sure if that's what they really saw (two girls/guys being affectionate)

While they might not think it's a bad thing for a homosexual couple to be near them, it's still uncommon enough to draw attention, no matter how brief that attention is. And drawing attention is the last thing I want to do while in public

Good luck, just have fun with life. I agree, what purpose does it accomplish to cause undue attention from the "public". Thanks for posting & sharing.

[JoanneB]

To me that all sounds like what I call the sheer joy of being out in the real world as the real me. The joy of feeling Genuine.

[irene95x]

This is something I think about all of the time, I hope I can be in that position one day.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

yes but in this society people (including myself since I've been conditioned to) will do a double take to make sure if that's what they really saw (two girls/guys being affectionate)

Meh...who the hell cares about what society thinks?

Screw'em.

I saw a lesbian couple when I was out grocery shopping last week and no one said a thing. Even when they were smooching a little while waiting their turn in the checkout line.

I don't live in some "enlightened" big city either. I live in small town redneckville.

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend (some days). Other days I am comfortable with living alone.

[Misato]

I don't know that this is a straight or gay issue as public displays of affection are rare even among the heterosexual crowd. The phrase, "Get a room!" has been around for a loooooooong time after all.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

I don't know that this is a straight or gay issue as public displays of affection are rare even among the heterosexual crowd. The phrase, "Get a room!" has been around for a loooooooong time after all.

Meh...as long as people aren't physically harming others or being a verbally abusive dick. I don't care what they do.

[Jess42]

Meh...who the hell cares about what society thinks?

Screw'em.

I saw a lesbian couple when I was out grocery shopping last week and no one said a thing. Even when they were smooching a little while waiting their turn in the checkout line.

I don't live in some "enlightened" big city either. I live in small town redneckville.

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend (some days). Other days I am comfortable with living alone.

Yeah girl, my sentiments exactly. If there are still people in the world that hasn't seen gay or lesbian couples I wonder what freaking universe they are living in. Definately not the same as mine. Hell I think now everyone has someone that is gay or lesbian in their family, even mine and my family is about as redneck as redneck can get. And I think everyone knows someone that is gay or lesbian. I'm still apprehensive about telling anyone in my family that I am trans yet but I kind of have a sneaky feeling it wouldn't surprise them too much. They do slip up sometimes and call me she and her and all kinds of other things liek they are trying to give me crap. They give me a hard time about my hair length and how much more manly it would be if I had a beard to go with it, poking fun. If they can't figure it out, I ain't gonna tell. I have a second cousin that is lesbian of the butch type and I get some really strange looks, winks, smiles and just an understanding in her facial expressions. Eventually there will be a slip up I'm sure on my part.

[Evelyn K]

meh it feels great to be seen as a lesbian  too   

LOL. I don't know why but that was so random.

Lesbians FTW!

[Hideyoshi]

This is something I'm looking forward to. I'm attracted to guys but I've never really been open about it. It will be nice to date a guy one day without having to feel so self conscious

It's so great, I'm sure you'll get to that point.

[Ms Grace]

I feel a bit conflicted. I'm really happy for you and that you feel so comfortable now being able to express your love in public, it's just unfortunate that same sex couples still don't have that opportunity. If I ever do end up dating it will probably be with a woman so I'm now in the social pariah corner.

[Violet Bloom]

That's why I have so much respect for transwomen who transition and still date women. The only thing braver than becoming a transgender woman is becoming a transgender woman and a lesbian

  In Toronto, at least, I find it's the gays/lesbians that don't get paid any attention any more.  Unless you're a very passable straight transwoman you're much more likely to get negative attention from being openly partnered and affectionate with a cis male.  All the homophobia is shifting towards this as sort of the 'last taboo'.

[Natalie]

I loathe being bisexual...just irritates me.

[Evelyn K]

I loathe being bisexual...just irritates me.

^^ wHy?

[Natalie]

^^ wHy?

If I could turn it off I would.

[Ataraxia]

If I could turn it off I would.

Why??