well lets see.
in transition, we deal with hormones, counsling appointments, doctor visits, , then we worry about clohing, coming out, our family and jobs. we seek out like minded people, advise and wisdom, attend support groups and web site chats.
we practice how to walk, talk, eat, put on makeup, and how to set. remember girls, no more setting there with your legs spread apart at a business meeting.
then, one day. we emerge from some hospital, and all of that stuff, ends.
we learned it all, made the grade, and now .
? . . there in lies the holey crap moment.
the crossroads of transition.
personaly, I an glad that I continued counsling for another year.
the pivatol question i was asked in that year, translates out like this.
" prior to transition, you felt the gender issue. though your life had certain things that you enjoyed, or had a passion for, this issue of gender smothered the other pleasureable things in your life.
so a few years off, you fought the fight, and now, you have won. the fight is over. the transition wasnt a career, it was a step,
now, what do you plan to do? "
That question made me realise, that in my case, hunting, shooting sports, fishing, camping, were not the issue./ they had nothing to do with my transition, and had beed placed on hold so I could afford both the costs and time requirements of transition.
thats the point for me, that life began again.
realizing that trransition is a step, not a parking space or permanant home, is key, and as with any step, there should be a " next step" a place to move forward to, to continue on. my advise to anyone 'finishing the transition step', is to start at the most logical place, and thats back where you were before you took your 'time out' from life to transition.
remember what you did enjoy, and go back there. pick up where you left off.
girls can do what ever guys do, we hunt, fish, race and build cars, we are into sports, we tailgate at the football game, there are really no limits. dont steriotype yourself to panties, makeup, and transition. graduate to the next step of life, and it will never be boring.
