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A Clash of Two Lives...the Old and the New

Started by katiej, August 05, 2014, 09:07:01 PM

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katiej

I'm going to paint you a word picture. It's an unusually cool evening during a normally hot time of the year. This time last Friday it was 113F. Today...75F. Mostly overcast with little to no wind...it's just a beautiful evening.

So I'm sitting in my backyard, enjoying the weather, reading the latest issue of Redbook, and enjoying a nice cigar. Yes...in my unusual world reading a fashion magazine aimed at middle aged women is a perfect compliment to smoking cigars.  What?

It's definitely the clash of two different lives. Yes, women can smoke cigars, but most don't.  At least not as often as I do. :)

So the question is, what examples do you have of your old self hanging around and sometimes clashing with your new self?
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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StevieAK

Crown and Coke...just not too feminine and had to change to wine and or martini's. 
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stephaniec

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katiej

Quote from: StevieAK on August 05, 2014, 09:16:20 PM
Crown and Coke...just not too feminine and had to change to wine and or martini's.

As a guy, I always had a strict rule for ordering at a bar.  Beer or whisky...usually neat.  Sometimes gin and tonic.  Nothing colorful, too complicated, or having an umbrella or piece of fruit.  The only exception to the rule: anything goes when on a cruise or tropical vacation.

I might start breaking my rule now.  Girly drinks are delicious!
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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StevieAK



I get that..mango-tini Friday night..just one more thing about being me I like now. :)
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katiej

Stevie, that is both colorful AND has a piece of fruit.  And it looks delicious.
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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StevieAK

Tried to sell my wife that it was part of my paleo diet...she didn't buy it. The place makes mussels in a white wine sauce that is wonderful. The doorman calls me sir and  I call him little sweetie. I'm 6' and he is a dwarf at 5' ...little man syndrome..
Sub Zero Anchorage AK fwiw
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monica93304

Quote from: StevieAK on August 05, 2014, 10:29:43 PM


I get that..mango-tini Friday night..just one more thing about being me I like now. :)

Stevie, you and I could hang out anytime.  Yes!!!!!!!!
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noeleena

Hi,

A clash of two life,s ,....Hmmm,..... Don,t think so , well not in my case ,

there would be very little i have done that i don,t do now and that,s not changing .
Only one miner detail and that,s all ,  i know many here will talk about transition and from male to female , and that,s where it does not apply in my case , or simply put . i could not change ether way , its a mix of both male and female  ,

So what would there be that would make my life different , I trained as a builder and still do that i wear work clothes that can suit men or women , does not bother me ,
I would be hard pressed to say my past is gone or i hate it or even to not talk about it , i do and that means evey one knows my past  that does not change who i am or thier view of myself and who i am as a person and as a female . woman  ,

Even with new people i meet i tell them im a chippy and proud that i was . still am , this of cause may be strange for many trans people because they wont no part of that life thier own  of cause,  because they are trying to be like women ,

This is where its so much different for my  self because of being born  female and male , I see no clash and as for old and new only in the sense of we  start a new day ,

My life has many changes and as i.v grown and a time to grow into a woman even so I,v allso matured along the way , my life all the way through has been right in all aspects , well most any way .

The most important aspect of my life has been being able to be my self and being open and how i express who i am  as a person first and as a normal woman ,

...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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Kylie

I still love to do heavy labor for some reason although since i have been growing my nails out more and more, i like it a little less.

My tastes have always been way on the female side.  Once, i bought a new car and my friend drove past my house one night after we had been out at the bars.  The next day i get a text, nice going, which one was she?  Me - wha?  Him - was it the redhead you were talking to outside?  Me - wha?  Him - dude, I saw a chick's car parked in your driveway last night, which one was it ->-bleeped-<-?  Me - yeah, that's mine. 
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Evelyn K

Long feminine nails and men's underwear! :D

No just kidding. But really, for Evelyn, probably something like a men's essential. For instance the watch.

I love my Perrelet automatic and will still wear it sometimes en-fem.







