I just talked to my grandmother yesterday.
It went better than expected, as good as it could possibly be I think. I haven't talked to her since the family reunion in July, because I wanted to come out to her then, but it just wasn't to be at the time (I was dressed fairly andro to femme-andro during the weekend). I finally just wrote her a letter (3 pages!!!) to tell her and asking her to cal me at my new number as I knew she would have questions.
She called yesterday morning. Said she got my letter on Saturday, and read it over multiple times. She said she expected something, but not this. She also said that she would have a hard time seeing me as her granddaughter, but would always love me and I would always be welcome in her home. Grandmother was using the excuse of being old (well, she is 84?, and not doing the greatest healthwise, just old age issues mainly). I get it, and will respect her for being honest and open about her concerns. We both acknowledged the need for time to be able to adjust thinking.
Luckily, Grandmother (yes, that is what she is called) was a high school guidance counselor for years, and so understands that this is a real psychological issue that needs to be addressed, and not just something made up or out there (her words) that she thinks my parents might think about it. Most of her concerns involved my kids, and the impact and effect my transitioning would have on them and that she would not be cut off from them.
Now... on to my brother (whom I am a bit estranged from, and is a very conservative "Christian"), and the extended family on that side... One cousin already knows.
