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Started by amber roskamp, November 07, 2014, 01:20:56 PM

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what is your sexual orientation?

gay
22 (16.7%)
bisexual
41 (31.1%)
straight
25 (18.9%)
pansexual
26 (19.7%)
asexual
18 (13.6%)

Total Members Voted: 119

amber roskamp

I wish there was more options so I could put not sure or other. this is just something I am curious about. I think it is intresting when you compare the differences between cis people's sexuality versus trans people's sexuality.
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FTMax

I believe that sexuality is fluid, and as a result I usually self-identify as queer or pansexual. I've been attracted to pretty much everyone under the sun except cisgender males, and I do strongly prefer being with women.
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amber roskamp

I agree with the fluid sexuality thing.  I actually am unsure of my sexuality.  I have only ever dated and slept with women. So I put gay but there are times when im more sure that im gay and times where I doubt it.
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PucksWaywardSon

Only ever been with cisguys. Still working out what I want now/if I'm really comfortable getting into anything. Definitely still only attracted to guys at the moment so I guess that would make me gay..? Still not really out as transitioning to the world yet so I guess I feel like that would sort of rely on being able to convince another guy that I am one.
Identifying As: Gamer Nerd, Aspiring actor, Wanderer, Shakespeare junkie. Transguy. time I lost the probably there... Hi, I'm Jamie.
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MelissaAnn

This is a very interesting question for me because all of my life. I have been attracted only to women, so I have considered myself straight, but now that I have come to terms with who I am and that I am transitioning. Does that make me a lesbian? But on the other hand right now anyway. I believe I would be tempted to take my new girl parts on a joyride(don't judge me) does this make me bisexual. I guess what I'm saying is I'm not 100% sure right now, but leaning towards lesbian.

amber roskamp

Quote from: MelissaAnn on November 07, 2014, 04:12:33 PM
This is a very interesting question for me because all of my life. I have been attracted only to women, so I have considered myself straight, but now that I have come to terms with who I am and that I am transitioning. Does that make me a lesbian? But on the other hand right now anyway. I believe I would be tempted to take my new girl parts on a joyride(don't judge me) does this make me bisexual. I guess what I'm saying is I'm not 100% sure right now, but leaning towards lesbian.
Im in the same boat as you as far as only being attracted to women but at the same time wanting to experiment with men.
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Jenelle

This boat is getting crowded ;)

Except for a handful of men I have only been attracted to women and with those men I believe it was more of who they were and their energy that attracted me than there bodies.

BUT I can definitely see some experimentation in my future.
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Pikachu

I'm 100% lesbian. Never experienced any fluidity in my sexuality, and at this point, I really doubt I ever will. Plus, I've found the only woman I ever want to be with. <3
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Nicole

I clicked straight, but pre-everything I was into females, that slowly changed over time and now I'm 100% into guys.
However I still love and find the female form sexy, more so than the male form, but having said that, it doesn't do it for me for some reason
Yes! I'm single
And you'll have to be pretty f'ing amazing to change that
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Ash

Pre everything currently but only ever been interested in guys.
The odd time I was with a girl, it just like meh, or ew  :-X
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Alexis2107

I had to put straight.  There needs to be a new orientation for those who are biologically one gender, chemically another gender, but attracted to the opposite sex of their biological gender (pre-op).  I like men.  I told my therapist I am a straight woman.  I think women are cute, fun to play/explore with, but at the end of the day... I would much rather be with a man.  This is a great topic to give thought to :)
~ Lexi ~

HRT 11/5/14
Full Time woman 3/12/15
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ImagineKate

Today I questioned my sexual orientation in my therapy session. It started as a conversation about my wife and her fears that I'm going to leave her for a man. I don't think I will, then the therapist asked me to seriously consider if I'm attracted to men.

My standard answer for this is that I have imagined myself with a man but I don't generally look at guys on the street or in other social settings.

But all tonight I'm asking myself if I am really attracted to men. And maybe I am. It sounds kind of crazy but I've been having this fantasy lately of how nice it would be to wear a diamond engagement ring. I'm at the point of finding one to try on.

I mean I do love my wife, as in really truly madly love her. But I think if we split I may be open to dating a guy. I guess we will see what happens when I get on HRT if it does anything to my sexual orientation.
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Hex

I started re-questioning my sexuality before I realized I was trans per say. Basically when I bumped into Tumblr side of stuff haha
I was identifying as bisexual from age 15 to 26 then found out what pansexual was and have been going with that because its the label that fits closely with what I feel.
I don't think it matters in the scheme of things as far as my life goes. If I like the person in front of me in /that/ way and they are receptive as well, then awesome.
I'm more likely to be attracted to the type of person they are personality wise than genital/body wise. Of course I still have my likes and dislikes visually too? But it's no where near as important to me as the click I feel with the person instead.

