I was going to post a "downer" thread and then saw the joy in the posts around, and decided it is far better to do the opposite.
What gifts of validation have you experienced when you have gone out in public authentic to your core presentation, or just plain out in a way you could be read?
Last night, and I spoke of this a moment ago on another thread but this one will spin it 180 degrees, last night I was out with my wife and the most transphobic of my daughters (she has GAD, so I get it, her disorder wreaks havoc with acceptance since I was always her rock) - but I was out and they wanted an ice cream. I pulled up to a mcDonalds drive through and handed the girl the cash, and she said "OMG what beautiful nails, they're so shiny! Wish mine looked like that." This in front of my wife, who cannot handle me being out. She can when not in public, but she has trouble when out. She made a comment but it was weak.... she knows I don't compromise on clear polish and nails, its the only trans representation I have outside unless my shirt is tight...
This kid in the drive through did more for me than anyone else has. Just a genuine "that's so cool" attitude for the genderqueer driver.
So, what nice validations have you experienced that you would like to share, for the good of all here... this should be a nice feel good thread.
Love to all here, nails out and slowly growing (I broke 9 out of 10 on a project
), hair growing sooooo slowly, and out to many now that know me.
Its so cool when you out yourself and the response is "Oh that's so cool". Happened last Friday on the job too.... came out to a coworker. But I choose them carefully, wish I had more guts, but baby steps are still steps forward, and ass..oles will be themselves, won't they.
Blessings.
SJ Satinjoy, blended genders right now, my button would have to be one that's 3D and changes every time you move the angle, as do I....
