I thought the article was well written for what it was, an experience.
An article that explained it, instead of how it was experienced would have been better.
But I liked it, it was well written, the timing and the way it conveyed some feelings, was good.
I wish I could write that well...
But I can't,.. I can however give one explanation for it, why it was an experience that way.
People think in terms of a lot of different things that have 'ends' on them.
Good and bad, is simple enough.
Here and there.
Top and bottom.
Empty or full (that glass of water thing, get over it, it's a glass with water in it)
There are a lot of ways to look at things this way.
There are also times that we don't have to make a choice at all.
Mustard and ketchup? No thank you, I'll have it plain...
It is easily done.
The preoccupation with gender stems from maybe pro-creation, but it is also a way to take it and use it as a way to make oneself superior.
Battle of the sexes is a result of that, feminism is too. It works the suppressed and suppressor difference.
Why is it one way and not the other, what is different between them, always an impression is made.
Put into the context of top and bottom, good and bad, why is it so hard to understand?
You can well imagine a person could be anywhere in those examples.
It is just as easy to not put someone in a spectrum, and imaginary thing to begin with, as all of those are simply imagined, they are concepts.
How much reality you put into them, how much your thinking can be limited by thinking that those concepts are absolute is very limiting when you put something as simple as gender into the mix.
You can easily think of at least, over the top, over flowed, no glass at all, it's Schrodinger's perhaps.
This thing too about wiring, yep they have seen the kinds of binary and where trans people are in them.
But the thing they have also found, is that there are people who are somewhere in the middle of that.
It isn't hard to imagine that they could find a version of wiring that has none of those characteristics.
The idea that we are wired as binary has been proven by the same methods, FMRI as they have seen the binary versions of trans and can match them to cis versions that are close to the same.
But they have in fact also found that there are indeed, people who in those scans, are in between.
They show different varieties of wiring, it's finally interesting to some as if they just discovered non-binary!
Binary is a social construct, one that science has repeatedly proven through studies that there are indeed people who are neither or both.
They have experienced neither in their findings and can't understand it, because they are looking for what their world view is, binary.
But why do you think it is so ingrained into your mind as that there can only be one or the other, that most are at the ends of this?
Is it to hard to even imagine that the most is in the center and thins out towards the ends?
Or that it is like the powerball, if graphed out with time, it's a straight line between the lowest and highest number used...
It is an agreed upon solution to simplify the suppressed and the suppressors in society, and it is confusing to those who put their faith in this one or the other thinking, you bought it, you own it and since you own it, it is better than anyone elses...
Pretty much sums it up as believing in something that is little more than a simple concept in a complex world.
Is that really the limits to peoples thinking? I don't think so, but there those who insist.
But they also fall into a line with ends in societies thinking. Love and Hate. Bigots fall right in there somewhere.
There's all kinds of different words that are used to describe that spectrum...
Some of them people are down right proud to be a spot, a point, defend that little castle of thinking with what ever they have left over.
Why is it so hard to put gender into that kind of thinking, to be able to imagine and let you see that binary is a concept, a social structure?
No I don't want mustard, I'll have ketchup.
But for me, I'll have both, mix them together right there on top...
Or I don't want any, thank you.
Binaries have to decide if they want mustard or ketchup, but you know it doesn't always work that way, so why would you let your mind be confined by a gender concept that comes from the want of one or the other?
Because you bought in to it, as if it is a real thing, and you own it and now you have to prove it, and one way is to shut down your thinking, to deny yourself that you did indeed buy into it, a concept that is imaginary.
This is so true, look at the forest structure right here, for some of you it is imaginary, because you can't let go of the idea that what you bought into isn't real.
Dammit, you paid for it, didn't you, you did buy it, it must be real...
It is imaginary, we use it to break down that concept that appears to be a reality, try to break it away from the thinking.
We do that by talking as if it is a real thing, just like you talk about the imaginary thing you bought.
We just didn't buy it, it's imagination, we made it up to explain a different way to see your concept of gender.
I thought the article was good, I to could feel the anguish, I do all the time.
I live in the same world as the article was written in.
I thought it was biased to excuse the cis thinking, that it's just so hard and to have a little pity for their confusion because they refuse to accept something that is outside of their view that they have bought...
It was written very well that way and a lot of cis people will understand it that way.
It wasn't so hard for a trans person to get the feelings of a trans person going to college, many people here have had a similar experience.
It is easy for a non-binary, no binary person to get it and understand it, it isn't so hard when you haven't bought in to the cisietal view that they consider to be the only way because it is theirs and they own it.
I get it because I never bought that concept, my thinking is without that, I can only see gender for what it is.
It is what you want it to be. Or not be. You can use a mask or not. Some of us came with a mask.
It really isn't about learning something new, it's about getting rid of something handed down like an heirloom, it has been owned for generations.
Simply put that concept in your closet, walk out and lock the door behind you. There is a real world waiting for you to experience.
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