Utterly devastated

[Ms Grace]

Found out today I didn't get the job I went to an interview for on Monday. I really felt I had done well in the interview and they even called one of my referees (but not the other??) and now they tell me I was pipped at the post by someone just as good as me but whose referees apparently gave them such an amazing rap that they got the job instead. I know only one person can get the job but I feel seriously devastated by this. Have raged at thin air, have kicked inanimate objects around the apartment and have had a good bawl. Changes nothing of course. Just means I have to try harder and maybe get better referees.

[stephaniec]

just got to keep movin on . And what the heck are referee's. Is that an Australian thing.

[Mariah]

Sorry to hear that Grace. Hang in there and keep trying.

[Mariah]

Steph, I suspect it is the equivalent to what we call references here in the United States.

just got to keep movin on . And what the heck are referee's. Is that an Australian thing.

[Ms Grace]

Steph, I suspect it is the equivalent to what we call references here in the United States.

Yep.

[stephaniec]

I'll have to take a class in OZ

[immortal gypsy]

Sorry to hear that Grace

The right job for you is out there just try to stay positive in the meantime. It was there loss not to hire someone like you

Be careful of kicking the inanimate objects. Some of them have a tendency to hurt back

[mrs izzy]

Sorry it did not work out for you.

I always say there is a reason, just hard when we put our heart and souls into a interview.

Keep on keeping on.

Hugs

[AnonyMs]

I think you should try not to take it too seriously, and think of it as a numbers game instead.

There's no way you guarantee it. There's too many variable in getting a job, and some of them are nothing to do with you. Apply for lots of jobs and if they are all this close you'll get one of them. And the more you go to the better you'll be at interview technique, which will also increase your chances. Practice makes perfect.

Also follow up with the company and thank them for their time (or wherever sounds polite). If the other applicant doesn't get it at the last moment, it could make the difference between you getting it or not. I guess its good manners as well if you're into that sort of thing.

[Ms Grace]

Pretty sure I'll start crying or say something I'll regret if I call them now. Might wait until new year.

[Cindy]

Hugs Grace,

Yes wait a few days then send a nice letter, the last few people I've employed my first choice backed out after their employer found out and gave them a salary increase or permanency.

It ain't over until Skippy sings.

[ImagineKate]

Sorry to hear it, Grace. I have had that kind of disappointment and usually something better comes along. Don't give up!

[April_TO]

I am very sorry to hear that Ms. Grace - I believe that when a door closes another one opens up.
It only means you have something better in store for you.

Keep that chin up high and know that 2015 will start with a bang xoxo

Hugs!

[jeni]

Sorry to hear it, Grace. I know it's never as easy to do this as it is to say it, but try not to take it personally. It sounds like your assessment of the interview was right on, you did great, but it just didn't happen to work out this time. It happens to us all one way or another sometimes.

When you calm down, I think thanking them for the consideration would be a classy (and potentially helpful) move. Personally, I would write a letter to do this as Cindy suggests. It'll help keep the door open and maybe put you in their good (*ahem*) graces should another opportunity arise. Unless you've been in closer than usual contact, at least in the US I would think that a letter would be more customary than a phone call for that.

[Ms Grace]

Thanks everyone. One thing's for sure I'm doing a lot more crying than I ever used to be able to now I'm on HRT. I think I'm so disappointed by this outcome because the interview seemed to go really well, plus I hate my current job so much.

Hugs Grace,

Yes wait a few days then send a nice letter, the last few people I've employed my first choice backed out after their employer found out and gave them a salary increase or permanency.

It ain't over until Skippy sings.

That has crossed my mind but it's probably a slim chance...

[EmmaD]

Sorry to hear this, Grace.  Chin up and stay positive.

Cindy is right.  Often employers respond with money since it is cheaper than recruiting and training new staff.  You might also talk to your referees to see what the employers approach was.  In the past, I have always briefed my referees for each application after the initial interview.  This has to be straight after as prospective employers are sometimes really fast in contacting referees.  Fortunately, I haven't had to go through a full formal process too often.

I will be thinking of you and everyone else who is alone tomorrow (me included). Have a restful and peaceful Christmas Day.

Emma.

[Ms Grace]

Sadly I had called the refs just after the interview and only got their voicemail. Left a message but you never get long with those, just enough time for the basics. And yeah, one of the refs had been contacted within an hour of that. Apparently they never contacted the second one.

Also I see you've turned from a cat into a human! Nice! Looking great!

[EmmaD]

Yeah, the cat objected!  Since FFS (although the I am still healing), I thought I should go human.

[katrinaw]

So sorry to hear you bombed out, it's never personal... Been there so many times 

Maybe as you say reach out to them in the new year, maybe ask them why and a bit of a debrief ( some are happy to do that)... Anyway grab a glass of 2 of wine and chill...

FWIW I've been jobless for last 8 months, with lots of nothing back and sorry you got pipped, a late entry internal person got the role.

Enjoy the holidays 

L Katy

[Newgirl Dani]

So sorry Grace, maybe the best is what is meant for you, the best thats still on its way.  Tough though.

By the way, whos Skippy? And why is he singing?   Dani