Am I a piece of crap or bad person

[Jess42]

I appreciate you so much and ill post pics soon, she is so beautiful too. My biggest worry is if me and my wife split, is can they use being trans to keep her away from me???

Oh god that would be nice.

Your wife knows right? She has already gone this far so there is a chance she may go for the longhaul with you. 50/50 is pretty good and if ya'll have talked about it already, is there something other than the odds that you are worried about? I don't want to pry and it really isn't any of my business but what do you feel in your heart and what is your intuition telling you?

[mrs izzy]

Congrats Mommy on your baby daughter.

New life is a great thing to experience.

I hope things will work out in the end that everyone can be happy.

Hugs

[Cristyjade30]

Oh god that would be nice.

Your wife knows right? She has already gone this far so there is a chance she may go for the longhaul with you. 50/50 is pretty good and if ya'll have talked about it already, is there something other than the odds that you are worried about? I don't want to pry and it really isn't any of my business but what do you feel in your heart and what is your intuition telling you?

We'll my intuition says 50%, I don't know for shure though, she till gets mason she thinks  looking up trans related stuff even if I'm not,she let's me dress sometimes, but don't like me wearing makeup, and she has said that when she looks at me I look like a woman(when I'm dressed) and it freaks her out, she didn't marry a woman she married a man,(we'll she married a woman wether she knew it or not) she is controlling about things, even this website, she gets mad when I'm on here, even though it helps me cope with gid, and I've told her this, she has came along way but I think she is still on the fence, there's other past issues to, before she knew I was trans she was real controlling, always trying to tell me what to do.  About a user ago something happened that made me lose trust in her for a while, but she told me about it on her own accord which gave me the strength to come out to her. I do love her so much. I've got tot read lightly so tha what ever happens she doesn't try and keep my daughter from me. With the rest if my family I think it almost be better to burn those bridges, I think it be easier on them if they hated me or atleast didn't want nothing to do with me. I could bear that burden easier than watching them suffer bc of my transition. I don't know hopefully it will work, I'm not so shure, I don love in the Deep South. Thanks for you support sweetheart.

[pianoforte]

Congratulations on your little daughter.

I hope you and your wife are able to work through things together as they come -- maybe a marriage therapist could help? Especially one who knows gender dysphoria issues.

You deserve to be able to be yourself, express yourself, and live as yourself. It doesn't make you selfish or bad.

[Cristyjade30]

Congratulations on your little daughter.

I hope you and your wife are able to work through things together as they come -- maybe a marriage therapist could help? Especially one who knows gender dysphoria issues.

You deserve to be able to be yourself, express yourself, and live as yourself. It doesn't make you selfish or bad.

Thanks so much, I do feel bad all the time though, I thought when I met my wife I could just "decide" not to be that way. I knew I was trans, but didn't know that it was something you couldn't decide on, there wasn't a lot of info on it back then in the south, and last year there was a traumatic event that kinda bought Cristy roaring back to life. And I hate myself sometimes for not telling her back then. I just didn't know any better. So I'm going to start hormones soon, so we will see how she handles the changes. And see if she sticks around.  I am on the fence as to what to do?  I should have atleast a year? Before I need to worry about it I hope. Thanks yaw

[Jess42]

Thanks so much, I do feel bad all the time though, I thought when I met my wife I could just "decide" not to be that way. I knew I was trans, but didn't know that it was something you couldn't decide on, there wasn't a lot of info on it back then in the south, and last year there was a traumatic event that kinda bought Cristy roaring back to life. And I hate myself sometimes for not telling her back then. I just didn't know any better. So I'm going to start hormones soon, so we will see how she handles the changes. And see if she sticks around.  I am on the fence as to what to do?  I should have atleast a year? Before I need to worry about it I hope. Thanks yaw

Really, there is nothing to feel bad about Cristy. Sometimes we can't decide to just not be this way or that way. Sometimes what we think and what life has in store for us does not match just like with our bodies and our minds. I feel bad for you, but don't think you have a whole year. She will probably notice a lot sooner than that. I really wish you the best of luck.

[Cristyjade30]

Really, there is nothing to feel bad about Cristy. Sometimes we can't decide to just not be this way or that way. Sometimes what we think and what life has in store for us does not match just like with our bodies and our minds. I feel bad for you, but don't think you have a whole year. She will probably notice a lot sooner than that. I really wish you the best of luck.

She knows I'm going to start hrt, she just doesn't want me to transition, just at home, and not all the time, I can't get her to research the topic at all, I told her that my body could react bery we'll to hrt, and then I would look like a girl trying to wear men's clothes, but atleast she knows  not going to be happy unless I atleast start hrt, and she knows I'm depressed all the time, and that I want to transition. But anyway I'll keeps everybody updated. Thanks