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Does neg or tragic news about transgender people affect your view of transition

Started by stephaniec, June 24, 2015, 08:16:30 PM

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Does news of the trans community affect your decision to transition

most definitely yes
4 (12.5%)
some what , but transitioning is too important
8 (25%)
not really life in general can be tragic
6 (18.8%)
Absolutely not
14 (43.8%)
or if not transitioning does it affect your perception of yourself as trans
0 (0%)

Total Members Voted: 32

Kaydee

I voted absolutely not because once I realized who I was supposed to be and faced down the shame issues, there was nothing that was going to stop me from moving forward.

However, I sometimes wonder if all the good news concerning trans persons didn't allow me to finally find my long-repressed self.  Could it just be coincidence that I am transitioning at a time of such publicity about transgender issues?
Aimee





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Tessa James

Quote from: Kaydee on June 25, 2015, 07:34:32 PM
I voted absolutely not because once I realized who I was supposed to be and faced down the shame issues, there was nothing that was going to stop me from moving forward.

However, I sometimes wonder if all the good news concerning trans persons didn't allow me to finally find my long-repressed self.  Could it just be coincidence that I am transitioning at a time of such publicity about transgender issues?

Good questions!  While I want to be well informed about the real world situation there is no doubt that positive role models, effective therapists and medical options were big influences for my coming out.  In contrast we know the world can be harsh and indifferent but who wants to give in and be ruled by the dark side?  Face down the shame--i like that!
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
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Zoetrope

I like a challenge, and I like excitement. Transitioning has given me ample of both :~)

I was never going to be a victim. I went into this determined to be a success. So far that attitude is paying off ...
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Kaydee

Quote from: Zoetrope on June 26, 2015, 03:41:45 AM
I like a challenge, and I like excitement. Transitioning has given me ample of both :~)

I was never going to be a victim. I went into this determined to be a success. So far that attitude is paying off ...

I agree with this.  for so long I lived a meaningless existence.  Now I have a goal to reach, a me to be.   And I am enjoying the daily challenges to pass, to find myself, to just become the woman I should have been for the last 50 years.   I have always enjoyed learning, experimenting with new things and there has been plenty of both over the last year or so.

There is a possibility of rejection or violence.   But whenever you do anything worth while there is a chance of failure.   I wish the world was more accepting, but I can't change the world.  But I can change me.
Aimee





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Riley Skye

All of the bad stuff makes me nervous to tell people I'm trans plus I've been through so much and it's scary

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iKate

I'm all out of .....s to give so no. I'm me and I'm happy. Society can go jump in a lake if they don't like me for who I am. Luckily I've had no issues really so far with the public that I couldn't handle.
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JoanneB

One persons celebration is another's tragedy.

Case in point, I've been specifically avoiding even looking at this thread in the aftermath of all the Caitlyn Jenner wall to wall media coverage. With pretty much of that wall being painted in the colors of trans people being freaks and the total sensationalizing and exploitation of the average rube and their total misunderstanding of that it is to be trans.

Just made me want to crawl under a rock and die... the faster the better

Call it internalized transphobia, shame, knowing wayyyy to well what the average rube thinks since I spent 50 years trying to blend in as one... call it what you like. Yes, we have come a tremendous way in the past 40 years. Light-years in the past 20. Yet the nearest galaxy is still many generations away.

My two experiments when I was in my early 20's with transitioning stopped largely in part to the fact I stood out, I was a target of "open" ridicule, and worse. I had spent a good part of the 20 years prior to that being a target for far less. I wasn't about to volunteer for more. All the negative coverage only reinforced what I already believed, the hate only went underground in the PC world.

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stephaniec

No denying it's been pretty bad, even my own view of trans growing up was the hooker on the corner .
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