I think this thread might of been more aptly titled, "socalled friend" because after reading your post, it seames that is where the lager part of your hurt is comming from.
THAT'S A MAN exsperiences is somthing we should go into transition exspecting. But hearing it from a friend isn't. I can't give you advise on dealing with the "that's a man exsperiences except (its going to happen) but I focus on the people as people, and it the same sorts of people that call people fat, midget, freak, bitch, homo and anybody any insult relating to people that falls outside or their preconception a normal. And once I understood that 'that's a man" becomes just another thing un-desirable people say.
But the friend thing though that just gets me vexed. How can a person who calles themself a friend do this to you (I'm assuming they know how you feel about being called anything male?). I mean even if they didn't see you as a woman, a teue freind that know how you feel about it still wouldn't call you a man.
I know I have friends that can't fathom it and I know for them reffering to me as femail is uncomfatable, so I don't ask or exspect it from them. I just ask them not to call me male. So 'they" is the majority and considering I no longer answer to my old name many now just use my new name.
Point is, if your friend knows how being called a man makes you feel, they won't call you one, exspecially on perpose. What this person did was completelly uncarring, which in my book doeasnt place them in the friend catagory, why? Because friend care about each other.
I knid of went off on a rant myself their. In a lot of ways, this person (socalled friend) is worse then the complatte stranger saying it, even without listing off your fualts.
Just try and remember babe, just because somebody clasiffies a perticuler behavour, style or appearece as male/female its doesn't mean it actually is. Why? All the girls in my family play vedio games, and their a boy thing. Does my sister give games? No. Point is people are different and you just simply cannot catogories humanity for that very reason, and the moment people try tooN they will somewhere be causing somboody somewhere an in-justice.
Your alowed to be yourself. And if that means being hurt at being called male your entitled to it. A TRUE freind WILL acomodate your feelings by not doing somthing they know hurts you.
Try and focuse and the woman that asked why you didn't correct the older lady. She atleast tried to understand your perspective, as invasive as being asked if your a male or female feels. I find that situations like this one give me an opertunity to exsplain my situation to them. My usual responce when asked if I'm male or female is "unfortunatelly that depends on who you ask to be honest" that as open as I can be without forcing somthing they might not be awaer of into their ears lol.
Just trying to say, as long as that person wasn't rude to you in anyway, the exsperience wasn't all bad. Chin up girl.
