I got myself into a fix... Weird but nice situation

[ssneha23]

Weird situation for me. I recently moved to a new apartment. The good thing is my neighbors and landlord take me a girl. I can finally be myself and really start living a normal life.

But here is the downside. I am yet to come out at office. Hence I goto office in guy mode. I wonder how my neighbors are going to respond to a girl who cross dresses for work...

Lol.. Any ideas how I can deal with this. There is no way I can tell my landlord I am trans...

[Taka]

change in a public bathroom on your way to work...?

that sounds like a funny situation to end up in.
maybe you could pretend to be your boyfriend.

[Ms Grace]

Come out at work?

[ssneha23]

change in a public bathroom on your way to work...?

that sounds like a funny situation to end up in.
maybe you could pretend to be your boyfriend.

Hehehe acting as my own bf would not work either. And changing in a public rest room on a daily basis is also not a long term solution... [emoji19]

But its so funny . Now that I am finally myself .. I need to sneak my way into being my old horrible self.. Lol.. I am so totally finding this situation soooo hilarious...

But a reality check I need to come out at office asap..

[ssneha23]

Come out at work?

Yes Ms. Grace.. I have initiated the process. But from what I heard is that my firm's HR head is a total lgbt phob.. I will lose my job if I come out at work right now..

[Taka]

just throwing out ridiculous suggestions of bad solutions...
i'm happy if they make you smile.

can your job handle andro?

[ssneha23]

just throwing out ridiculous suggestions of bad solutions...
i'm happy if they make you smile.

can your job handle andro?

No not really. There is a dress code here. Casual formals..

[Munzar]

I would suggest, when u r leaving your house u can wear formal heels shoes and in the car u can change your shoes then again when u r going back Home change your men formal shoe and wear the female formal heels atleast if u wear ladies footwear they won't be suspiciousaabout u and rest u can handle ;-)

[Taka]

does formal andro really not exist...?
there has to be some suit out there that's way less masculine than the norm...

i'm so happy that my job doesn't have any dress code.
some politicians seem to think we should, but as long as they can't make the rest of our town council agree, i'm safe.
and even after that, there are anti discriminatory laws in my country, i think. and female formal wear is just a more feminine cut.

[KarynMcD]

You know, they might just think it's a couple that lives there and have no clue about why they never see you two together.

Just do what superman did, wear glasses.
;-)

[ImagineKate]

Yikes. Looks like your options are slim. You are in India so it is hot and you don't wear outerwear, otherwise I could suggest just wearing a long women's coat and then shedding it before you walk into your workplace.

Hmm...

Do you leave early enough to avoid your landlord? How many times do you cross his path anyway?

[Nicole]

Are you driving to work or pubic transport?

If you're driving, put the male clothes in a bag, walk out the door in your female clothes, slowly changing on the way to work.

[ssneha23]

Yikes. Looks like your options are slim. You are in India so it is hot and you don't wear outerwear, otherwise I could suggest just wearing a long women's coat and then shedding it before you walk into your workplace.

Hmm...

Do you leave early enough to avoid your landlord? How many times do you cross his path anyway?

I wont have to meet my landlord all that much. But the caretaker I will end up crossing everyday.

Kate yes that is exactly what I am going to do for a while. Going to wear a jacket with heels to my car and then shed them on my way to work. At least this solution is probably going to work until March. Hopefully I should be out at work by then.

[ssneha23]

alright! all the best!

Thank you.. [emoji5] [emoji5]

[Paige]

I know this is probably a bad idea, but have you ever considered telling the landlord and caretaker you are trans.  I'm guessing this could make life difficult in India but I'm curious to know if this might be an option.

Paige

[Jess42]

Yes Ms. Grace.. I have initiated the process. But from what I heard is that my firm's HR head is a total lgbt phob.. I will lose my job if I come out at work right now..

Yeah well the HR head may be a total phobe but that would go against any companies discrimination policy. I really don't know how it is in India though. Is there any way to change jobs so you can be the real you?

[ssneha23]

Yeah well the HR head may be a total phobe but that would go against any companies discrimination policy. I really don't know how it is in India though. Is there any way to change jobs so you can be the real you?

No not really I can't change jobs now. Ironically, the US counterpart of my firm has been awarded one of the places in the US for lgbt employees to work at. The sad part is they don't seem to have similar policies in India.

For the long term, I am hoping to finish 1 more year at this place. Get my ffs and legal gender and name change and then move on in stealth to another company.

For now.. I guess I will just have to be the girl who cross dresses for work.. [emoji25] [emoji25]

[Jess42]

No not really I can't change jobs now. Ironically, the US counterpart of my firm has been awarded one of the places in the US for lgbt employees to work at. The sad part is they don't seem to have similar policies in India.

For the long term, I am hoping to finish 1 more year at this place. Get my ffs and legal gender and name change and then move on in stealth to another company.

For now.. I guess I will just have to be the girl who cross dresses for work.. [emoji25] [emoji25]

That sux. Don't you just love double standards though? Your company has a US counterpart? Is there anyway you can get transferred? I know it's scary moving to another country but I went to Korea for two years, military mind you so it was different for me, but still I emersed myslef as much as I could into the Korean culture. If I was a normal worker with a company that had a counterpart there I would be the first to volunteer to go. But being a long way from home can suck if you are don't thrive on being alone and or new experiencing new places.

[ssneha23]

That sux. Don't you just love double standards though? Your company has a US counterpart? Is there anyway you can get transferred? I know it's scary moving to another country but I went to Korea for two years, military mind you so it was different for me, but still I emersed myslef as much as I could into the Korean culture. If I was a normal worker with a company that had a counterpart there I would be the first to volunteer to go. But being a long way from home can suck if you are don't thrive on being alone and or new experiencing new places.

Yep double standards totally suck
Yes I will try and make a transfer if possible.

Btw .. Here is a pic.. This me going to office

https://flic.kr/p/pPtB6u/

[ImagineKate]

Total male fail lol