New here - coming out to wife tonight -nervous

[ChiGirl]

Hi, Dana.  That's so wonderful to hear.  It's amazing how lifting a secret can do wonders for a relationship.  Hugs!

[DanaDane]

Hi, Dana.  That's so wonderful to hear.  It's amazing how lifting a secret can do wonders for a relationship.  Hugs!

It's pretty freaking amazing.

Can't wait for 4/20. 

[megan7777]

you are so lucky....

[DanaDane]

Everyday.  Everyway.  I am blessed. 

[synesthetic]

aw I'm so happy for you ^_^

[Laurie K]

Im so happy for you  it reaaly helps when you have someone in your corner

[megan7777]

so happy for you, you are lucky to hate a mate and partner who is supportive! buy any new clothes, or shoes lately?   

[Aazhie]

Just want to say it's amazing she is so supportive.  It can be tough for loved ones as they might have had inklings but as humans are not real mind readers, for many it is often a shock and it can be easy to be upset and say hurtful things from either side.  My parents are pretty old fashioned but my dad knew a FTM gal from his work pretty well and knew a lot more than my mom did when I came out.  Mom was freaked out about surgery because she has had to take care of so many family members during big health issue procedures... back, heart, neck and all kinds of crazy things that her sisters and parents needed, so I can totally see why any parent/spouse or other family member would be leery of surgical procedures.  I made it very clear I didn't need more than top surgery and hormones and I think that helped a lot.  HRT is a big undertaking in itself and I hope you can ease into things well. 

    I am glad you have support and I hope things continue to be as good as they are and you and your family can remain communicative and supportive of one another. 

[DanaDane]

Thanks everyone.  5 more days to go.   

[katrinaw]

Dana, Your story and acceptance is very uplifting to me, I pray that mine turns out half way as yours has... so happy for you 

L Katy

[JenniferGreen]

I wish you a happy life together I am working at getting the wife on board myself we have agreed that we will both do our best to get through this as a couple .We have one huge hurdle in that she was brought up in an Irish Catholic area on the falls road in Belfast one of the most bigoted area in the world.but she is making great strides to come to terms with my transitioning.compromises and honesty are key factors in getting through Thais

I grew up on the other side of the falls road in the Protestant community.  I know how bigoted they were and still are on both sides.  However I was able to see how wrong that was and have now only got catholic friends back home.  Belfast has changed and I am sure you wife will have changed too.  Belfast now has its first gay Mayor and one of the old IRA bars at the bottom of the falls road is an LGBT bar.  You wife may take some time just the same as we have.  Count yourself lucky that you did not get caught by the British army and the RUC at a check point while dressed as a girl.  I did and it was not a great experience.  My best friend back home knows I am trans and is totally cool with it.  Says the priest at mass always wears a dress so it's no bit deal.!!

[ToniB]

Thanks JenniferGreen We have found A lovely Anglo/Catholic Church near us and They have accepted us into their fold I can even get Communion in my feminine clothing .That has been a big help for us .my wife feels better with her faith still supported.And hopefully seing that a priest can accept and support Me that It is OK for her too as well .The whole congregation came up to us and welcomed us and said we are very welcome to join them all

[JenniferGreen]

Wow Anita. That's great to have found a church that accepts you. That's what I call a true Christian church.  Just about love, faith and acceptance.  With churches like that the faith will survive.  Unlike some of the trans phobic congregations we hear about in the news who seem to have missed the point entirely.  Still, none of us are perfect though. Peace be with you. Jx

[ToniB]

And also with You and everybody else on this wonderful site

Anita

[JenniferGreen]

Your welcome. X


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[Mariah]

Anita that is fantastic news. I'm glad hear you found a place of worship and their allowing to take communion as your authentic self. Congrats. Hugs
Mariah

[ToniB]

Thank You Mariah having a place You can follow your believes without prejudice is a wonderful release . we had started to lose faith with the Catholic church .but finding this Anglo/Catholic church was a real treat 

Anita