(^ when I was hairier and veinier)

I also plan to occasionally rock the men's cashmere winter trench coat and military inspired M61 Field Jacket while presenting long haired and androgynous-fem underneath.



;D

Great topic BTW!

   
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Juliett

My old self was very feminine so I really can't say i've experienced this. I don't even masterbate "that" way anymore.
Fruity drinks are AMAZING ^-^
correlation /= causation
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Evelyn K

Quote from: Kylie on August 06, 2014, 01:02:36 AM
I still love to do heavy labor for some reason although since i have been growing my nails out more and more, i like it a little less.

My tastes have always been way on the female side.  Once, i bought a new car and my friend drove past my house one night after we had been out at the bars.  The next day i get a text, nice going, which one was she?  Me - wha?  Him - was it the redhead you were talking to outside?  Me - wha?  Him - dude, I saw a chick's car parked in your driveway last night, which one was it ->-bleeped-<-?  Me - yeah, that's mine.

^^^ LOLZ!!!
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Jill F

"Same monkeys, different barrel" applies to me.

I still watch sports, order "one bourbon, one scotch and one beer" at my fave bar (Pabst Blue Ribbon- long story), collect and properly maintain a guitar collection, listen to metal, wear lots of black, operate power tools, fix whatever breaks, belch and swear.  I just do it all with a cuter butt now.

I swear the only change in taste is that I don't care for most "guy movies" anymore.  I'm not sure I really did in the first place. 
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Evelyn K

Quote from: Jill F on August 06, 2014, 04:19:52 AM
I swear the only change in taste is that I don't care for most "guy movies" anymore.  I'm not sure I really did in the first place.

^^ Same here. Lost interest in video games as well. All I want to do is bake cupcakes. :(
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MelanieH74

Sometimes (not often) I'll sit down to watch tv with my legs in a wider stance instead of together,, my wife will walk in, look kinda puzzled and say "comfortable" lol
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Emjay

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 06, 2014, 06:46:28 AM
^^ Same here. Lost interest in video games as well. All I want to do is bake cupcakes. :(

Mmmmmm, cupcakes.....  :D

I've always loved cooking so I guess that actually fits better now.

I still drive a pickup truck and ride motorcycles, does that count?  Though I've always thought that was such an attractive thing when women do that.  Must be a rebellious spirit thing, who wants to sit behind some guy all the time anyway right?  :P




Start therapy:                            Late 2013
Start HRT:                                 April, 2014
Out everywhere and full time:      November 19, 2015
Name change (official):                            February 1, 2016
I'm a Mommy! (Again) :                             January 31, 2017
GCS consultation:                        February 17, 2017
GCS, Dr. Gallagher (Indianapolis, IN)  February 13, 2018
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katiej

Agreed, I've always like women who ride motorcycles ad play bass guitar.  Now I'm becoming one of them.

Jill, what kind of bourbon and what kind of scotch?
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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Emjay

Quote from: katiej on August 06, 2014, 10:39:35 AM
Agreed, I've always like women who ride motorcycles ad play bass guitar.  Now I'm becoming one of them.

Nice!  I play guitar, I have a bass but never got as serious with it as my guitars. 




Start therapy:                            Late 2013
Start HRT:                                 April, 2014
Out everywhere and full time:      November 19, 2015
Name change (official):                            February 1, 2016
I'm a Mommy! (Again) :                             January 31, 2017
GCS consultation:                        February 17, 2017
GCS, Dr. Gallagher (Indianapolis, IN)  February 13, 2018
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ErinS

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 06, 2014, 01:09:50 AM
Long feminine nails and men's underwear! :D

No just kidding. But really, for Evelyn, probably something like a men's essential. For instance the watch.

I love my Perrelet automatic and will still wear it sometimes en-fem.







(^ when I was hairier and veinier)

I also plan to occasionally rock the men's cashmere winter trench coat and military inspired M61 Field Jacket while presenting long haired and androgynous-fem underneath.



;D

Great topic BTW!




Hmmm... Lovely watch. As for me i fully intend to keep rocking my Sea Dweller.
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