Which corrective feminizing surgery would you go for first?

[Blush]

A year ago I had sexual reassignment surgery. It's changed my life in such amazing ways, but there have been a time or two where my being female hasn't really sat in with some folks, and I've wished I could wear a sign that says, "I have a vagina!"

It's made me wonder, is there one surgery in particular that really thrusts you into femininity and yells that you are female moreso than others? It'd be wonderful to see what people are thinking, and hopefully it might be a resource for people planning procedures! Base this both off of your own personal situation (what would make YOU most feminine, and what might make Jane Doe the most feminine).

There are of course the stereotypes that women have boobs! If you don't have an Adam's apple you're a girl! Your voice is so girly, there's no way you're a guy! But remember there can be only "first" procedure, the most bang for your buck!

[Dodie]

If one can afford it.. Full FFS is number one on my list..

[Blush]

If one can afford it.. Full FFS is number one on my list..

I figured that might be the interesting part, if someone can't afford it (personally I can't), which route would they go first for a single FFS procedure? Would they even go the facial route first? Perhaps assuming they don't want to wait to save up for everything...

I'm at work and I was looking at one of my female collegues (I promise I'm not weird...), and it's so difficult to see which specific area or aspect might make a woman more feminine!

[katiej]

For me, the first two steps will be hair transplants to fill in the temples and a lip lift.  Both are relatively minor, but needed right away.  I'm only a few months into HRT, so I figure these are the best first steps for me and then I can reevaluate down the road and adjust for what hormones haven't.

[Girl Beyond Doubt]

I've had SRS first, after 12 months of HRT.
It was clear that most people would never see my new anatomy, but I needed to be comfortable with myself.

[stephaniec]

the only thing I'm shooting for is GRS

[Mariah]

Same here GRS.

the only thing I'm shooting for is GRS

[Cheska]

Tracheal shave for me.

[OCAnne]

1st - SRS – Fix my birth defect, straight girl looking for a straight man, tired of people looking at my crotch and wondering if I have underwent SRS (women are the worst at doing this!) and SEX! SEX! SEX!

2nd – HRT – Want to look pretty (No you don't have to be on HRT to undergo SRS)

3rd - VOICE    Is it expensive?

4th – Breast Augmentation – Just a C please, did I mention straight girl looking for a straight man?

[awilliams1701]

Agreed. Some days its worse than others. Not to mention I don't like spirolactone and won't need it anymore.

I've had SRS first, after 12 months of HRT.
It was clear that most people would never see my new anatomy, but I needed to be comfortable with myself.

[mmmmm]

You would be amazed how many transitioners come to a conclusion that transition isn't the right thing for them, after a year or two or four living "full-time" and being on hormones. What seems like an overwhelming change and each small step brings a new excitement, often turns into reality, which is living a life as an unpassable trans woman. This isn't a situation for everybody. And not everybody has a chance to afford a full-FFS, which could cost from $20-30,000 with reputable surgeon... and even that alone might not be enough. Too many realize a few years later that they need to be really passable, not just somewhat passable, in order to find a decent job, and to be able to find a life partner, and to be able to be happy. And because hormones and attitude can only do so much, and they don't have a money for expensive surgeries, many realize how much easier it was before. Waiting with SRS until you lived at least for few years (not just one for old wpath' sake) "full-time" is a smart thing. Better be late than sorry.

[Emjay]

I had to pick "other" because I think FFS is my major issue presently and more than just one particular feature.  Mostly I would like to do something about my nose and forehead.

Just going by the choices listed, I suppose I've already made my first choice as I'm 70-ish hours into electrolysis so far (with no end in sight.....  meh).

[iKate]

I'm surprised no one said voice.

Voice is the most important thing to me as I love to talk (especially in front of people), I'm very sociable and transition has made me even more outgoing. Not to mention that the voice often overrides everything else.

[Emjay]

I'm surprised no one said voice.

Voice is the most important thing to me as I love to talk (especially in front of people), I'm very sociable and transition has made me even more outgoing. Not to mention that the voice often overrides everything else.

