Do male to females ever get married to cis people

[Makenzie]

I ask because I plan on living stealth when I transition and teaching elementary school and marrying someday and all this being totally behind me.I wish I could get pregnant but it can't happen so that's that. Thanks

[Alana_Jane]

Do you know who Lynn Conway is? 
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/conway.html

-Alana

[TamarasWay]

Yes.  I am on my third marriage to a straight male.  Both the first and second marriage lasted longer than ten years and my current one is going on 15.  I have great kids and grandkids from these marriages.  So yes. Just do what you must and forget about "being trans".  "Trans" has no importance unless you make it so.

[Makenzie]

Are you out to them?

[Beverly]

I know of two post op women who met and married cis-men some years after they were post op. Neither is stealth so both husbands know.

[mark s]

I'm in a great relationship with a mtf (cis guy here). The relationship started when she still was pre-op and it is still going great (she's post-op now).

We are living together for some time now and I am planning to marry her when we are both ready for it college / steady work.

I'm straight so I needed to adjust to the fact that she had old parts (her way of describing it), but as she is the greatest for me I accepted her completely.

[Rotika]

I'm pre HRT MtF. Married to a cis woman that is very happy with me and my future transition. It works out just fine but you have to find the right person

[kelly_aus]

My last GF and I talked about getting married. She died before we could actually do anything about it.

Just be aware though, Makenzie, stealth is essentially a very thin farce these days.

[pretty pauline]

I'm married to my husband now since August 2010, he is a cis male and straight, he didn't know my history when we met, but knows my history now, has accepted it, now living as normal husband & wife.

[TamarasWay]

Are you out to them?

My first husband never knew.  My second learned about my history years after our divorce.  I told my current husband prior to our marriage and despite his having been married to other women before me, he still writes me love poems, sings to me of his love, and tells me I am the greatest woman he has ever known.  I treasure this man and his love like nothing else in this world.

Obviously YMMV but being trans has absolutely nothing to do with our lives, our love, or our relationships with others.   Calling stealth a 'thin farce' is a classic straw man argument in that it sets up a false narrative (stealth), and then strikes down a fabrication which has nothing to do with the reality lived by those whose medical history holds little relevance in their lives.

[kelly_aus]

Obviously YMMV but being trans has absolutely nothing to do with our lives, our love, or our relationships with others.   Calling stealth a 'thin farce' is a classic straw man argument in that it sets up a false narrative (stealth), and then strikes down a fabrication which has nothing to do with the reality lived by those whose medical history holds little relevance in their lives.

Ok, here is why the concept stealth is a farce..

If someone wants to know about your past, a surprising amount of info is publicly available.. Even more info is available to those with a little more access. I once spent some time discussing the idea of 'stealth' with a PI, who was also a former cop. He pointed out to me that even with full legal support, witness protection is full of data holes, let alone an individual forced to work the system publicly.. Sealed court records are not always sealed.. People can be bought - or simply release info for kicks..  His ending comment, "Give me 2 weeks and sufficient cash, I could trace a stealthed trans woman all the way back to her birth records."

Hell, here in Aus, an audit by the Tax Office would reveal you..

[stephaniec]

Personally I truly can't comprehend the idea of stealth, to me freedom is the most inherent concept a human can have, how possible can you be free trying to be stealth. Also people are with each other out of friendship and love that's really all that matters

[Ms Grace]

 
Folks, we don't want arguments about whether stealth is possible or not.

[pretty pauline]

I told my current husband prior to our marriage and despite his having been married to other women before me, he still writes me love poems, sings to me of his love, and tells me I am the greatest woman he has ever known.  I treasure this man and his love like nothing else in this world.

My situation very similar to yours, I told my husband when he propose marriage, when we got engaged. He is a completely straight guy, was with other women before me, he fully accepts me as the woman I am now.

Folks, we don't want arguments about whether stealth is possible or not.

Grace, thank you so much for that.

[Makenzie]

Everyone has freedom of speech,unless it gets hostile I don't really care but thanks Grace

[mrs izzy]

Everyone has freedom of speech,unless it gets hostile I don't really care but thanks Grace

Ms Grace comment was polite and given to get topic back on track.


Yes marriage of Cis is possible and happens.

I Think the heterosexual marriages are less then the gay/lesbian marriages.

Our marriage went through a hetro to lesbian and back to hetro. 

[Makenzie]

I know

[ImagineKate]

Yes transgender people get married to straight people. Some cis some trans.

[Zumbagirl]

I ask because I plan on living stealth when I transition and teaching elementary school and marrying someday and all this being totally behind me.I wish I could get pregnant but it can't happen so that's that. Thanks

It will never really be "all behind you". If you teach there will be background checks and your past will be discovered. If you get married and you really love the person you are with you will want to tell them for the sake of the relationship. That's not stealth, only compartmentalized stealth. In that case you will have to hope that you never run into a situation where the people who know and the people who do not know are never in the same room, or the gig will be up and it will go ugly on you fast.

Real honest to goodness stealth is really something quite and wholly different. It means eshewing anything that might possibly put you in the spotlight, unless you are ready for it. It means never telling anyone your past and living a quiet and uneventful life. The problem with disclosure is that if just one person knows then you will have to assume that everyone else does as well.

If you want to teach, and get married and have some quiet romantic life where you cook dinners for your hubby every night then you will have to deal with the slings and arrows that come with people in the public (meaning teaching children).

Lots of transwomen get married. It probably happens every day I am guessing.

[TamarasWay]

How and why is it that those who have never iived a quiet "normal" life, far away from anything even remotely trans are always so quick and adamant about everything "stealth".  Something that some of us just don't do.  How crazy is it to lecture others about something that you cannot even conceive of, much less understand?