Coming out to my Mom

[iiMTF]

In just a few minutes, I will be coming out to my mom. I'm having last minute jitters... any advice?

I'll watch for a few comments for a few minutes here, then once I'm ready, go ahead and come out. After that I'll come back and tell you all how it went... hopefully good. Either way, it is time... lol

(Note: Don't suggest anything that would require being 18+, I'm a minor. :p)

-L

[Matthew]

My advice would be to just say how you feel, but put it simply. She might not understand why or exactly what it means, there can be a lot of stigma. And most importantly give her TIME. It'll take some time to get used to the idea, try to be patient.


Good luck! *hugs*

[iiMTF]

My advice would be to just say how you feel, but put it simply. She might not understand why or exactly what it means, there can be a lot of stigma. And most importantly give her TIME. It'll take some time to get used to the idea, try to be patient.


Good luck! *hugs*

Thanks! I had planned, before starting to actually talk to her, to ask her what she knew/how she felt about LGBT -- I've heard her talk about LGB, but never has she said anything about T, which is odd to me.

Also... Matthew is my birth name, so nice to meet you =3

-L

[iiMTF]

Alright, time to come out.. I'll tell ya how it goes..

[Blue Senpai]

Good luck! I hope it goes well.

[iiMTF]

Alright, I am back!

I bring good news... and bad news.

The good news is we had this long conversation about if she would support transgenders, what she knew, what she would do in scenarios in public like a MTF using the girls bathroom or crossdressing, for example. She had long answers, which I won't type them all here, but basically, she's doesn't have anything against transgenders unless they show aggression towards her, as well as she said she would support anybody close to her she knew was transgendered.

The bad news. I couldn't bring myself to actually say I'm transgendered. But I will. I directed her to a short documentary that I believe will support my answer, and after shes watched it I'll tell her. And I know she'll watch it, shes really curious as to why I'm asking these questions, so she'll definitely want an answer ASAP lol.

I'd say it went well. I'm happy. Being a (retired, she can't handle all the pain from the countless diseases she has, and I unfortunately inherited) Nurse, she knew surprisingly little about transgendered folks; I had to explain a lot to her. But once I tell her, I feel she'll support me.

So happy. Sooo happy. I actually can't wait for her to watch the documentary now.. xD It's 21 minutes long, so shes going to have to find a bit of time to watch.. After all, she is busy being a housewife, mother of 2, and she has a (online) job in which her mom is her boss... lol

Again, I'm happy. Special thanks to Cynthialee. Without her, I wouldn't have the courage to open up at this point.

Anywho, I'll let you go now.

-L