Do I Look, or Could I Pass, as Female? 4.0

[Cole 1994]

Hey Cole,
You have a really pretty face try not to cover it up so much, also dont be afraid to show some body shape and skin; like some cute skinny jeans and a cute blouse with an open jacket (not so puffy as the one your wearing).

But your doing the right thing with your makeup, less is definitely more! It gives you a gorgeous natural look.
Maybe try having a look on 'Pinterest' for outfit ideas. That has helped me amazingly.

Thank you!! That's very kind. But I was just trying to be very casual with my clothing. This is my mom's jacket and some pants I got from the girl section at urban outfitters. I do like to wear cute outfits but you gotta dress down some days! I just wanted to see if I could pass dressing down/comfy. I guess it gives me no shape which could be an issue. I do have a bit of shape on my chest, but again its hard to see with a jacket on. I need help on being casual, I guess is what I am going for! Any suggestions on that end?

[Sarah]

Thank you!! That's very kind. But I was just trying to be very casual with my clothing. This is my mom's jacket and some pants I got from the girl section at urban outfitters. I do like to wear cute outfits but you gotta dress down some days! I just wanted to see if I could pass dressing down/comfy. I guess it gives me no shape which could be an issue. I do have a bit of shape on my chest, but again its hard to see with a jacket on.

The jacket is the main issue, maybe a thin leather one would suit you better. It would be a bit more form fitting and help with shape. Plus as a style you dont necessarily have to zip it up, have it open with a long scarf.
Dressing down is always a good tell, just be careful what you wear. You can definitely dress down and be super casual but still really cute, look at these.

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/6a/59/05/6a59053bf92167d9f790214a7b2a951f.jpg/

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[Cole 1994]

The jacket is the main issue, maybe a thin leather one would suit you better. It would be a bit more form fitting and help with shape. Plus as a style you dont necessarily have to zip it up, have it open with a long scarf.
Dressing down is always a good tell, just be careful what you wear. You can definitely dress down and be super casual but still really cute, look at these.

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/6a/59/05/6a59053bf92167d9f790214a7b2a951f.jpg/

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/64/d3/f0/64d3f040d0c64aa3e7556479164b12cb.jpg

Thank you!! I appreciate the suggestions

[SarahSchilling]

The jacket is the main issue, maybe a thin leather one would suit you better. It would be a bit more form fitting and help with shape. Plus as a style you dont necessarily have to zip it up, have it open with a long scarf.
Dressing down is always a good tell, just be careful what you wear. You can definitely dress down and be super casual but still really cute, look at these.

This is great advice. I could not agree more about the jacket. I also think the scarf is a little.....roomy? I would stretch that thing out on the bed and fold it so it's more of a strip of fabric than a rectangle. I think that would look better.

Then again I just wear jeans and sweaters when its cold, so what do I know? lol....I do wear scarves often though.

[SaiyaDarkfire]

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[Summer]

Well this is me 6 month mark I feel amazing my transition is about me been me but in saying that I would love to pass as we all would.
don't quiet think I'm there yet[emoji12]


And I have to do it as much as it kills me I'm still wearing my wig every where but just thought I would show 6 months hair growth. Had a number 1 full head shave when I started hrt

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[Leila]

I was so inspired to beat my face with makeup this morning and had to take a selfie By the way, the pics on this thread blows me away - such beautiful women xoxo

April

Wow April... definitely in the pass region. You're coming along nicely in your transition. :3

You've inspired me hon, I may have to break out the kabuki brushes and get face painting. LOL

[Alyssa Rae]

Pics of me taken last night.  Four months on HRT.  Minimal makeup, just badly done eyeshadow and lipstick.  As always, any advice or constructive criticism is appreciated.  I really hope I can go full time in the near future, but I'm scared to death and really unsure if I'm really passable or people are being nice.  I take all the praise and criticism to heart.  I feel like I've really changed radically between months 3 and 4.  Both physically and emotionally.  Thank you for your input!

[April_TO]

Leila, thank you so much for your kind words  . Imaginekate inspired me to lightly batter my face with make up.
Make-up has been an obsession sadly and I need to temper it as it costs so much $$$

Love, go and batter that face up and show us that pretty face of yours.

hugs and kisses,

April

Wow April... definitely in the pass region. You're coming along nicely in your transition. :3

You've inspired me hon, I may have to break out the kabuki brushes and get face painting. LOL

[April_TO]

Amazing progress Summer you look so different.
HRT has really work its magic on you. I'm on the same boat with hair - take biotin and don't wash your hair everyday.
I swear it will grow long faster.

xxx

April

Well this is me 6 month mark I feel amazing my transition is about me been me but in saying that I would love to pass as we all would.
don't quiet think I'm there yet[emoji12]


And I have to do it as much as it kills me I'm still wearing my wig every where but just thought I would show 6 months hair growth. Had a number 1 full head shave when I started hrt

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[Alyx Vox]

I'll throw my ugly mug into the mix for a good measure.
No, I don't pass, not at all.
No, I don't want to use make-up yet: the point is to look female without.
Yes, I've been on HRT for over a year now.
Yes, I am planning for FFS in a couple of years.
Just need the cash and the appropriate time for it.
Money can solve any problem, especially the ones I have.

