nervous and coming out tonight.

[christinaMitchell]

Hey, my name is Christina I'm and I decided i'm going to tell my parents tonight for better or for worse. They're very good loving parents. But I'm really nervous, they came home from shopping and i was helping putting food away . I dropped a tub of ice cream, tripped twice, dropped two bags of peas and managed to hit a cup 8 feet across the room  but I hope it goes well.

[Laura_7]

I'd say try to relax...
take a few deep breaths...
imagine a few angels holding your hand

Wish you luck and a good outcome

[CB]

good luck Christina!   

Just be gentle and honest, give them time and there;s every chance they be supportive!

Hugs from UK

[Lady Smith]

Yes relax and take your time and try not to rush what you need to say.  I'll offer up a quiet prayer or two in the hope that all will be well.

[christinaMitchell]

OK wish me luck! Here's my final draft of my letter:

Dear mom and dad, I know what you're about to read may be hard but this is how I've felt since about eleven.


   When I was about eleven I realized I wasn't like other boys, I wondered "why am I not a girl?", at first I thought these feelings were wrong, so I wore a mask to shield me from them, to make me appear a boy (sometimes acting over masculine). I was afraid, afraid of social rejection, I just wanted to fit in, I thought maybe these feelings would go away, maybe it was just a phase.

   The mask worked well but as I grew older there were still the thoughts of a girl and it got harder to contain these feelings, all these questions but no answers, for years I felt depressed and angry because I thought I was weird and that I needed to keep to myself and close out the world. I never truly felt like I was in the right body, like I had the right software but the wrong hardware. I realize at this point you might have all sorts of questions and feelings so after you finish reading this it would be best to talk, I just needed to explain that I don't feel right in this body.

   I felt depressed until about February 2015 when I found www.susans.org, a website for transgender teens/adults to talk about their life, you may recall me asking about your opinion of transgender people, your answer made me so happy, but I was still worried, "What if they don't understand?", "What if they don't like my decisions?", so many what ifs. I've kept these feelings bottled up for about five years, so many painful, awkward, different, angry, sad, and depressing feelings. The reason I am always so angry is because I am in pain and confusion with my body. One day I hope to see a gender therapist. I am just as confused about this as you are, I just hope that you can accept me for who I am.


Your loving Child.

[Rachel]

Good luck. Remember to breath.

[antonia]

Hugs!

Best of luck, I'm sure your parents will give you a big hug and be very supportive

[christinaMitchell]

Thanks i will keep you all informed

[christinaMitchell]

Well, i told my mum and gave her my letter to read and went to bed. She is reading it with my dad. When I told her she said, "oh ok" in a very happy tone.

[Laurie K]

im praying for you sweety

[ChiGirl]

Good luck and hugs, Christina!

[christinaMitchell]

I'm so happy  my parents understand that I identify as female and we talked for a good 40 minutes. They said that they love me for who I am   , well stress levels back down to 0

[christinaMitchell]

Oh right and my mum whom's best subject was english and my dad who is extremely grammar intensive both said I did great on the letter 

[CB]

Thats great !     

[katrinaw]

Lovely outcome Christina, so happy for you... Continue talking with them.

Hugs

L Katy

[adrian]

Hey, I'm happy it went so well! I dare say that if your parents already have the "nerve" to comment on the letter style rather than exclusively focusing on the content, that's a good sign

[antonia]

Awesome, I wish all parents were like yours

[Melizza]

Hola Christina,

Congratulations !! I am happy for you , it took my parents almost two years to come to terms with my changes, I still remember the first time I told them.

As mentioned above, now you need to be prepared to take the next steps, this will be an amazing journey with many ups and downs, you will cry and you will laugh, but at the end you will realize that it was worth it .

Good luck in your journey !!

[christinaMitchell]

thanks for sticking around to hear about me