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I'm not sure If I'm genderqueer.

Started by snackattack, April 24, 2015, 12:02:28 AM

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snackattack

Hi.

I'm three weeks into my Hormone Replacement Therapy going as a transwoman.
I'm very much happy now. The only thing that is bothering me right now is the type of woman I want to be.
There are girly girls and tomboy butch girls.

I always felt that I fit in the middle of the gender spectrum, but not as a biological male, which I was three weeks ago (I mean, by taking HRT, I have modified my body as no longer male, still have male part and male chromosomes, but not male, but as a transwoman).

I never wore skirts, dresses. When I'm in girl mode, it is pinks, cute stuff. When I'm in boy mode, it is video game characters, scifi stuff. Gender bathrooms, If on a certain day, let say I did not cross dress, I would use the mens room and most of the time in public I use the womens room when I'm fully cross dressed that is with makeup. At work I use the mens room since I transitioned at work and still work. I'm happy with female secondary characteristics like boobs (which I'm growing now), smooth skin, fat distribution. I'm happy with my boy part received at birth. I hate boy secondary characteristics like Facial hair, muscles, deep voice.

My cross dressing involves, mostly girls clothes, a mixture of boy stuff sometimes, makeup, nail color, sneakers. snap back caps sometimes. My wig which I pigtail it. I'm waiting for my hair to grow out in a few months.

Not sure, maybe I'm a tomboy transgirl, is there such a thing.
or Genderqueer?

Hormonewise, my brain is happy with my body as it feels that it is now in the middle of the spectrum.

I'm not crazy am I?
HRT Official Transition Date: Sun, April 5th 2015.
Name: Jazlyn.
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Laura_7

Well there is another thread on some people changing orientation somewhat on hrt...

so I'd say simply take your time...
do a few things you like and you feel comfortable with...
with clothing like with makeup it might be advisable to simply not overdo it...

and by the way if you identify as woman its not crossdressing...

hugs

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suzifrommd

Quote from: snackattack on April 24, 2015, 12:02:28 AM

Not sure, maybe I'm a tomboy transgirl, is there such a thing.

Most of the trans women I know IRL fit this description. I know trans women who drive big trucks, prefer rewiring houses to decorating them, and go target shooting.

Doesn't make them any less women.

As trans women, we're entitled to be whatever kind of women we are. Make sense?
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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fennec-fox

You don't need to worry about "what kind of woman" you want to be. Most women don't totally fit into the stereotypes of "girly girl" or "tomboy/butch" anyway. I'd say you should wear what you want without worrying about how "feminine" or "masculine" your clothes and accessories are considered. What matters is that you wear what you want because you like it, not just to try to fit into some stereotype.

As for feeling like you might be in the middle of the gender spectrum, that's perfectly fine! If you feel like you're a woman, that's fine. If you feel like you're sometimes a woman and sometimes a man, that's fine too. If you feel like you're somewhere in between or something else entirely, that's also fine. The important thing is taking time to figure out what gender identity you're most comfortable with, whether it's female, genderqueer, bigender, genderfluid, etc.
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