Were you or are you a sissy?

[Tessa James]

What a Sissy!!  that intended insult was often a mixed bag for me.  The answer in my heart was YES! but before accepting myself I was too ready to deny and respond with anger.

If you are transitioning now, or beyond all that, how does that five letter word feel to you now??   

I own it and think to myself, "well duh, of course I am a sissy girl, but don't push me to show you how butch I can be either!!  You might not like my bite."

You??

[Yenneffer]

What a Sissy!!  that intended insult was often a mixed bag for me.  The answer in my heart was YES! but before accepting myself I was too ready to deny and respond with anger.

If you are transitioning now, or beyond all that, how does that five letter word feel to you now??   

I own it and think to myself, "well duh, of course I am a sissy girl, but don't push me to show you how butch I can be either!!  You might not like my bite.

You??

Oh yes I'm sissy I wear Lolita dresses with Mary Jane shoes hehE oh I love being called it

[Tessa James]

Oh yes I'm sissy I wear Lolita dresses with Mary Jane shoes hehE oh I love being called it

LOL, and just want to hug you!

[Yenneffer]

LOL, and just want to hug you!

Hehe hugs 😊

[suzifrommd]

Yes, I'm a total sissy. I'm pretty much the opposite of tough, but I don't really like that it's a value judgment. You can be a sissy and a wonderful person, so I'm troubled by the extent that it's considered an insult.

[Tessa James]

Yes, I'm a total sissy. I'm pretty much the opposite of tough, but I don't really like that it's a value judgment. You can be a sissy and a wonderful person, so I'm troubled by the extent that it's considered an insult.

And you're totally a great sister to us Suzi!  Yes the value added aspect, hmmm.  I wonder if it is not going to be like the term Queer....now back by popular demand and ownership;-)

[enigmaticrorschach]

nope, not a sissy one bit. though i am very very clumsy and i do tend to get hurt a lot whether intentionally or unintentionally lol

[Marly]

I heard that so many times growing up...and a few as an adult even. But in the proper context, it feels good 
Looking back now, yes I was..and am...very much a sissy

[Tessa James]

I heard that so many times growing up...and a few as an adult even. But in the proper context, it feels good 
Looking back now, yes I was..and am...very much a sissy

We can own it Girl!

[Tessa James]

nope, not a sissy one bit. though i am very very clumsy and i do tend to get hurt a lot whether intentionally or unintentionally lol

Huh, coordination?  And then i do recall those special playground remarks for "throwing like a sissy girl"  Who wants to catch footballs anyway?

Intentional hurting is a concern tho.....

[Rejennyrated]

Nope - big bad bold brave practical and down to earth pragmatist... I might even have made a halfway decent male if it hadn't been for the intense dislike of the bodily attributes which that state required.

Then again I do also have a strong soft and empathetic nurturing side... so all in all I'm more of a strong heroine/wise woman/earth mother than any sort of sissy.

( "Sissy" by the way seems to me just as much an insult for a woman as it would be for a man! Anyone who had said that of me in the past undoubtedly would only have lived just long enough to fully regret their error )

[Dena]

I am like a M&M. tough on the outside and sissy on the inside.

[Tessa James]

Nope - big bad bold practical and down to earth pragmatist... I might even have made a halfway decent male if it hadn't been for the intense dislike of the bodily attributes which that state required.

Then again I do also have a strong soft and empathetic nurturing side... so all in all I'm more of a strong wise woman/earth mother than any sort of sissy.

( "Sissy" by the way seems to me just as much an insult for a woman as it would be for a man! Anyone who had said that of me in the past undoubtedly would only have lived just long enough to fully regret their error )

One of my sisters correctly took me to task when I said "i throw like a girl"  She reminded me of some young superstar girls who can throw a baseball like 100 mph.  RJ I want you by my side for some of those darker alleys.

[Jacqueline]

I think I was called that a good deal.

I learned to not be one. I could throw a football, baseball any of those spheroid things. But I was never a star.

Deep down I liked the idea but hated the feelings it brought up. Kind of like Dena, I had a tough as nails exterior for years(considered cold and uncaring). However, I find when I do cry, it is about people or stories I don't know. I think that is just conditioning.

I don't think I will ever be a frilly girl. However, I hope to be a pragmatic girl who loves to coordinate and some day may grow to become a woman. Considering my age that is a ridiculous thing to write but I think it is accurate.

So, long answer is yes, I was. Deep inside I am but I don't know if any will ever see me as such.

With warmth,

Joanna

[Kellam]

I was never called a sissy but I wouldn't have minded, inwardly at least. I suppose it is one of those derogatory words we get to own should we want it. Queer has more power to my mind. As to weather I am a sissy...yeah a bit. I will always have that badass tomboy side that doesn't mind dirt and cuts but I get a bunch of those cuts from plain awkward clumsiness. So I guess I am on the sissy side of the tomboy spectrum.

Also, has anyone else heard the word sissy used to refer to pee? As in "Mommy, hurry up and open the door, I need to make sissy!"

[enigmaticrorschach]

Huh, coordination?  And then i do recall those special playground remarks for "throwing like a sissy girl"  Who wants to catch footballs anyway?

Intentional hurting is a concern tho.....

no worries. i've been clean for 2 months now. its just accidently poking my finger at work because i move to fast. yes, i have terrible coordination. with the start of HRT, it got worse xD tripping over air. however i do throw like a sissy but i am a solid tomboy xD

[Tessa James]

Considering my age that is a ridiculous thing to write but I think it is accurate.

..and some day may grow to become woman.  So, long answer is yes, I was. Deep inside I am but I don't know if any will ever see me as such.

With warmth,

Joanna

Oh Joanna, there is nothing at all ridiculous about our shared aspirations regardless of age.  I respect your self talk but consider myself a 64 yo girl as the term that best embodies our growth as women.  Warm hugs back at ya.

[big kim]

No though my headmaster called me in when I was 15 and said I was a Nancy boy. The week before the deputy head called me a yob, they were both right!

[Swayallday]

my girlfriends pretty much dominated me

maybe

way too much 

They usually got angry with "you girly girl!!!"
:$ oops.

[Tessa James]

No though my headmaster called me in when I was 15 and said I was a Nancy boy. The week before the deputy head called me a yob, they were both right!

Love the unfamiliar cultural lessons from around the globe. One of the best parts of this place, thanks

But yob?  yobby yobber???  Nancy we get.