fitness vs shape, balancing it

[jaybutterfly]

Alright so now that Im out to most of my family, Im  working on my appearance a bit more, and Im looking to stay mostly androgynous for a while until I decide if I want to persue transitioning with hormones.

I'd like some help with getting my waistline a bit more feminine looking. i dont carry a great deal of fat or muscle (though I have a lot of definition now), but I am quite broad shouldered.

I absolutely love fitness training. I swim, I take part in powerlifting (though Im focused on back, core and leg work as opposed to arms) and I train in martial arts like karate, BJJ and chinese arts as well.

I've adjusted my diet so Im not on huge amounts of carbs and I only eat lean protein so I stay more compact and dont bulk up or anything. Any other fitness nuts here? I could use some advise, since I trying to minimize my negative feels about how i look