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[NerissaGrace]

Hi everyone,
I'm Grace. I'm new here and just beginning my journey with the assistance of a gender therapist. I don't yet know how far transition will take me. One of my biggest concerns about RLE / full time is the fact that I am 6'4". I am trying to figure out whether this means I would never pass, even with every feminization procedure available to me. I'd be grateful to hear thoughts and experiences from others who have found themselves in a similar situation.

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[Sydney_NYC]

Hi everyone,
I'm Grace. I'm new here and just beginning my journey with the assistance of a gender therapist. I don't yet know how far transition will take me. One of my biggest concerns about RLE / full time is the fact that I am 6'4". I am trying to figure out whether this means I would never pass, even with every feminization procedure available to me. I'd be grateful to hear thoughts and experiences from others who have found themselves in a similar situation.

Welcome Grace, another tallette here. I'm 6'7" and have been full time since March 2014. I pass without any problems at all with my height. I do get looks, but then again I also did when I presented male. Tall is tall!!! I don't think about it anymore, but when I first went out dressed and full time, I would get stares and I was questioning whether I was passing or not even though I was always being called Ma'am. When I noticed that while sitting, I wasn't getting those same looks, I knew it was just my height that was getting me looks. Just today I was having dinner with my grandmother out and I overhead a conversion when I got up to go the the women's room. They were saying things like: "Wow, she must be well over 6 feet tall. She's beautiful."

Being tall you will stand out, but confidence goes a long way. I get more complements on my height than anything else and I also get hit on (right in front of my wife) all the time. Another thing that does happen on occasion is this. I'll walk up to a cashier and they are not looking up putting money away (or something) and will only see me out of the corner of their eye and see someone very tall and just assume male. They would say something like "I'll be right with you sir." or "May I help you sir....." and then lookup and say, "I'm so sorry ma'am, wow your tall." Many time apologizing profusely.

Also don't forget, there are cis women that are very tall. I know one my height and another that is 6'8".

[Ms Grace]

Hi Grace from another tall Grace - I'm 6'3". And yes, I really worried that my height would be a dead give away but honestly it has not been an issue. While I am yet to meet a genetic woman taller than me I know they exist and I've seen quite a few that have come very close. 99% of people never do a double take, they just take me on face value as a tall woman. As Sydney says a lot of it is about confidence. I realise I stand out and I don't try to hide that, there's no point.

[Jill F]

I was 6'4" in my boots tonight.  Nobody looked at me funny once during movie/dinner date night with my wife.  If you own it, it is yours. 

[Alana_Jane]

Check out Stana's famous females of height page:  https://sites.google.com/site/femulate/Home/being-tall-1#ffoh

We're all short compared to the tallest woman.  Sandy Allen is seven feet seven inches.

-Alana

[V M]

Hi   

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[Pikachu]

Tall girls are the most beautiful. All my relationships have been with girls over 6'. Don't worry about it, sis.

[Ms Grace]

Tall girls are the most beautiful.

You bet we are!
Amazons rule!!

[Kristinadiva]

I'm over 6 ft and was constantly wishing that I was shorter so I could blend in more, or "pass" better. From my experiences, yes people might pick you out from your height what they will notice is your confidence. If you own it and have your head held high it will show, same goes if your head is down staring at the ground the whole time. 

[JoanneB]

I'm the runt here at only 6ft w/o heels. I am also a dinosaur having grown up in an era of the average female height of 5'4". Being tall was also a major concern of mine. In my early 20's when I first experimented with transitioning the absolute last thing I wanted and needed was to stand out. I spent a childhood learning that standing out was NOT a good thing.

These days life is different thanks to a far far higher self esteem and loss of a lot of the shame and most of the guilt about being trans. As others said you just stand out because tall is tall. I am also thin so in a world of overweight women I stand out. A good female friend of mine was a runt in her family at 6ft tall. Her brothers towered over me.

Besides just loving it, I do girlie girl, always presenting as unambiguous female presentation as I can be it in a dress or jeans. In a world where women my age long ago gave up being or even looking like women I stand out. IT IS GREAT! What an ego booster it is getting looks from guys and the ocassional evil eye from women 

[Sabine]

I am 5 10 so not as tall, but I do find that I have to ensure I don't stoop. The tendency is to hunch a bit to hide height, but that makes things worse.  As others say, it's really about how you carry yourself and your confidence.

[NerissaGrace]

Wow... Thank you to all of the amazing women here for your encouraging and insightful responses. It does make me ever so slightly less terrified of where this is all heading   I am so grateful this place exists. Given that this forum already has a tall amazing Grace, I think I will go by both of my chosen names, Nerissa Grace, if that's OK.

Nerissa Grace

[BunnyBee]

Shoulders back, hold your head high, and like others said, own it.  Being tall doesn't make you not pass, it just draws attention, and if your presentaiton doesn't blend, then you won't pass cuz they looked you up and down, which shorter women deal with less.  50% of passing is confidence, you have to project it.  I am 6'2"ish, I get comments constantly about my height, but they are more like wow you're a tall lady, not wow you must be trans.

[PurpleCrown]

Just like you I'm 6'4". I had the same doubts when I started my RLE. On my first day of college I was wondering why people looked at my new shoes that much. I found out when I saw a tall girl on the train and was looking if she was that tall by herself or because she was wearing heels. My experience is that people don't tend to link tall women with being transgendered. You will stand out nonetheless, that's when Kristina's advice comes in. If you hold your head down people will want to know what's 'wrong' with you. When I don't pass I know it's because of my facial features, not my height. You're starting young, so I think you'll be just fine. When the time comes hold your head up high and enjoy finally going out as the girl you are.

One thing that can get annoying is when people say; "Wow, your so tall", like you've never heard that a single time in your life before. People asking if you do modeling and men saying your length is beautiful make up for that though.

[Alana_Jane]

Oh, and BTW I'm the same height as Venus Williams (6' 1").  I love to wear my heels. 

-Alana

[Ms Grace]

I had the same doubts when I started my RLE. On my first day of college I was wondering why people looked at my new shoes that much. I found out when I saw a tall girl on the train and was looking if she was that tall by herself or because she was wearing heels.

Ha! Yes, my experience exactly!

It's funny but I don't think I've had a single comment about my height in all of the last nine months of RLE. When I tell some people my height they seem surprised, that maybe they didn't think I was that tall. I am rather slender though so that may have something to do with it. Also I guess ever since I became tall as a kid I've been trying to find ways to make my height seem less intimidating.

[V M]

Shoulders back, hold your head high, and like others said, own it.  Being tall doesn't make you not pass, it just draws attention, and if your presentaiton doesn't blend, then you won't pass cuz they looked you up and down, which shorter women deal with less.  50% of passing is confidence, you have to project it.  I am 6'2"ish, I get comments constantly about my height, but they are more like wow you're a tall lady, not wow you must be trans.

Totally agree, I'm 6'2"ish also and apparently here in the West being a tall woman has something to do with a drink of water 

[Alana_Jane]

Totally agree, I'm 6'2"ish also and apparently here in the West being a tall woman has something to do with a drink of water 

A tall cool woman in a black dress??

[NerissaGrace]

Do you all feel you need to wear flats in public or are there cases where you feel heels can be appropriate? I am trying to imagine whether I would be doomed to a life of sensible shoes . Thank you for all of the comments about self-confidence - that is definitely going to be a journey for me in many respects. I'm 52 and a lot of this feels pretty disorienting.

Nerissa Grace