[Mariah]

Well this is me 6 month mark I feel amazing my transition is about me been me but in saying that I would love to pass as we all would.
don't quiet think I'm there yet[emoji12]


And I have to do it as much as it kills me I'm still wearing my wig every where but just thought I would show 6 months hair growth. Had a number 1 full head shave when I started hrt

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Sunmer you have come along ways. You pass much more than you think. I agree with April to not wash your hair everyday. Admittedly it's a habit I need to break too. Hugs
Mariah


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[Leila]

Leila, thank you so much for your kind words  . Imaginekate inspired me to lightly batter my face with make up.
Make-up has been an obsession sadly and I need to temper it as it costs so much $$$

Love, go and batter that face up and show us that pretty face of yours.

hugs and kisses,

April

It was starting to get dark by the time I put the slap on, but I managed to get a few photos taken before it got too dark.

Password as before is letmein http://s36.photobucket.com/user/iam_leila/library/image_3

[April_TO]

Um Leila, I seriously had to sit right up from lounging in my bed and look at that gorgeous face of yours.
Babe, you are a hot chick. This is the LOOK! Beautiful, Graceful and Innocent - Love it.

I just couldn't stop myself from posting your pic. I AM SO EXCITED for you LOL 

It was starting to get dark by the time I put the slap on, but I managed to get a few photos taken before it got too dark.

Password as before is letmein http://s36.photobucket.com/user/iam_leila/library/image_3

[April_TO]

Babe the feeling is mutual. You are a hottie xoxo
April

You look so lovely!!

[April_TO]

Ok dont hate me for saying this but I don't think you need FFS.
Just shaping your brows and using minimal makeup will save you lots $$$
You are beautiful, just let the hair grow and you'll be fine.

xxx

April

I'll throw my ugly mug into the mix for a good measure.
No, I don't pass, not at all.
No, I don't want to use make-up yet: the point is to look female without.
Yes, I've been on HRT for over a year now.
Yes, I am planning for FFS in a couple of years.
Just need the cash and the appropriate time for it.
Money can solve any problem, especially the ones I have.

[Leila]

Um Leila, I seriously had to sit right up from lounging in my bed and look at that gorgeous face of yours.
Babe, you are a hot chick. This is the LOOK! Beautiful, Graceful and Innocent - Love it.

I just couldn't stop myself from posting your pic. I AM SO EXCITED for you LOL 

Aww thanks babe :3

It has been ages since I put on all the make up, but I took your challenge on. I usually just cheat and put a little eyeliner, brow pencil and lippy on. Discovered in the process I need a new cosmetic pencil sharpener, the blade has dulled and kept breaking the lead on one of the pencils. *grrr*

[ImagineKate]

I'll throw my ugly mug into the mix for a good measure.
No, I don't pass, not at all.
No, I don't want to use make-up yet: the point is to look female without.
Yes, I've been on HRT for over a year now.
Yes, I am planning for FFS in a couple of years.
Just need the cash and the appropriate time for it.
Money can solve any problem, especially the ones I have.

Hi Alyx,

It's kind of hard to see with your natural hair. Do you have a wig? I am so sorry but I think the (lack of) hair will gender you male almost instantly. With the right hair your face shouldn't matter as much and it would be easier to do a proper assessment.

Also your eyebrows. Shaping them is often the single most feminizing thing one can do to a face without surgery or even hormones.

[Serena]

I'll throw my ugly mug into the mix for a good measure.
No, I don't pass, not at all.
No, I don't want to use make-up yet: the point is to look female without.
Yes, I've been on HRT for over a year now.
Yes, I am planning for FFS in a couple of years.
Just need the cash and the appropriate time for it.
Money can solve any problem, especially the ones I have.

Why aren't you trying make up? It's not like you need to wear the Kim Kardashian or a drag queen contouring type of make up, just something in the eyes... It sees weird for me you haven't done any attempt at feminizing, hrt are not magic pills and this is an example, while clothing, right hair, right make up, etc... Can help a lot.

Also, we can't discuss hrt dosages here, but I guess you are on a low dosage, are you full time or part time? or no time at all? One year... Oh well!

[mmmmm]

You all need to understand that different people have different pathway. What might be a comfortable scenario that many do in often similar way, is not for everyone. Some people feel comfortable with androgynous phase (hell, I had androgynous phase for all my life before transition...), some people feel comfortable with going full-time very early, (some even years before hormones) and can deal with not being passable for one or two or more years, while they do their best to learn and improve make-up, experiment with wigs and hair, etc... While some people really don't feel comfortable with even the idea of being unpassable, and choose the different path, maybe one that would follow something like this (just an example): HRT for 3-4 years, staying in completely "male mode" the whole time, without much if any trans(ition) related disruptions, staying in well paid job and saving money, slow coming-out process kept around close family & friends, completely finished all body and facial hair related issues... and then, when the time is right: Quit job, FFS, Voice surgery, SRS, breast augmentation, body feminization (+recovery time) ... follow by change of documents, relocation to a different area/city/country, and live stealth and happily ever after. I know of a few such cases, I'm shure there are many more. So different people have a different needs, and choices to make. Just because many choose to have gradual transition, from male mode, through unpassable phase, to sometimes passable, to almost passable, to really passable, it doesn't mean this is the way everybody feels comfortable with. Many don't, I also didn't. I stayed in my comfortable androgynous mode for until I finished a battle with facial hair, and until I became comfortable enough with my body, despite that I was most of the time gendered female by everyone I met. Then after I knew it's the time, I ditched my "lesbian look" (how my friends described it), went "full-time", and wasn't stared at or clocked since by anybody. I later had FFS for my own reasons, and just in case if maybe someday I want to grow bushy eyebrows, cut my hair completely short with a machine, bring out my hidden "lesbian" clothes and still be percieved as cis-female by everyone (maybe a little crazy cis-female). What I'm trying to say, what works for you, might not work for me, or someone else. The only thing that matter is to not rush anything just for the sake of doing it.. do it when you feel comfortable doing it, and in a way that you feel is the right way.