Quote from: Jessica Merriman on June 23, 2015, 09:18:29 PM
Stealth topics tend to crack me up a little. Those who are young and passable think they can fool the world and no one will ever know. You are just setting yourself up for a huge fall though. All it takes is one accident where you have a pelvic X ray, one promotion that requires an in depth background check, a DNA test for whatever reason, a legal incident from the past to catch up with you and so much more. I have a medical and Law Enforcement background and know just how much information is assimilated from birth to death and the ways that information can be revealed, leaked or posted. Do you really want to fool yourselves thinking no one will ever know then lose everything when the truth is revealed one way or another? Living silently without fanfare is one thing, but the days of true stealth are long gone. Technology has not only taken privacy away, but guarantees stealth, true stealth is long gone. I personally do not want to lose everything up to my life by not living true period. You can be silent and not volunteer information, but give a 13 year old a Hot Pocket, Mountain Dew and a laptop for 30 minutes or less and your stealth is gone. If you are transgender, your will always be transgender. There is no button on any keyboard for new identity and a fresh start.
I think you're wrong.
I came out at 14, we moved states not long after & started blockers, HRT at 18 & SRS at 21.
My extended family are fantastic, its not big, but its close.
Outside of my family, there are 2 people who know.
My 2 very best friends, both of whom I trust to the end of the earth.
I do not use the same email accounts, last name (I have my mothers maiden name for one side).
I use social media, however I have 2 facebook accounts, both are set to very private and only started the second one when I had a trans person add me and comment on a few pics.
I don't share many photos, mainly due to I still see "guy" in my face, its something I don't believe will ever leave me.
Yes a 13yo could crack my case, but you know what, in order for that to happen you'll need to piss someone off pretty bad.
I've long felt "gutless" about trans issues when brought up in my day to day life. in fact I'm quite ashamed at the way I've kept myself back from it all over the last few years, I've even posted on here about how one of my friends is transphobic and it hurts that I don't say anything for fear of being outted.
The reason I told my 2 closest friends was because one asked why was I so shy with little things, yet so out going with others, one thought I had been abused when I was younger and we had a very D&M.