Reflex response to hearing former name...

[Obfuskatie]

I did that too early on at Starbucks - they asked for my name and without thinking I blurted out <male name>. Mortified at what I'd just done I then had to stand there wait for them to call out <male name> again and do the walk of shame to the counter to get my drink before I could make a fast departure 

Lol, I don't worry about it in the moment usually. Even when I've been misgendered in public I respond by rolling my eyes, sighing and thinning my lips. Later I can have the mini-panic-attack and inventory what I did or didn't do, realize it's probably because I got lazy with my voice and kick myself internally for a while. But in the moment, since it truly is their mistake, an offended icy response usually causes them to bend over backwards to apologize.


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- Katie
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[Puffery]

I live in a small community and many people tell me cause they knew me for so long they have the right to say "he" and use my old name. I've taken up practice to ignore the name entirely as if it doesn't even exist its my defense mechanism. however when I hear the name in my mind my attention focuses to the source but my body action is to block it out. I guess for me it helps that there are a lot of people around me with the same name, So Ive been conditioned to not quickly react to it for a long time.