Of course, thinking back to when I found this label, I was also learning to take a new perspective on in life as I learned what trans really was and about how I felt and so on.
I think cis persons can still learn about trans issues and all lgbt things and get a new perspective on things and maybe start to look in a different light if they choose too? So I don't think there's necessarily a difference per say trans vs cis wise. But more so, educational side there might be.
Maybe looking at it as, being trans you're more likely to learn about this subject and be more willing to understand and or relate than say a cis person willingly seeking out this information.
And maybe that's where the difference lays?
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Edge

I'm not or barely ever sexually attracted to people. I think. I don't actually know what it would feel like, so for all I know, I might and just not know it. There may have been one time recently when I was sexually attracted to someone, but that was literally only once for a bit. So I guess that would make me asexual or gray-asexual? Except I like sex which means that most people would not consider me asexual because they don't understand how I could like sex without being sexually attracted to the person. So I guess I'm not.
I don't really care who I have sex with. Which, according to some people, would make me pansexual. Except I'm not pansexual since I'm not sexually attracted to everyone (or anyone). While I understand that it refers to genders and not numbers, I'm still not entirely comfortable calling myself that. This may also be partially because I got really sick of hearing pansexual "allies" claim to be attracted to "men, women, and ->-bleeped-<-s," hearing them talk down to bisexuals despite the fact that most bisexuals mean exactly the same thing just with less offensive slurs, and having them argue with my boyfriend about his sexuality because they do not see me as a man.
I call myself bisexual because, as I said, I really don't care who I have sex with (as long as it's not forced and/or pressured onto me) and I consider it to mean the same as pansexual.
I've only ever had sex with men and generally prefer them for dysphoria reasons and feeling like I'm able to click with them better. (I have no idea why.) So I sometimes call myself gay and many people assume I'm gay. This probably isn't fair to guys who genuinely are 100% gay, but it's difficult not to feel like the label at least partially fits when I've exclusively slept with guys.

In short, anything that isn't straight or lesbian.
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Jo-is-amazing

I identity as pansexual, simply because even though I am a Sexual creature I'm not particularly attracted to any gender. So in terms of getting me all steamy someone's body regardless of how amazing it is just won't do it for me. Instead I'm attracted to certain personality types and traits, and they tend to go across gender boundaries - so that's why Im pansexual :)
I am the self proclaimed Queen of procrastination
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Jill F

I don't get hung up on orientation labels.  I'm trans and therefore beyond queer anyway.  I just like awesome people, and hey, anything goes.  I don't impose limits upon myself.

Actually, these days I'm pretty much asexual, but that will change when I'm finally packing a vag.
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PinkCloud

HRT made me heterosexual, and I now like guys. Before HRT and SRS I was dating women. I tried to ask myself how this could change. But that question became meaningless and pointless in the end. I just accepted my new sexuality. I feel nothing for woman anymore. I do think that HRT can change orientation. Seen it happen in quite a few people.
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amber roskamp

Quote from: PinkCloud on November 07, 2014, 07:45:36 PM
HRT made me heterosexual, and I now like guys. Before HRT and SRS I was dating women. I tried to ask myself how this could change. But that question became meaningless and pointless in the end. I just accepted my new sexuality. I do think that HRT can change orientation. Seem it in quite a few people.

Its funny that you said this because me and my therapist were talking and he said that many people who were hetero before their transition then up being hetero afterwards. I think it is highly unlikely that I would lose my attraction to women, but I am going to experiment I do not plan on denying myself of any sexual urge just because of my sexuality. I do not think I could ever be in a relationship with a man though.
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amber roskamp

Quote from: Alexis2107 on November 07, 2014, 05:30:33 PM
I had to put straight.  There needs to be a new orientation for those who are biologically one gender, chemically another gender, but attracted to the opposite sex of their biological gender (pre-op).  I like men.  I told my therapist I am a straight woman.  I think women are cute, fun to play/explore with, but at the end of the day... I would much rather be with a man.  This is a great topic to give thought to :)

I identify as a women (I am pre every thing) and attracted to women so I identify as a lesbian. why does there have to be a new label?
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cindianna_jones

My husband of 23 years just left me for a "real woman" and now I am wondering about this very question. I have not a clue! I think that I'd like to date a woman just to see how I feel.

Cindi
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