My voice was pretty high on my list about six months ago but my inability to find a speech therapist/vocal coach in my area willing to work with me has kind of stopped that one.  I'm just doing the best I can with what I have right now and (I think) I'm getting better, just from responses I get in public.

I had an appointment with a place here in Indy last fall, the therapist there wouldn't agree to see me until I had vocal surgery (at the same place) and the method they use is one I've heard mixed reviews on so I'm hesitant to move forward with them.

[mac1]

With "GRS" or "penectomy and castration" you could always offer to show them if they questioned you.

I don't have any use or desire for that thing.

[LeaP]

FFS. 

The title versus the phrasing in the OP is interesting.  FFS is a feminizing surgery by definition. And I would look to the feminizing effect.  It never occurred to me to think much of "looking feminine" per se.  In other words, I am seeking an effect that well let me blend in, not one that will make me better looking.

I've done a fair amount of reading on voice surgeries and have heard samples of before and after speech and wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot pole.  There is one surgery that has some promise, but it involves (among other things) relocating the larynx back and up. While the results can be good, it introduces the possibility of losing your voice completely and permanently.  I haven't been at all impressed with what I have heard from the various vocal cord shortening techniques, plus they don't always last.

[Auroramarianna]

Rhinoplasty and SRS. I hate my nose. I could use some forehead work as well but nose is my priority. Then SRS.  I hate my ew ugh yuck.

[Dodie]

You would be amazed how many transitioners come to a conclusion that transition isn't the right thing for them, after a year or two or four living "full-time" and being on hormones. What seems like an overwhelming change and each small step brings a new excitement, often turns into reality, which is living a life as an unpassable trans woman. This isn't a situation for everybody. And not everybody has a chance to afford a full-FFS, which could cost from $20-30,000 with reputable surgeon... and even that alone might not be enough. Too many realize a few years later that they need to be really passable, not just somewhat passable, in order to find a decent job, and to be able to find a life partner, and to be able to be happy. And because hormones and attitude can only do so much, and they don't have a money for expensive surgeries, many realize how much easier it was before. Waiting with SRS until you lived at least for few years (not just one for old wpath' sake) "full-time" is a smart thing. Better be late than sorry.

I think the one year is good enough.. seriously.. by then you know.  I have been full time 5 months.. and admit being a woman is a pain.  But love it.. I did have FFS after 12 months of HRt.. not sure that was smart.. I can put my hair up in a hat, not wear makeup and still not pass as a guy.. so I am screwed if I change my mind.  I think FFS if one can afford should not be done before 12 months of therapy..  I am having GRS after one year full time and can't wait.. its what I wanted all my life.. but I know its not right for everyone.. transition is hard.. so damn hard.

[awilliams1701]

I might change later, but right now I don't care about passing. Its all about being comfortable in my own skin. I'm almost there, but SRS is the only way to truly fix that for me. I do have to say I LOVE estrogen. Its done more for me than I ever imagined.

[Eva]

Well for me its just going in order of what bothers me the most... While not "surgery", facial hair removal just seems logical to get started on before anything else including even HRT...

I did VFS first because I found that no matter how good I looked or felt if I couldn't talk like a woman whats the point if my voice constantly gets me read as "male" My voice WAS very deep

3 months later I did full FFS to correct masculine bone features that will never change without surgery no matter how long on HRT and adding in some rejuvenation at the same time was my obvious next step to relieve GD... While it was very expensive its done a lot to make my life easier and and more fulfilling, no regrets there 

Next will be SRS even though Im sure hair restoration and body contouring would probably do a lot for my GD as well...

It just makes more sense to give the HRT (13 months now) more time to hopefully work on giving me the curves I want before body work... Same for breast augmentation, that will be last if at all necessary and Im thinking it might not be...

I agree with the thought that SRS is probably better to wait for if you have other issues that can be surgically fixed keeping you from really "passing" or assimilating into life as a woman for real... But I also respect anyones choice to do whatever the hell they want to with their body and I do get the $$$ issue.... In my mind though Id want to do everything I could to give myself a chance at an easier life as a woman before SRS and possibly living to regret it only because the rest of the world didn't see me as a woman....