sexual orientation

[Illuminess]

I say I'm asexual, because I really don't care. It isn't something that's ever on my mind. If I ever end up in a relationship again they'd have to be on the same page. Even if I wanted to go there it would have to be after SRS, and I don't imagine I'll ever have the money for that.

[Susan522]

...I now like guys. Before HRT and SRS I was dating women. I tried to ask myself how this could change. But that question became meaningless and pointless in the end. I just accepted my new sexuality.... I do think that HRT can change orientation. Seen it happen in quite a few people.

I actually agree with this 100% although I cannot say that I feel absolutely "nothing" for women.  I like women and find some of them highly attractive in more of a sensual/emotional/intellectual, non sexual way.  I think that the key word in the statement above and also in the current vernacular is "orientation".  This is to say that while I am "oriented" towards men, and have become more than accustomed to most everything involved with sex with a man, (to the point of personal preference), I cannot say with total certainty that I will never engage sexually with another woman as I have on rare occasion in the past.

If it happens it will most likely be that the opportunity is presented to me by someone who I find attractive and sufficiently alluring to overcome my normal reticence to casual sex.  As I said, it has happened in y past and could very well happen again, but my preference, my orientation, is for the male of the species.

[amber roskamp]

I put gay down but I definitely feel my sexuality is pretty fluid. I definitely usually find women more attractive but there are times when I kind of want to go for guys. its really confusing when this happens.

I wonder if how I will feel after hormones because it sounds like many people's orientation changes often.
its funny that actually came up at therapy last night how hormones my make me straight. lol im like "no!!!! I don't wanna be straight !!!!"lol.

actually I was like ok if that happens then whatever.... GIVE ME HORMONES lol

[Pikachu]

lol. I wouldn't worry about it, Amber. Some people say their sexuality changed after hormones, some say it didn't, some say their original preference strengthened... so you might become super gay instead.

[Sarah Elizabeth]

lol. I wouldn't worry about it, Amber. Some people say their sexuality changed after hormones, some say it didn't, some say their original preference strengthened... so you might become super gay instead.

Can't stop laughing q.q

I went with asexual, I've just never had any leaning, I just like affection and never really cared about sex. Could just be the loathing I have for a certain -something- of mine all these years, but I'm definitely curious if HRT will change my feelings on the matter next month.

[Danielle Emmalee]

I put pansexual, but I'm really just queer

[Illuminess]

Not talking sexually or romantically, but I've always been attracted to anyone who was aesthetically pleasing. I've never been sexually or romantically interested in guys, though. Every one of my male friends — with all their different personalities — have a consistent thing about them that would just be repulsive to me in a romantic situation. It's just that "guy thing", I suppose. I resonate with women, including tomboyish types. The tomboy/dyke girls have certain characteristics of men that aren't annoying while still maintaining feminine qualities. Plus, the female body is just more aesthetically and tactilely pleasing, and penises are frightening. I don't think HRT would change my mind on that.

[amber roskamp]

lol. I wouldn't worry about it, Amber. Some people say their sexuality changed after hormones, some say it didn't, some say their original preference strengthened... so you might become super gay instead.

one can only hope that's the case lol.

[Natalie]

 There is no mystery to me. Bisexual through and through. I am only attracted to girls or guys...no other deviations.

[amber roskamp]

I just read a article that said that only about 3.4 percent of the country self identified as lgbt or unsure or other. its so crazy that there is such a huge difference.

though I don't believe the number is accurate bc some people are in the closet, it so interesting that there is such a huge difference in how trans people are oriented compared to cis people. it blows my mind.

[Edge]

I have so far had a few "straight" male friends (and one "straight" ex) come out as bi to me as well as a few people who came out to me as non-binary. Considering how low of a percentage LGBT people are supposed to be, I'm surprised by how many I seem to run into.

[ErinS]

I have so far had a few "straight" male friends (and one "straight" ex) come out as bi to me as well as a few people who came out to me as non-binary. Considering how low of a percentage LGBT people are supposed to be, I'm surprised by how many I seem to run into.

I think the percentage is a lot higher than reported, with girls "experimenting" and guys doing mental flips like insisting it's not gay if they top or the other guy is really effeminate.

[ImagineKate]

There is no mystery to me. Bisexual through and through. I am only attracted to girls or guys...no other deviations.

Yeah I am thinking I might be bi. Time will tell though. That said I love my wife, as in love her a lot and it's way more than physical attraction.

[Edge]

I think the percentage is a lot higher than reported, with girls "experimenting" and guys doing mental flips like insisting it's not gay if they top or the other guy is really effeminate.

Yeah. The bi guys I know don't seem to care if they're bi, but at least one of them keep/kept up the appearance of being straight to avoid drama (we live in a kind of conservative city), a couple didn't want their parents to know, and I'm not sure about the others.

[amber roskamp]

Yea I think trans people are genrally more open about our sexuality because we already have the trans stigma attached to us.  Do you think cis poeple would have similar numbers to ours if they were more honest about their sexuality?

Or does the fact that we go across or outside of gender boundaries make us more likely to be les/gay/bi/pan/a/fluid/queer?

Maybe we just think about our sexuality more then the average cis person as an effort to be as genuine as we can be to ourself?

[Tessa James]

The labels just don't matter for me and bi, pan or queer are as close as I can find.  It is the individuals and the relationship we create and share that matters.  I have loved and been loved by all sorts.  That has not changed for me with transition.  My wife and I are comfortably affectionate and people who do not know us seem to consider us a lesbian couple now.  We find it very curious that I get a kind of affirmation for being a girl as a result of their discrimination and disapproval when all we are doing is holding hands or sitting close together.  Like one of the fun lines from the "Transparent" amazon series; "so we were gay married before it was legal."

I agree with you Amber and the trans people I know have considerably easier time being honest about orientation.  I mean sheesh we are already outlaws to some

[kittylover]

I really like girls ....but I don't like the idea of myself being straight . Is that weird?

[Marcellow]

So far, I'm straight and like only girls but it can change the further I am on HRT.

[amber roskamp]

I really like girls ....but I don't like the idea of myself being straight . Is that weird?

It's kinda strange. Not gonna lie lol.

But im actually in the same boat as far as not even wanting too be straight. But I know I'm not straight at this point in time because I'm more attracted to women.

[GnomeKid]

I really like girls ....but I don't like the idea of myself being straight . Is that weird?

hah.. I kind of identify as a male lesbian...

In truth though I'm straight.  I completely agree with Kittylover.... The idea of calling myself straight is so gross to me.  In my group of friends its typically been a 4-letter word. (with 8 letters...)