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just need to vent!

Started by Elis, November 27, 2014, 05:28:19 PM

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Elis

So my gf broke up with me on sat bcos she said it wasn't how it was, which I agree with but we could have tried to work it out. We first got together December 2012, then I broke up with her in April 2013, then we got back together a few months later. Then a few months later we broke up again then got back together again. We've had our ups and downs bcos she quit uni so had to live with her parents far away, then she went back to uni and I've been unemployed. I know this must sound awful but we really do love each and our sticking with it proved that. This time I'm not so sure. She says I'm her best friend and wants to remain friends but I can't dothat bcos it would be too hurtful. I don't hate her, just dislike her for how she dumped me and how many chances she had to do it earlier. We've talked a bit since sat, we used to talk everyday constantly. I said maybe it hasn't been the same bcos we've just come to the point were we can just be together without constant texting, that our lives our stressful atm and that maybe we took each other for granted. She texted back saying she didn't really know what I meant. How can she say that? I feel like she doesn't understand me anymore. I also asked if she liked the guy called ibby she started talking too (her best friend made them talk just as friends when we were dating, definitely not in a they should start dating way) and she said no, just as friends. She didn't call him a friend when we were dating and she always complained he was too weird. I know for a fact he has a crush on her. I've always
feared throughout our relationship that she'd outgrow me and now perhaps I'm right. She's way smarter than me and maybe needs the same sort of person. She's always told me she really loves me, gave me reasons why, but now I'm not so sure. I want to just ignire her and see how she takes that, but then she might go out with him. I just want us to be together,  which I know sounds sad. So there's my rant.  Thanks for reading and feeling sorry for me.
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Devlyn

Big hug! Sorry you're having a bad spell. Romance can be a real can of worms. Well, that's what I hear, anyway, I'm happily single. Sometimes I wish there was someone around, I imagine that's as close as I get to feeling what you are.

Hugs, Devlyn
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Elis

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 27, 2014, 05:54:02 PM
Big hug! Sorry you're having a bad spell. Romance can be a real can of worms. Well, that's what I hear, anyway, I'm happily single. Sometimes I wish there was someone around, I imagine that's as close as I get to feeling what you are.

Hugs, Devlyn

Thank you. You're definitely much better off staying happily single.
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Trillium

'hugs' my last ex GF from before I started transitioning is my best friend, I'm so glad it work out that way as I couldn't have found anyone who could be as loving and supportive who I already trust. I'm not saying this would necessarily be the same for you, I'm not sure what the dynamic between you two is like, but I do think someone you've been in an intimate relationship with will know you in a way platonic friends will never have the opportunity to see, so if she is serious about being friends I personally think its worth the risk of hurt in what you might find in terms of support out of it x
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Elis

Quote from: Trillium on November 27, 2014, 06:25:34 PM
'hugs' my last ex GF from before I started transitioning is my best friend, I'm so glad it work out that way as I couldn't have found anyone who could be as loving and supportive who I already trust. I'm not saying this would necessarily be the same for you, I'm not sure what the dynamic between you two is like, but I do think someone you've been in an intimate relationship with will know you in a way platonic friends will never have the opportunity to see, so if she is serious about being friends I personally think its worth the risk of hurt in what you might find in terms of support out of it x

Thanks but I had her full support when she was my gf and the first time we broke up and tried being friends we acted like nothing had happened, so that didn't quite work.
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Trillium

Humm, yes that doesn't sound like the best approach to it x
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