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Utterly devastated

Started by Ms Grace, December 23, 2014, 10:29:06 PM

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Jenny07

I know you wanted the job and from what you say you were piped by someone else who was slightly better.
Upsetting yes, but has the world ended? Not that I last saw. It is looking grey though.

Look at it as their loss, not yours.
When I was looking a few years ago, many times I never even got to the interview as was screened out. It can be ruthless and does take a toll.
When I did get offers I had 3 all at the same time so had to choose. Typical.
Now I am viewed as a key person risk as I am that important so don't undervalue yourself.

Anyway it Christmas tomorrow so don't make me come around and turn that smile upside down.
Happy to chat always if you need someone to talk to.

Jen.
So long and thanks for all the fish
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Emmaline

Big hugs Grace!

Look, I was turned down a job as a video games arcade drone.  A few years later I was an art director at a video games company.

Maybe its the universe telling you to do more comics.
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Emjay

I'm sorry this one didn't work out for you Grace, but yeah like everyone else has said something will come up.  Probably something better too!

I'm with you in absolutely hating my current job, I look and apply places every day but being in a place when your not happy makes the waiting seem so much longer.  Hang in there, it'll work out!  (For both of us!)  :)

Have a wonderful, Merry Christmas!




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Ms Grace

Quote from: Jenny07 on December 24, 2014, 01:22:20 AM
Upsetting yes, but has the world ended? Not that I last saw.

No, I guess it isn't - that's reserved for 12 January where apparently (so I'm led to believe) my position is going to be made redundant...  :(

I suppose that'll solve my problem of hating my job though... :P

Quote from: Newgirl Dani on December 24, 2014, 12:58:36 AM
By the way, whos Skippy? And why is he singing?

Skippy the Bush Kangaroo



Don't know about singing, but Skippy sure does go 'tsk tsk' a lot!

Quote from: Emmaline on December 24, 2014, 01:44:39 AM
Maybe its the universe telling you to do more comics.

I'd rather the universe told me tomorrow night's Powerball numbers... ;)
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Cindy



Quote from: Newgirl Dani on December 24, 2014, 12:58:36 AM
By the way, whos Skippy? And why is he singing?

Skippy the Bush Kangaroo



Don't know about singing, but Skippy sure does go 'tsk tsk' a lot!

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Seriously Grace,don't fret it.

Relax and have a Christmas break, I'm around most of tomorrow so if you need to talk don't hesitate.
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JHeron

I'm sorry to hear about that :\ but I agree with Ms Cindy Ms Grace. All the employment books I was given when Ieft the service say you should always send a place a Thank You letter after an interview. It's supposively helps keep your resume in the running for future openings. I'm not sure it works but it's worth a shot.
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Arch

Damn, I'm sorry to hear this. I had my fingers crossed. Still, if you nailed the interview, that's a feather in your cap and well worth celebrating. If you did well this time, then you can do it again.

But definitely see if you can improve your references.
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Ms Grace

Yeah, I seriously didn't know they had to be my cheer squad too, but it makes sense that the job candidates with enthusiastic referees/references are going to stand a better chance of getting the job when it comes down to the split. Normally I'd just expect them to say "yes she's a great worker, dependable, etc" but clearly the other candidate's refs went the extra mile.

That's what really $#%&s me about all this at the moment - given we were neck and neck until the ref check I feel like blaming my refs when it obviously isn't their fault... but goddammit, WTF??
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Unrepentant

Don't take what happened personally, Ms Grace.
We cannot fault others for being "better" (putatively) than us. Or that others have better references than we do. But we can always improve ourselves, burnish our credentials and of course coach our references over a (deliciously incentivising) meal.
telling the truth is likely to make one less popular.
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V M

Very sorry to hear about the job Ms Grace, I was really hoping it would happen for you

Don't give up, something better is just around the corner

Hugs
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suzifrommd

I feel sorry for them. They missed out on a terrific employee.

Job hunting is a painful, energy-draining, soul-destroying process. Only the strong emerge unscathed.

Luckily, you are strong.

Stay strong, Grace.

Hugs.
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Mariah

To be safe you might want to have them up their enthusiasm about you just a bit Grace, but not to the point that it seems fake. Any little change you can make next time based on this experience couldn't hurt especially when it turns into a neck and neck situation because that is when they get picking at the smallest little differences. I agree the job you did in the interview you should be proud of. You did everything you could and should do plus as others have said a thank you letter after the fact will help keep the door open in the future. Weather it is the person who got the job who backs out or another opening that suddenly happens. One other note I remember Grace is that you said you tailored the interview to the company by studying up, but did you tweak the resume for the same reason to emphasis those skills and training you have that are bests for that company.
Quote from: Ms Grace on December 24, 2014, 03:40:35 AM
Yeah, I seriously didn't know they had to be my cheer squad too, but it makes sense that the job candidates with enthusiastic referees/references are going to stand a better chance of getting the job when it comes down to the split. Normally I'd just expect them to say "yes she's a great worker, dependable, etc" but clearly the other candidate's refs went the extra mile.

That's what really $#%&s me about all this at the moment - given we were neck and neck until the ref check I feel like blaming my refs when it obviously isn't their fault... but goddammit, WTF??
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Rachel

Hugs, sorry about the news

They lost a great opportunity.

Like others said, end it with polish.
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PPatrice

Quote from: Mariah2014 on December 24, 2014, 06:23:42 AM
To be safe you might want to have them up their enthusiasm about you just a bit Grace....

Or maybe/possibly consider finding at least one new reference.  Best wishes in the new year.
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Sabrina

I have faith everything will work out for you in the end. Best of luck.
- Sabrina

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Ellesmira the Duck

How lame, I don't think anyone has even called my references before >_< I'm sure you'll find work soon! Don't give up yet ^_^
Live a life with no regrets and be the person you know you were meant to be.

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Dee Marshall

I hate to bring this up, Grace, but we are who we are. Is there anyone you can trust to tell you if your position becomes un-redundant? 
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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Newgirl Dani

Grace,

First off thanks for resolving the skippy thing for me, I now have a new thing to internet  :)

Second, new beginnings are without a doubt difficult.  Just a glimpse into one of my own very big switching of career tracks:  I spent years gaining a license as a chemist, performing quality control & in process analytical testing in the petrochemical industry.  A lifelong dream to be in the field of science.  My dream was shattered once I had an inside view of certain environmental practices.  My demise in terms of career destruction came soon after.  At first I was devastated and felt lost, until I realized my true call was something 'entirely' different, helping people with addiction problems.  So it was back to school all over again to become a counselor in drug treatment, a move that clicked with me and I stayed until retirement.  One never knows from what direction an opportinity may present itself.   An old 60's saying....."keep on keepin on"    Dani 
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awilliams1701

It sucks I know. But back when I thought I was a straight guy, I've interviewed for two different companies that went extremely well and I didn't get the job.
The first one was 14ish years ago. I had 2 interviews and after the second one they introduced me to my new coworkers. Then I got a call a couple weeks later that I didn't get the job. I found out later on from someone I knew that worked there that they implemented a hiring freeze so no one got the job.
The second one was back in 2010. I felt I was exceptionally qualified for the job. The interview went extremely well. I met many of the people I would be working with. I seemed to be getting along with everyone including the interviewers (yes there were 2). Yet I never got a call back. I don't know what happened, however they told me they promised 4 other people interviews. I can only suspect they found someone else.
But now I have a job I like a great deal. Yes it has its issues, but for the most part everything is great here. You'll find one eventually.
Ashley
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