my company's EEO1 form

[Hypatia]

Kate.  I am pretty sure she works in DC.

I really ought to find a job in the District. It's starting to look like the Promised Land now. Unfortunately, my company is in Virginia, so if trouble happens, I have no legal protection. What I have is good rapport with co-workers and management. I have made myself a valuable worker and no matter what I am, they want to keep me. The boss (not of my company, but of my workplace) said he was telling my higher-ups that sure, I dress differently and have long hair, but that doesn't matter because I'm one of the best.

Kate, I understand everything you're saying about not dropping hints and doing it gradually, but you understand each of our individual situations is unique and we each have to find whatever way we can to get through it. I feel your view of my presentation is a misinterpretation. I look at  "Steve" Stanton going through life tightly closeted at work, in short hair, suit & tie, and wonder how the hell was she able to stand it like that all those years? I just can't.  I simply cannot take it any longer.

I dress in 100% women's clothing at work, complete with makeup, jewelry, etc. (and use the ladies' room on a different floor of the building) not because I'm trying to "drop hints" or do anything passive-aggressive, but simply because I cannot f***ing stand it any longer... because I don't want to go insane, which is how imposed maleness makes me feel. I have to do this to manage my own well-being. I get noticed, of course, but so what? It has made several women like me better. As for men, I wasn't close to any of them anyway, so no loss there.

I'm not dressing feminine for them, I'm doing it for myself just so I can deal with living every day. Hopefully, if you put yourself in my shoes you can see where I'm coming from. The positive side to this is that when I do announce it at work, it will not come across as a shock, it may even be a bit of a relief.

Posted on: August 13, 2007, 09:03:38 AM

I told her I was going to vastly improve this branches diversity profile.  I said " not only are you getting another female employee, but a transsexual employee, and a lesbian employee, all in one!"
I figure I'm damned near invaluable now!

That's the spirit! You go grrl! 

[SarahFaceDoom]

I figure if the form asks "gender" then it's okay for me to check female.  Or I do anyways.  Because that is my gender identity.  If it asks sex, then I figure it's more medical, and asking whether I have a penis or not, and I answer accordingly.

I always figure if it becomes and issue I can explain to them why I filled it out that way, and point them to many a resource to that effect.