how do you deal with jerks-online dating or in general?

[EvelynSTL]

So when I heard about OKCupid rolling out their new gender options I figured it would be worth a shot. I am totally upfront about being trans in my profile, and for the most part, guys that respond are generally decent towards me...rather they're usually not this rude.

I know I probably shouldn't even bother responding, but part of me says "Hell no! Stand up for yourself!" Show them they can't get to me. I dunno, just looking for other people's experience.

[Del]

I reckon some idiots have nothing better to do than put others down.
Rather cowardly trying to start an argument on a website.
But then again, his opinion doesn't matter.

[Ms Grace]

Block. Report. 

[EvelynSTL]

Block. Report. 

Oh, I did that also.

[spooky]

Generally I'll block them at the first sign of trouble. I'll say something terrible to them just before, of course.

After his first message I would have blocked that guy. I'm not trying to suggest in any way that it's your fault that he was so terrible to you or that you did anything wrong at all. It's just my experience that these guys are nothing but a giant mental energy drain and it's best for a whole host of reasons to sever the tie ASAP.

I am extremely quick to block, no hesitation, no regrets. There will always be a dozen other guys that pop up to take his place, and maybe one or two of them will be worth the time.

Good luck, fellow Okcupid warrior. Don't take @$&# from anyone!


Edit: It's smart of you to report people, unfortunately I'm rarely able to stay well enough behaved to feel that doing so would benefit me. But here's one of my favorite interactions that I've had (yes, at this point it's nearly a sport):


Edit again because I'm bored. Here's a brief highlight reel of some of the more entertaining cases I've screenshotted along the way

[StrykerXIII]

You need to meet my gender-fluid friend Jeremi/Jessika. They've got the best ways to deal with these kinds of people I've ever seen. Always leaves me in stitches.

[Julia-Madrid]

Bah!  Some of the guys you find on these dating websites are just so messed up, heck, their own personalities are the best filter that we have.  3 messages and we're done.  Seriously, there's nothing we can do about the occasional idiot - I just ignore them. 

To be honest, from the limited internet dating I've tried since going full time, most people have been very courteous.  The ones that haven't been come into the messed-up bitter misogynist category and practically guarantee that you'll ignore them from their first message onwards.  I feel sorry for them - so many insecurities and self-hate that the only recourse they have is to externalise it to harm others.

BRING ON THE FROGS, GIRLS, and pucker up!  One of them is bound to be a prince. Kiss, kiss, kiss 

[EvelynSTL]

After his first message I would have blocked that guy. I'm not trying to suggest in any way that it's your fault that he was so terrible to you or that you did anything wrong at all. It's just my experience that these guys are nothing but a giant mental energy drain and it's best for a whole host of reasons to sever the tie ASAP.

Edit: It's smart of you to report people, unfortunately I'm rarely able to stay well enough behaved to feel that doing so would benefit me. But here's one of my favorite interactions that I've had (yes, at this point it's nearly a sport):

I know I probably should just block without comment. Honestly, I'm way to easy giving people the benefit of a doubt, like "are they even aware that they're being totally offensive?" Sometimes, yeah they really are that oblivious. OTOH, It's really good practice dealing with sexist a***oles that I never got growing up.

"Wow you're really good at your transgender."--- What does that even mean?   
"How big are you?"  "I am 5'9"--- I love that response 

Bah!  Some of the guys you find on these dating websites are just so messed up, heck, their own personalities are the best filter that we have.  3 messages and we're done.  Seriously, there's nothing we can do about the occasional idiot - I just ignore them.

Even worse is when they make it clear in their first message why they're single. I get the impression that some of these guys view women in general as nothing more than walking vaginas, and might be happier in the long run with a really nice fleshlight.