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Started by rachel89, February 23, 2015, 12:23:02 PM

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rachel89

Went out in public today. Today was my first time in public as a woman, not including the gay bar or trans support group meetings. I went to my therapist dressed in a short black skirt,  tan pantyhose, a blue top, a scarf, and was carrying a purse. I was a little nervous, and not passing yet but the appointment actually went fine. Afterwards, I had to fill up my car, and went into the gas station and with cash. I got some stares, and one woman smiled at  me (maybe a trans sister?), but no one made rude comments. I think it might have been more awkward for the gas station attendant than it was for me. Although the stares were uncomfortable, it felt like a relief go out in ppublic, even if it was only for a couple minutes. I think my fashion choices weren't really the best, but it still felt good to be myself.


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April Lee

Congratulations Rachel! Enjoy the moment!

I have often said that the first time I stepped outside my house was a far more important event than me starting HRT. I was absolutely terrified, but felt liberated at the same time.
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CHELLIE

Quote from: rachel89 on February 23, 2015, 12:23:02 PM
Went out in public today. Today was my first time in public as a woman, not including the gay bar or trans support group meetings. I went to my therapist dressed in a short black skirt,  tan pantyhose, a blue top, a scarf, and was carrying a purse. I was a little nervous, and not passing yet but the appointment actually went fine. Afterwards, I had to fill up my car, and went into the gas station and with cash. I got some stares, and one woman smiled at  me (maybe a trans sister?), but no one made rude comments. I think it might have been more awkward for the gas station attendant than it was for me. Although the stares were uncomfortable, it felt like a relief go out in ppublic, even if it was only for a couple minutes. I think my fashion choices weren't really the best, but it still felt good to be myself.

Thats great that you got out em femme, when you go out in public, look at what all the other women are dressed in, dont over dress, or you bring attention to yourself, and easy on the make up, little is more with make up,  a confident attitude in your predominate Gender is what is required. Take care, Chellie 
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Julia-Madrid

Congratulations Rachel.  These are such important steps, even if they are terrifying.  Actually, for any sane person going out as you did, it pretty much needs to be terrifying  :D 

It's all part of growing a thick skin and getting used to being The Girl.  It gets easier and people also start to pay less attention.  Then, when you least expect it, you'll get some attention from some dude asking you out on a date!  Wait - you'll see...

Keep it low key, but that doesn't mean trying to go unnoticed.  Just be who you are and you'll have fun.

Hugs
Julia
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Tori

I am SO proud of you.

Being out is so liberating, and the public is typically WAY nicer than you imagine.

My first time out alone, I was pulled over by a police officer for having a broken tail light and an expired registration. Oops. He was sweet though and let me off with a warning.


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Ashley1212

Congrats, Rachel
Glad to hear your first time out went well.
Ashley
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April_TO

OMG - congratulations!!!!

You are braver than me. My first time out was in the evening for a dinner.
I didn't get any stares at all but it was also night time :)

Hugs

April
Nothing ventured nothing gained
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ImagineKate

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Kellam

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"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Kaydee

Congratulation, Rachael.   I'm looking forward to my first real time out as well.   It must feel great to get beyond that step out the door.
Aimee





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Kacie Lynne

Congrats that is a big step, i remember my first time out, it took me
20 mins to get the nerve to step out of the car and now i dont go
anywhere unless i go as kacey
I have chosen to be happy because it is good for my health




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JenJen2011

Congrats and forget the stares. We tend to automatically assume stares mean we are being clocked but stares could mean anything. Maybe they thought your outfit was cute. Maybe they thought you looked beautiful. Or maybe they are just nosey people who like to stare at other people. Just continue and enjoy life. And if you do get any rude remarks, just look them straight in the eye and smile. Don't let any of that BS get to you. Be happy and be yourself!  :)
"You have one life to live so live it right"
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Jessie Ann

Congrats!!!  I kinda looked like I was going to a funeral for my first therapy session but it felt so good to be out as me.  Really the only person we have to impress as was are starting out is ourselves in order to build some confidence.   For my last session I had to go in guy mode and my therapist asked me why I was in drag!   ;D
That actually made me laugh because I guess I now dress in drag to go to work and get to dress normal when I get home at night  :o 

So look at it that way - it was your first time going out dressed normal  ;)
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katiej

#13
Yay for Rachel!  :)

I remember the sheer terror my first time out.  I was in another city, staying in a hotel.  Leaving my room was really difficult and getting on the elevator took courage, but getting off the elevator and stepping out into a crowded lobby was one of the most difficult things I've ever done.  But within 10 minutes I realized tgat nobody seemed to notice me.  That's when the relief and euphoria kicked in!

"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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rachel89

I wasn't passing, and even if the the guy staring at me was totally checking me out, I'm not into ->-bleeped-<-s, and he wasn't exactly Mr. Cute and handsome anyways.


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rachel89

I felt like a princess in the outfit I wore, even if I stood out. I am afraid that passing in my area would require me to dress like a redneck (something I refuse to do even in drab). I don't even mind standing out, as long as I am passable as a girl who has somewhat eccentric tastes in fashion.


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rachel89

I was still nervous enough that I didn't wear a coat (no women's coats yet) and didn't notice that it was only 8 degrees Fahrenheit outside.


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Sheila Grace

Congratulations, Rachel. I am happy that you had that feeling of "being home". Keep it up, it makes all of us stronger. Hugs, Sheila :angel:
I am an older MTF in transition. Currently negotiating this time of life with my SO of many years. I am PT and on HRT.



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Sabrina

This is great to hear! Just wait until you start getting a larger wardrobe. Mixing and matching different outfits is kind of fun.
- Sabrina

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