If told you would lose your ability to orgasm would you still have transitioned?

[Kaylee Angelia]

I had a minor orgasm once just from eating dark chocolate.

Yes, I've experienced the same thing from biting into a cupcake from a bakery where you could just "feel" the love they'd put into their baking. It was an extraordinary experience...

[Breenyan]

it's half and half. on one hand, it's not critical to me, on the other hand, it's nice to have.  main thing for me is that as long as i'm able to show my love for my future spouse and as long as they are happy with me as myself, i'm going to be happy with my life.

[Violet Bloom]

I'd like to subscribe to your newsletter. How do I achieve a "ground shaking, tremor causing, mind numbing orgasm" too? Any secrets of the M2F kind to share?
Might it require a swing set?

I like swings, but I wouldn't want anyone misinterpreting possible thoughts about 'getting off in a playground'!

  Another important difference in my 'orgasmic development' I think was that as a male I focused so much on 'holding back'.  There's so much pressure put on men to 'perform' and 'last long'.  I'd heard that masturbating quickly would condition a quick end and I got paranoid that I'd just end up being a let down to women.  I was also virtually in-orgasmic as a male and had to work hard at drawing out the experience long-enough to get any sort of rewarding sensations out of it.

  Now that I've changed focus I've learned how to ignore and restrict my male-type responses better without so much conscious effort and I'm able to relax and just immerse myself fully in responding to the right kinds of stimulation.  Most times now when I'm masturbating in some form I'm not ejaculating at all which makes the whole situation less stressful and I don't have to worry about containing or making a mess.  Every time I've had spontaneous orgasms now it has been fully clothed and without any physical touch.  This is a true joy and completely freeing.

  The simple fact is I now have no hang-ups about having an orgasm as quickly as I can and whenever I want.  It feels fully natural as compared to how it went before with so much going through my mind that distracted from success.  My learning began somewhat by accident but it taught me what my body was capable of and how to 'go with the flow'.  I'm pretty certain that HRT is now helping this progression but the change began entirely in the mind.  It's a bit tough to put all of this into words and guidance but I can certainly say I'm now part of the "ground shaking, tremor causing, mind numbing orgasm" club!

[Rachelicious]

I actually told my SRS doctors that I cared more about looks than feel. So being that I ended up nicely sensate after Pichet's work, the hypothetical question is a little silly.

[Christine Eryn]

I'd like to subscribe to your newsletter. How do I achieve a "ground shaking, tremor causing, mind numbing orgasm" too? Any secrets of the M2F kind to share?

Might it require a swing set?

Well, I do write science fiction and have written poems for years. I guess I could do a steamy romance novel or "how to" book, one with popups and illustrations. 

[lorena]

Ideally I would like to be able to have orgasms...but right know all I want is for the erections to go away, male orgasm offers me very little pleasure and really the whole package is more a source of frustration. In a way I wish I did not have to worry about orgasms any more, or at least for now. Maybe later I could explore that aspect of my life once my transition is more advanced

[Rose City Rose]

Well, at the time I chose to transition, my dysphoria was so bad I could barely orgasm anyway.  I had made a promise to myself that when the potential rewards out-weighed the potential risks that I would double up on my efforts to get treatment and begin transitioning and that's what I did. 

To my pleasant surprise, all this time on HRT and both my fiance and I notice a definite improvement in my sexual response even if I still don't enjoy any time I have to touch my genitals.

Now I'm looking at surgery... I have to say from where I stand now, if I could orgasm post-op and had no major complications, having a vagina would definitely be an improvement, but if I lost the ability to orgasm completely or ended up with severe complications, then I'd definitely regret it.  I can't see how I would be displeased unless something went wrong and it's only the prospect of something going wrong that stops me...

...for now.  There may come a day when the rewards outweigh the risks, and I take the chance just like I did with every other stage of my transition.

[Handy]

Yes I would still transition. The ability to orgasm was never even a factor in the decision; it was literally a matter of such sustained, lifelong, crippling depression it boiled down to transition or killing myself. That said, the whole orgasm thing was irrelevant for me, given I've been so painfully dysphoric about that body part my ENTIRE life I could never bring myself to touch it or allow anyone else to for that matter.

[Riley Skye]

I would tell them to ->-bleeped-<- off and find a way to orgasm while transitioning.....and it is ->-bleeped-<-ing great!

[TaoRaven]

I certainly would still transition.

But...although my ability to have those nasty male style orgasms are gone.....I now get to enjoy the female type....and those are PRICELESS.

Hope I still get to enjoy those after surgery, but I would even risk THOSE to be complete.

[Sephirah]

This is somewhat of a non-issue for me, so were I ever fortunate enough to be in a position to undergo SRS, orgasm would be largely irrelevant.

Although afterwards I might get a tattoo, just below my navel, saying something along the lines of: Abandon all hope, ye who enter here, with a little downward pointing arrow.

[lana777]

Going into my whole transition i was led to believe that i would not be able to orgasm ....and i still went through with it... THANK GOD! i still can ... and whew!!! its amazing. better then pre op orgasm for me

[Kassie]

If I cannot no problem if I can I guess all the better that is not why I want to do it

[Jess42]

This is somewhat of a non-issue for me, so were I ever fortunate enough to be in a position to undergo SRS, orgasm would be largely irrelevant.

Although afterwards I might get a tattoo, just below my navel, saying something along the lines of: Abandon all hope, ye who enter here, with a little downward pointing arrow.

I want a tramp stamp. Just below my naval if I wanted to put a tat there it would be something like,"Welcome to Heaven and then I'm gonna' take you to Hell and back." Can't really say "Welcome to the Jungle" though.