such a conflicting dillema

[Raelynn]

Not going to get any myself.  I am Native American and I keloid on some of the smallest things, so the last thing I want is to have scars all over my face.  It is going to be hard enough for me to get a tummy tuck where I can hide the scar.

[ImagineKate]

If I pass I'm good. I won't want FFS. My Adam's apple is not really visible either. That 20k can go towards SRS or something else. I'm going to let HRT do it's magic. Work on my voice and see how I pass. If I'm getting misgendered I may go for it but to be honest I don't like the idea of going under the knife.

[JoanneB]

The need for FFS really comes down to an emotional choice. Much like other cosmetic surgeries it is seen as the answer to WHat will make me happier. Many of the worlds most beautiful women had or want some sort of cosmetic surgery. Do they need it? Obviously no. Unless of course they felt the needed it.

At times I wonder what life as an ascended master might be like. None of this trans stuff would matter then. What I looked like, or present as, would not matter. I would always be piece with myself and the world around me. No matter what.  I got a LONG way to go with my personal growth to get even close to that.

If presented with the opportunity to, sure there are plenty of things about me that need tweaking and others I always never liked. First up is an abdominoplasty to supplement loosing almost 1/2 my weight. Perhaps a BA, perhaps a little face work for something that always bothered me. I am at a point where I am sort of happy being in my own skin. Yet I do harbor insecurities. I've had bad experiences as a kid that still haunt me today about being and looking different. If a little facial surgery will help boost my self-confidence, then why not go for it?  Do I need it? No. Do I want it? Kinda yes I guess, today, right now. Tomorrow you'll probably get a different answer

[Ataraxia]

Thanks all, for your insights

I'm still pretty undecided, but I guess it's not something I need to worry about now. Maybe I should just save up for it, and see if I still want it later...

[Kamiki]

There's an issue that I've been a bit conflicted about for a while now. A while back, I came to the decision that I'm never getting FFS, because I won't need it in order to pass. But lately, I've been looking at some amazing FFS results that people have gotten, and it's amazing--even women who didn't need it to pass seem to get it, and it makes them look a lot prettier, more feminine, and most importantly, happier. Which makes me think, maybe even if people don't need FFS, they still might want it. And that's my dilemma: I won't need it, but I still might want it.

I just want to get some other people's opinion on this: would you get FFS even if you didn't need it to pass? Or do you see FFS as kind of an emergency measure that you should only take as a necessity?

I would love to chime in here.

I do not need FFS to pass. I get clocked maybe maybe once or twice a year at this point.

But I want it. I want to look in the mirror and not see those artifacts of masculine pubescence. I want to be as beautiful as I can possibly be.

With how much an augmentation impacted my self confidence I stand pretty confident that FFS will do similar.

Kami

[LizMarie]

Rule of thumb: Most transwomen do not "need" FFS to live successfully. But at the same time, most transwomen would benefit from FFS if they chose to do it.

Natal females constantly tell me I am fine and I am even attractive. Nonetheless, I do plan specific procedures eventually, and will add whatever else my FFS surgeon thinks is required to make everything "work" to the best effect.

[Ataraxia]

Rule of thumb: Most transwomen do not "need" FFS to live successfully. But at the same time, most transwomen would benefit from FFS if they chose to do it.

Natal females constantly tell me I am fine and I am even attractive. Nonetheless, I do plan specific procedures eventually, and will add whatever else my FFS surgeon thinks is required to make everything "work" to the best effect.

That's actually a really good point. I think that a lot of times we just see things that most other people don't. Maybe some minor masculine characteristic or another that to others isn't a big deal, but to us it's all we see, and it's a reminder to us of what we were born as. In that case FFS is for our own peace of mind, rather than for how others see us.