Told my therapist today...

[zordeles]

Well, I finally told my therapist today that I was transgendered, and that I knew if I didn't admit to it that I wasn't going to get past the brick wall. He basically said something along the lines of "no shock there. Your point being???" It was such a relief to say something after all this time and he wasn't in the least surprised. Next session we'll go over more if what can cover my needs and such. But today was just the basics. And he thanked me for my forthcoming. He knew it was hard to bring up. But damn, I feel so much better!!! :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)

[ChrissyChips]

YAY! Well done! I can imagine how you're feeling right now Onwards and upwards

[zordeles]

Thank you so much!!!  I'm supposed to be sleeping but I'm in such a cloud of relief that I'm wide awake!!! I want to enjoy this high while it lasts and the devil take tonight! [emoji4]

[adrian]

I'm glad you were able to come out to your therapist and that he is supportive!

Mine never batted an eyelid. I suspect that he knew before I did .

[ImagineKate]

SO wait, did you see a gender therapist or just a regular one?

Congrats btw. But I am confused, I thought they knew this from the outset. At least that's the way it's been with me with the two that I've seen. They pretty much understood I am transgender.

[zordeles]

A regular one. There's no gender specialists nearby. And I've been seeing him for several months for other issues. (Most of which are indirectly attached to being trans and hiding it). Apparently I haven't been hiding it as well as I'd thought or he's more receptive \ observant than I gave him credit for.  I wish I'd come forward sooner now.

[zordeles]

And Adrian, I was more surprised I spilled my guts than he was to hear I was transgendered.

[adrian]

And Adrian, I was more surprised I spilled my guts than he was to hear I was transgendered.

Haha, that's awesome! I hope that you can get the most out of your sessions with him!

[darkblade]

It's pretty cool when people (I guess especially your therapist) aren't surprised when you tell them, kinda validating. I don't remember how my therapist reacted, but it was only my third session with her and she started talking about something random and then I said, "well, I want to talk about why I actually started seeing you.."

[zordeles]

Lol!! Yeah, that's kinda how I did it too. And I sorta cheated by waiting til near the end if the session. It all worked out tho and we'll be addressing everything on Tue. The hard part is over. And I've felt sooooo much better all week than I have in ages. 

[zordeles]

<br />[/quote]<br />Haha, that's awesome! I hope that you can get the most out of your sessions with him!<br/>. I think it'll go pretty well. I was worried at first, but I think that was more my own paranoia than anything else.  I'm not sure how/what he'll be able to do for me, but there's no other options locally. If nothing else, I'll have a safe place to vent.

[Rachel]

Congratulations, that was  very difficult. I must feel so good right now

[zordeles]

Congratulations, that was  very difficult. I must feel so god right now

It does. I'm definitely more relaxed overall. [emoji41]

[Brenda E]

A regular one. There's no gender specialists nearby.

Every therapist has to start somewhere. Maybe you'll be his first trans client and he'll knock it out of the park and end up being able to offer help to other transgender people in the area.  If you "click" with your therapist and if he's willing to give it a go, then why not go through the process together?  (It's not rocket science...)

I'm not sure there's  I wish I'd come forward sooner now.

Don't we all!

[zordeles]

That's going to be the plan, at least for the time being.  He's definitely not prejudiced. I did a lot of hinting around before I spoke out. 

[PucksWaywardSon]

First time hearing yourself say it outloud is such a rush isn't it? Glad you've got someone so supportive to talk to!

[zordeles]

First time hearing yourself say it outloud is such a rush isn't it? Glad you've got someone so supportive to talk to!

It is! But now that its been almost a week and the next session is coming up, I'm getting a little nervous. Just what I need....panic attack. LOL

Bobbi

[adrian]

Bobbi, it's OK (and fairly normal) to be nervous. I'm still nervous sometimes, and I've been seeing my therapist for about 18 months. The good thing is, I have learned that once the session starts, the nervousness goes away.

[jeni]

I am so happy I came across this post just now. I have been seeing a therapist for a year and a half or so now, and haven't broached the topic at all. Actually, my seeing him hadn't had anything to do with gender issues, or so I thought/told myself. It had been in the back of my mind, and I think it's been holding me back more than I knew---I couldn't be open because *gasp* what if I accidentally told him about that?

I think tomorrow will be the day. I'm taking these feelings seriously for the first time in my life, so I think I have to. He's not a gender specialist, and I really don't know how he'll react. I don't think I've telegraphed anything at all. But what's the point in talking to him if I don't open up, right?

Glad you were able to take that step, and I hope I can be as strong.